should i tell my parents?

Question

my dad is a big dude and doesnt really want me to date, my mom feels the same way. but i dont care so i have a boyfriend. i love him a ton. i dont really know what to do. i could do two things which one should i do? 1. not care about my boyfriends saftey and tell my parents. most likely getting grounded but maybe ill be able to go out with him once they get used to it (even though i doubt it)
2. not tell my parents, stay safe but not be able to go out to the movies or anything and risk it getting back to them. what should i do please help!

P.S. they dont want me to date until im a senior in high school im not joking

Answer 1

While it totally sucks........your parents have their reasons for not wanting you to date, yet. You are, obviously, young..... I am guessing freshman.......maybe a sophmore in high school.

Approach this with a mature perspective. Go to your parents
and tell them that you have met a boy that you really like.........
DON'T call him your boyfriend!!! Tell them that you would like
to hang out with him, but you would like their permission.
Ask to have him over to watch movies. 1) your parents will be there so they can "supervise" without worrying. 2) This shows
them that you are responsible and that you are growing up.

You dad may be a big guy, but he isnt going to hurt your boyfriend
cuz then he would go to jail.

If they say no........dont throw a fit.......simply say "ok, I understand". At least, that way you know you tried and this
shows your maturity. It may not help now, but it will help in the long run

Good luck

Answer 2

being honest w/ your parents is a very important thing.. you didn't mention how old you are, so that makes a difference. Think of it in their shoes...they only want what is best for you & to protect you. You should talk to them in a respectful, adult-like way...when they don't agree DO NOT throw a fit and whine or yell & say things you don't mean..you'll never get what you want that way! Tell your side of the story, but don't expect them to just agree and let you do whatever you want, try to make a compromise... such as... only double dates or group outings when boys are involved and promise not to get too serious. be responsible and earn their respect and their trust. if you continue to hide things and lie to them, eventually the will bust you and hen you'll be up the creek w/o a paddle! If you play according to their rules now you will build the trust they need to have in you and in turn you will earn more freedom. Just remember that they love you and boyfriends will come and go but they are your family forever! GOODLUCK!

Answer 3

Give your parents a chance, be honest. Ask their opinion. Dad will never want you to date, just the way dads are.... Don't sneak out, be open and ask you mom and dad if you could go to the movies with him. Show them you are responsible. The more responsible you are, the better chance they will let you do more. You didn't say how old you are, but your parents must know dating will be coming eventually. Good luck!

P.S. Boyfriends will come and go, mom and dad will be there forever!

Answer 4

You are talking about two issues here. The one that concerns me most is that you talk about safety. Are either of your parents violent or abusive? Would your father be abusive or violent towards your boyfriend?
Also you do not mention your age or the age of your boyfriend and that would definately influence my answer to the next part. I will assume that you are under 18 and so is your boyfriend and that the two of you are the same age. If you have a boyfriend when your parents do not allow you to date you should respect them and try to see it from their point of view. I would think the best approach would be to talk to your parents about the dating issue. Tell them you have feelings for a boy and that you would like to have their permission to date him. It is much better than telling them that you have been dating this boy behind their back as that would certainly upset them.
This is what I would recommend ONLY if your parents are not abusive ( since you spoke of safety concerns )

Answer 5

Well, until you live on your own you are under their control. Like it or not. To see you say that you don't care what your parents say really makes me question the whole family. Why don't you care? And even if you don't you still should follow their rules. But you won't, and one day they'll find out and they won't trust you ever again. Then you'll be back here saying that your parents don't trust you and asking what you should do. Let me save you that step. Stop lying to them, start caring what they think! They are the only parents you're going to have. Is this boy worth losing your parents over? I hope so, because that's probably what's going to happy. Hope you're happy with him.

Answer 6

If you can't respect your parents then how can you be respected! Acting as you say you do, really, shows how immature you are. You are living under you parents roof! They are paying for your food, clothing, housing and other stuff!
SHOW THEM YOUR RESPECT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
They are making decisions based on your actions. You have proved that they can not trust you! You have shown yourself to be a liar! You are cheating! You are behaving like the spoiled little brat!
As for your your "boyfriend" I hope he wises up before someone gets hurt! But, then again he might be only in it for one thing! Which you will gladly give up because YOU THINK that you are in love!
Go to your parents, tell them what you have done before it is too late. Ask most humbly for their forgiveness and mercy!
You do care or you would not have asked this question. Find your way back to yourself and your family. Then grow up and learn about yourself. Learn to love yourself before you try to love someone else. You are looking for something without knowing what it really is!

Answer 7

It has been my experience as a teenager to never go against your parents wishes. For your safety and boyfriend end the relationship now and wait til your parents say it's okay to date. Believe it or not parents do sometimes know what's best.

Answer 8

how old are you first? if you are like a pre teen or a teen how about telling your parents there is this guy you like and you dont want to hide things from them so could they find a middle ground with you. my daughter did this with me and i said if i go out on the town maybe he could come along with us. no kissing or touching or that kind of crap but to focus on school more than him cause this can be a huge distration for a girls future. otherwise you will feel guilty about hiding it. but sometimes you got to do what you got to do. weigh the pros and cons on this one.

Answer 9

If you tell your parents, he might break your boyfriends legs!! lol And you won't be able to go anywhere with him...if you don't say anything, you'll get caught anyway some how. You should break it off and wait until you're allowed to date. How old are you anyway?

Answer 10

If you are under aged I do not recommend having a boyfriend at all. You are already talking about sneaking around, which is probably why your parents do not want you dating until you are an adult.