I was at the mall and there were 2 people in wheelchairs, I think they were married and they were leaving and having trouble opening the doors so I asked them if they needed any help and the woman said no and gave me a mean look. Why are people mean to you when you are trying to be nice?
2006-11-28 09:58:40 · 19 answers · asked by b 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
There are ways to get even with them, you know.
Try putting a broom handle through the spokes on their wheels and see how they like it.
Or you can just tip them over.
2006-11-28 11:58:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
Well, as someone who is legally blind, I think I can help you, here. I know you had the best of intentions. It isn't fair that they took this out on you- but they've probably had some bad experiences in the past.
Many of us with disabilities are offered help when we don't need it, or are offered it in a condescending way when we do. People often assume we can't do anything for ourselves. You might just have happened to be the eighty gazillionth person that day to offer to do something for them that they feel they can do themselves. Sure, it would save effort to let you help out, but if it's been a nonstop thing all day with people offering to do things for them that they can do easily, well, their anger at the other people who had offered to "help you out with that little parcel there, sweetie" all day would be redirected at you.
It's not just with helpful offers- a lot of non disabled people think they're witty, and may be trying to be friendly, but when I get asked for the tenth time in a given day where my glasses are, or do I know about this really cool new miracle operation (that I knew about ten years ago and isn't for my condition) I lose it. They might have had a day like that.
All of this is an explanation and not an excuse for rudeness. Don't let them sour you. If you'e consistently nice and you run into them again- you might even get an apology.
2006-11-28 13:16:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
ONE REASON SHE GOT ANGRY COULD BE BECAUSE: She doesn't like anyone talking to her husband (not to generalize anyone but) my friend works with disabled individuals and when she was in training there was a married couple and everyone warned her not to speak to the husband, no matter what, do not even say hello, because the wife would go ballistic. (jealous).
OR TWO:
You could have just held the door and let them pass without asking leaving them a little since of pride that you care to help, without even acknowledging that they needed it (by asking do you want me to hold the door)
Does that make sense?
2006-11-28 17:11:10 · answer #3 · answered by Eri-the Answer Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For the same reasons non-disabled people are rude. I've met people dying of cancer who are the nicest most normal people ever and someone who has a limp with the biggest chip on their shoulder. It takes all types to make the world go 'round.
2006-11-28 12:00:26 · answer #4 · answered by notblueatall 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it might not have anything to do with that at all, they may have just gotten into a fight or just had a bad day. To jump to the conclusion they were bitter because of their disability is sterotyping. However some people can be bitter and it's due to the lack of respect they get from other people who dont understand their situation.
2006-11-28 10:02:23 · answer #5 · answered by Steveo 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Bc they hate their lives. And they probably look upon unneccesary offers of assistance as people trying to strip them of their independence.
I actually had a homeless person be really rude to me to when I gave him food instead of money. The unfortunate can be bastards just like the rest of us...they are people, too...
2006-11-28 18:40:11 · answer #6 · answered by chelleedub 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh i know. Another rude disability people are DEAF people. One day at work someone kept calling over and over and over. I thought it was a telemarketer, but one time I answered they were like WAIT im a TTY operator! I never knew what that was until that day. The girl wound up coming in and getting what she wanted and boy she gave me the dirtiest look Ive ever gotten from anyone as I rung her up.
Deaf people are the rudest!
2006-11-28 10:09:07 · answer #7 · answered by ►►BLOGGER◄◄ 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Stop being so sensitive. Are you sure she gave you a 'mean' look? I have ppl get intimidated or upset with me bc they think I am giving them a hard look or not all chipper and smiles all the time. It is just the way I am and I am not rude or trying to be. Don't jump to conclusions.
2006-11-28 10:07:36 · answer #8 · answered by jesus_is_my_prozac 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If you could see they were having trouble with the door why did you ask? She was probably being facetious..kinda like saying, "You reckon I need help, duh!" Next time do not ask, just do what you need to in order to be helpful.
Usually people who need help get frustrated when so many pass them by and it causes anger. KInda like asking someone who fell from the 2nd story window, "are you hurt?" Of course they are hurt.
2006-11-28 11:26:00 · answer #9 · answered by DA R 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They could be hurt, depressed, in pain, misjudged by others, or just had a bad day, or perhaps the couple were just arguing. I wouldn't want to be in their shoes, but even then I would try to sympathize and wouldn't take it personally if they were rude to you. Who really knows their situation in life?
2006-11-28 10:08:12 · answer #10 · answered by Born Valentine's Day 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a man give me hell once for opening a door for him, so I am likewise confused? Maybe letting the door slam in their faces in the polite thing to do.
2006-11-28 10:07:16 · answer #11 · answered by somebody cares 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋