When I was younger I had a huge crush on this guy who then started talking to my sister, he seemed in love with her, but she didn't really like him... so she's been leading him on for like 4yrs. then recently he's backed off. We went out to dinner the other day and had a really good time but my sister got really upset and said that I hurt her by trying to date him especially because they have a past of 4ys together. They were never officially boyfriend/ girlfriend b/c she said she didn’t like him, like that, so they spoke on the phone and occasionally dated for 4yrs, and always as a double date with me and a guy friend of ours but I never stopped loving him.And now he realized that he was chasing the wrong sister and he wants to be with me. I don't want to lose my sister over a guy but I love this guy and I did like him first, should I just abandon this chance to be happy, or should I go out with him regardless of how my sister feels because she didn't care about how I felt 4yrs ago
2006-11-28 09:44:47 · 17 answers · asked by moks 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You would actually choose a man over family?
You need help.
2006-11-28 09:46:50 · answer #1 · answered by Trollhair 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would give it some time, your sister will most likely not care if you date him after some time has passed. She'll likely have a new "bo" and will wish you well. May be it's too soon for her to see him affectionately with anyone and more hurtful if it's you. Like a phantom betrayal. Time is your friend. If it's waited 4 yr.s, a few weeks or months won't change destiny. She may not have been thinking of you the last 4 yrs. She has to care about him even after a "break-up". Be big, respectful and he can be yours It makes you more attractive to him as well.
2006-11-28 09:54:09 · answer #2 · answered by dellalouise 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I Would Go With The Guy Since She Was Never Officially With Him.
Explain Your Feelings To Her ANd If She Doesn't Understand Thats Her Problem
2006-11-28 09:49:24 · answer #3 · answered by Paradise * 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Truthfully...I think u should go w/ the dude cuse no matter what...ur sister will still love u cuse deep down inside...she's still ur sister.! No matter whether she hates u 4 the rest of ur life she shouldn't have a grudge on u! I don't think u should have 2 suffer any longer...all the pain she gave u 4 all these yrs... Now I don't want u 2 have a grudge against her or ne thing but if ne thing.., u should thank her actually! lol if u need some more support...I am there if u need me... jasmynsullivan@yahoo.com w/b Tell me wat happens o.k.! I wish u the best!
2006-11-28 09:58:11 · answer #4 · answered by Jasmyn S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
**** your sister. She can't go around getting herself done up and expect you to stay away. In this case I say go for it. She didn't honor your feelings why should you. She is your sister she will get over it. Sounds like she just want you to be miserable. Why else would she take a guy she knew you were interested in, then admit she don't really like him , and tell you not to date him cause she dated him? Go figure!
2006-11-28 10:15:35 · answer #5 · answered by Wordsmith 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some of these people just get things so seriously bass ackwards don't they? Your sister is the player...not the guy. My little sister used to think it was a fun little game to steal my boyfriends...bat her eyelashes, flip her long hair and shake her little booty. Nah, date him. She'll yell and scream and act like you're a mean idiot but it will be mostly an act of her petty little ego being hurt.
2006-11-28 10:01:01 · answer #6 · answered by smecky809042003 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I stole my best friend's crush and she went out with him after I did. It really pissed me off for a while and caused some fights but I got over it. Were back to being best friends like we used to be. Its fine if you date him as long as you know hes worth it. Why pass up a chance to find "the one".
2006-11-28 09:50:46 · answer #7 · answered by That One Chick 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did your sister know how you felt about this guy when she started dating him?
You should have talked to your sister first before you started going out with her ex. At least you then you could have told her how you feel and what you were going to do.
Only YOU know if this guy is worth betraying your sister. Still you should talk to your sister and try to work this out before it gets worse.
2006-11-28 09:50:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Choose the guy, nothing wrong than being Sloppy Seconds. Remember, you sleep with the guy you're also sleeping with your sister.
2006-11-28 09:47:38 · answer #9 · answered by I_have_no_heart 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The guy is playing the two of you. No guy is worth a sister.
2006-11-28 09:47:19 · answer #10 · answered by just browsin 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your sister is a b*tch, get her out of your life! The same goes for the guy as well. The whole situation sounds sick!
2006-11-28 09:46:55 · answer #11 · answered by Bonzai Betty 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋