Me and me now ex-broke up recently. No bad things happen, just want to focus on school and work right now. He wants us to still be friend, (we were friends for 3 years b4 we actually dated) and I was cool with that. But how do you do that if you are still in love with the person? It's not like you can throw away all the things you shared and go back to "hey buddy ole pal". Help.
2006-11-28 09:45:56 · 9 answers · asked by bridget c 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He broke up with me, He's not sure what he wants right now. He states the love is still there but he not ready. So I let him go, because that's what he wanted.
2006-11-28 10:04:25 · update #1
well guess what I've been there i was very much in love with this guy i thought he was my dream come true well he was to me and now i am to him but it took time and patience to get there but were finally there and were soon to be married and I'm glad it happened the way it did cause it was a learning experience for him especially CZ he had replaced me with a bag hoe and when i say that i mean it she slept w/every one they knew that were friends of theres and did it when they were together when he'd go to work well anyways she ways no good and i knew that so i gave him his space but let him know that id be there for him cuz i was his friend &i loved &cared for him like no other and he knew that cause i was his shoulder 2 cry on and ear to listen to him so he knew the love i had i always reminded him of the love i had for him so he'd never forget and he didnt cause now hes the man i wanted and alot more he's the best it took some pain & suffering for both of us but well worth it and i dont worry about him doing that again he learned its not whats on the outside its whats on the inside that really matters the most especially after that hollow hoe .remember good things come to those who wait.
2006-11-28 10:14:23 · answer #1 · answered by GINA B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yah, there really is no going back to being friends. You both want to be friends in hopes that one day you will have the chance
to be together again. If you broke up......that probably wont happen. Focusing on school & work is very important, but
not a good reason to end a real relationship.
Did he break up with you?? Did you break up with him??
Either way these excuses sound like well........excuses!!
Saying "lets still be friends" is an easy let down. Plus its a cop out. Its a way to keep someone in your life, but not really have them in your life.
Sorry, I know this isnt what you want to hear and this is just my opinion, but I have learned this the hard way......personal experience.
Good luck with whatever you decide.
2006-11-28 17:51:05 · answer #2 · answered by Trish 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey girl i have the same problem, you can't erase what happened but it's hard to be buddy buddy i should know but if you want to be together than look for signs that showed up before you went out the first time. if there is none then give it some time and look again like me and if there is none then I'm sorry but give it up it won't happen again and try to be friends and if you can't then pretend that you never met him and he will feel alone and come rolling back, just try,
2006-11-28 17:54:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should because if you even love him, tell him but make it sound in like a friendship way.I have a guy friend and i dated him for 1 1/2 years. Then we broke up we are still friends and i tell him i love and miss him, but i know that our relationship cant work because we founf out that we dont like eachother in that way.
2006-11-28 17:50:26 · answer #4 · answered by xOxOkissesxOxO 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need time and space. Although you are trying to be friends, if you are still in love with the person, this will not work so well. Somehow you need to soften your desire to get over the person, and the best way is time and space. I like the no contact rule - no emails, no phone calls, no texting, no IMing, nothing...even no talking about him. It's going cold turkey but really it's the best. Continuing contact when one person is not in love is like reopening a healed wound over and over again. It hurts over and over again.
2006-11-28 17:48:54 · answer #5 · answered by Shanny 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that happend to me too, it took me 4 years to realise i couldnt love him anymore and it wont work, so i just moved on. and now its a little different than what we had before we dated but were now i accept him as a good friend who i know has got my back!
2006-11-28 17:50:23 · answer #6 · answered by dogluvbaby! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what are the differences you noticed since you broke up and just became friends, I can't think of that many differences... that may be an easier way to look at it.
2006-11-28 17:48:52 · answer #7 · answered by LittleLady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him know how you feel let him know that there s always love for him. try to move on try and talk to other people or you cant move on real quik try not to call him so much
2006-11-28 17:51:10 · answer #8 · answered by boricua4756 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
who cares, i dont love i just sleep with the hos
2006-11-28 17:47:54 · answer #9 · answered by Robert Haydock 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋