does popularity MATTER in a relationship?
there`s thiss boy (:& i really like him
right now we`re just friends and i havent told him that i like him more than a friend.
but likee, he`s SO popular & has a lot of pretty girl friends and im shy, not so much popular and i dont have that many guy friends AT ALL.
i feel like statistically- hes wayy higher than me ;(
& that he would NEVER like me...
the other day i was talking to him on the phone..
i told him that i knew someone who liked him
& guess whatt. the first question he asks after i told him that is,
"IS SHE POPULAR?"
like seriously. why does it matter? its` ONLY junior high!!
mannnn i kinda do & dont wish i was popular right nowww :(
but if i go out with him...he'd make me popular...
but NOOO! i dont like him b/c of thatt
i like him for the person he is,
not his reputation or his popularity...
2006-11-28 09:42:14 · 16 answers · asked by Taylor. 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Popularity Doesn't Matter.
If He Likes You He Likes You.
2006-11-28 09:44:39 · answer #1 · answered by Paradise * 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A lot of people always give you that talk saying "Oh popularity doesn't matter, or shouldn't matter!" But you know what.. you probably know it yourself. IT DOES MATTER! It might not matter to you, but in our society, it does. And it'll always be there, not just in junior high. People care a lot about how you dress, look, and who you hang out with. It is ridiculous, I totally agree. And that our world should not depend if you like someone or hire someone because of their popularity. But life isn't fair, and the popularity game is there. All we can do is deal with it. If your friend doesn't like you because you are not popular, then he is not worth it in the long run. I mean, come on, you are only in junior high. Might not even end up going to the same high school you know? But if you want to experience meeting a lot of people, especially towards highschool, it might be a good idea to be good friends or even date him. But don't think of it as using him, just that you're interested AND you get to make more friends or acquaintances. Its a win win situation you're looking at here. (And remember, being successful in life means you need connections. The more, the better.)
2006-11-28 09:50:20 · answer #2 · answered by ms_ikia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it does to him, it does. and unfortunatly it sounds like it... i'll let you in on something: popularity is a state of mind. what makes you popular? It's when you honestly think you're the best. Thats why most 'average' kids look up to, but secretly look down to popular kids. when i started jr. high, i had previously been friends with some girls that "magically turned popular" on the first day. it was unreal. this, in turn, made me "popular". i didn't like how much it went to my 'friends' heads, and i went out to find people who liked me for who i was, and in the end, made it that much better knowing that these people liked me for my personality, and not social status. It's been about 6 years since, and I'm so happy i made that choice. lesson learned? this is probably just a phase for this guy... but regaardless, let him know how stupid it is of him to take something so stupid and illusional into consideration when deciding friends and who he's attracted to. and honey, no matter what happens, don't ever take attempt to change who you are for someone else, don't give in. the "popular" girls are the ones that live the rest of their lives wishing that they could just get by... while they're flipping burgers.
2006-11-28 09:58:06 · answer #3 · answered by live*laugh*love 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
right now yes, but when you get out into the real world popularity doesn't matter. As a matter of fact the girls that were popular in my junior/high school are now fat, ugly, and have a bunch of kids. The ones that were truly successful were the average kids like myself that ended up being the popular ones in the end
2006-11-28 09:47:33 · answer #4 · answered by joker:P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, this is the sweetest thing that I have ever heard! To some people, that's just the way it is. I know that it is wrong but then there are other people who aren't like that. Plus, he's addapted to this life style and he doesn't really know what it means to like someone out of his range. I don't think it matters. If he is the person that you know and love, he won't care what your rep is! I cannot answer that question because it's different in everyone sadly! Just get to know him a little better and he should like you for you, not what your rep is!
Best Wishes♥
2006-11-28 09:50:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not to sound mean but I think he's finding someone that is in his level. Probably for him it DOES matter. I say that in love everyone is equal. I guess for him it's not. In life, it doesn't matter if your popular or smart or pretty as much as being nice, funny, respectfull and happy. You will find the guy that will make you as his equal sooner or later.
2006-11-28 10:16:17 · answer #6 · answered by Jelly(: 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually with most guys they don't care about if you're popular but this guy sounds like a complete jerk to be like that I say forget about your crush and just be friends.
2006-11-28 09:45:51 · answer #7 · answered by Liz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
popularity really doesnt matter. trust me, its lame and people only really care about it in junior high. he sounds pretty shallow to me if he only wants to date popular girls and odds are, those are gonna be the girls who get pregnant. still be friends with him because its hard to just dump your friends and see where that goes.
2006-11-28 09:46:43 · answer #8 · answered by winterwonderland 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, if your not popular with a least one group of people or at least liked then you have a greater risk of being talked about or hurt. But do what makes you happy.
2006-11-28 09:44:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Popularity matters none to me...... It's the person who matters.
2006-11-28 09:45:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋