As a Christian wife, when should I submit to my husband?

Question

In everything? In somethings? In just the big issues?

Answer 1

Hi,
The short answer? In everything. The bible is clear.
But, there are a few things understood in this:
1.) The husband represents Christ, the wife represents the Church, both have their roles.
2.) Paul is talking about a "Christian couple"...not a Christian wife submitting to a Non-Christian husband.

So, you've both got roles that dovetail, and when you are doing what you should, everything works perfectly. The husband doesn't take advantage of the wifes submission, and the wife doesn't subvert the husband's authority.

I hope this helps,
bob

Answer 2

Submit to your husband as unto the Lord. I look at that scripture and realize that if my husband told me to shop lift, I don't have to submit to and do that because my Lord tells me not to steal. If my husband got drunk and told me I was worthless, stupid, etc.; I don't have to submit and receive that as myself. My Lord calls me of value, special, beautiful, etc.

Also, in sex, the husbands body is the wifes and the wifes body is the husbands and not to deny each other.

The husband has the final say in the big things. In all big decisions there should be agreement between both. The husband is also suppose to submit to the wife. Ephesians 5.

In little things (that aren't against God), that the wife doesn't agree with, wife should go along with the husband (head of the home).

Answer 3

Always submit- when you submit to Him you are submitting to God- NOW wait a minute- I take that back- the thing is, if your husbands asks you to lie for him- then of course you would not right? So I guess if it is submitting to him but causing you to sin, no you wouldn't. I am not sure- but I know personally I will not lie for my husband, but then he would not ask me to. I also think that if a husband tells his wife she cannot go to church- that is wrong- unless he knows something happening at the church that is unbiblical or something. But if it is a good church they go to and he decides he wants to stay home and tells her she has to stay home, I think that is wrong because he is hindering her from spending time with the Lord. But you should submit to him in decesions about many things. And not to be contentious-

Answer 4

I hope the women's lib'ers don't beat you up for your question.

Hold onto your hat, this is going to be a long answer!

Ephesians 5:21-24
21 and be subject to one another in the fear of Christ. 22 Wives, be subject to your own husbands, as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ also is the head of the church, He Himself being the Savior of the body. 24 But as the church is subject to Christ, so also the wives ought to be to their husbands in everything.

The metaphor is between Christ and the church, it is an organic connection as the connection between the head and the body is organic. So the marriage should also be organic. As the head controls the body, so the husband is to love his wife.

Ephesians 5:28-32
28 So husbands ought also to love their own wives as their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself; 29 for no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ also does the church, 30 because we are members of His body. 31 For this cause a man shall leave his father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife; and the two shall become one flesh. 32 This mystery is great; but I am speaking with reference to Christ and the church.

The easy command for men is to obey; the hard command is to love. "Love" does not come natural to most men, competition does. That is one reason women are better at relationships than men are. Men learn obedience as a method of cooperation, like the coach and the team.

Women learn love as a cooperative method of getting the best for everyone, obedience is not the issue, but mutual satisfaction; everyone wins. "Obedience" is the hard thing for women, because it does not logically fit the win-win mind set of women.

Society has set up a win-lose scenario where the obedient one is the loser while the winner is the decision maker. This view is not biblical, but of the world. The Christian mind set is to follow the mind of Christ (Phil 2:5), and Galatians 2:20 "I am crucified with Christ: nevertheless I live; yet not I, but Christ liveth in me: and the life which I now live in the flesh I live by the faith of the Son of God, who loved me, and gave himself for me."

The husband who loves his wife the way he is supposed to would say, "I want what is best for you, no matter what it costs me." That is what Jesus did for the church, His bride. For a wife to obey that husband is not an obligation but a pleasure.

Answer 5

As he submits himself to The Lord.
Read Ephesians 5

Answer 6

Eph 5:22 says 22Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. 23For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.

But, lets be really different and read the rest of the subject :)

25Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26to make her holy, cleansing[b] her by the washing with water through the word, 27and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church— 30for we are members of his body. 31"For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh."[c] 32This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. 33However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.

If your husband is doing for you what he is told to do, love you as Christ loves the Church, tend to you, care for you, feed you, presenting you blameless, radiant, without spot or wrinkle... then YES, you should submit to him. I dont see how obeying and respecting someone who treats you that way would be a very bad thing.

Answer 7

I don't want a women that submits to me. I want a life partner who wants to be with me and realizes that maybe I might have some good ideas about things to. We can do everything together. We make love because we both want to.
We take each others desires and feelings into account when making decisions. We are together not because she has to be here but because she wants to be here.
Love that is forced or coerced isn't love it is rape. Wether your married or not.

Answer 8

The christian bible says that a christian wife is ONLY to submit to her husband ONLY AS he
is loving his wife as Jesus loved the Church !!

If he is loving you SelfLESSly, then Yes, submit to him. Ephesians chapter 5.

Answer 9

If both are true to their faith, follow the Spirit and listen, neither will be a slave. Both will be submitted to each other. He being guided by the spirit would never lead you into a wrong situation God didn't want.

Answer 10

Christian couples talk about a subject and together make a decision. In Christianity men and women are equal.