ok i am a christian and im going crazy i like to many guys and i have never had a true boyfriend i want to wait for that speacial person God has for me but i also want a boyfriend to but i dont wnat to date what do i do
2006-11-28 09:40:14 · 28 answers · asked by :) 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
put the focus on relationship with the father... and soakin his presence... he will send him when it is time... he someone specifically created for you...
and dont listen to unsaved peoples advice... ask God yaself and see waht he says.
most of these people dont know him.
you can always do what i did... and ask him to see them in a vision... i saw my wife in a vision when i was 11... didnt meet her till i was 15 the second i met her i knew she was her... even tho she didnt look like her till her hair grew out... it was short and bleached blonde.
we courted for almost 5 yrs married last year... its been awesome and the holy spirit is always there... when we are together now we have a baby and awesome strong marriage and teach others how to have a truly blessed Godly marriage and how to meet their mate that God prepared for them before the foundatiosn of the world.... my two best friends met their wives thru us after waiting 19 yrs not dating and then the first meeting knew they were the ones... both of my best friends panda AND stealth are happily married now.
if you do decide to date a guy make sure he loves jesus as much as you or more...
and never put him above God... and always be willing to end it if God says too... dont create soul ties and if you do end messing up and creating soul ties break them when you are done with him.........
2006-11-28 09:43:04 · answer #1 · answered by israeli_stuck_in_usa 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Honey, how old are you? You don't need a boyfriend, but you do need friends. Is there a youth group at your church? Is there an older woman you could spend time with to get advice and guidance from? As a Christian, part of your responsibility is to encourage other Christians to live godly lives -- what are some ways that you can do that? (Hint: it's not by dating or being sexually intimate with a young man -- that's not very encouraging to his holiness, is it?) By the way, that "special person" should only be your husband. Imagine having to tell him someday about how boy-crazy you were in your teen years. Do things now that you won't regret later.
I want to encourage you to reach out to an older girl who can give you some of the wisdom she has learned. Pray and seek God's wisdom about your situation -- tell Him your frustrations! He can take it!! Spend time reading the Bible, looking for how Christians should live. Avoid situations that increase that feeling of going crazy (I can't watch romantic movies at certain times, because it just makes me want a husband that much more intensely), and avoid dwelling on boyfriends in your thoughts -- it'll only make it worse!!
I'm praying for you. God doesn't expect you to do this on your own. That's why He made the church!
2006-11-28 09:49:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
seek ye first the kingdom of God. it is okay to date but make sure any relationship you enter into yoiu ask God if He wants this relationship for you. otherwise it seems you may start compromising Gods standards becausr you want attention.Dating is unbiblical mostly because in those times people were betrothed but we have a different culture now than the middle east in those times Whatever you do do not initiate anything except your love for Christ the bible ays a man who finds a wife finds a good thing not a lonely woman finds a husbandyour suuppose to be minding your business like Ruth in the bible very good example about how he persued her as she did what she was suppose to do. God at the right time will present you to someone then he'll confirm it with you and so on
2006-11-28 09:46:55 · answer #3 · answered by mimi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is good that you are honouring God in your decision making about a life partner. Pray about this and trust God. He has the best for you and you will be glad in the end that you waited. I have known a lot of people who have become impatient and then settled for second best and regretted it later.
God bless you. It takes courage to go against the grain - especially in the society we live in that seems to promote casual sex all the time. I believe that God will bless people like you who choose to wait for His will in their lives. There is nothing wrong with having friends who are guys. Just try to stay in larger groups that are mixed sex and you can enjoy male and female company in an environment that is more safe. You are a wise person to choose this and when you do meet the right person you will both apprecate the fact that you waited and it will be more special because of this.
2006-11-28 09:47:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you mean you don't want to date or you don't want to have sex? It sounds like you're in your teens and I'm sure the pressure is on you to have sex. Go on dates to public places, or double date or group date. Don't feel guilty about how you feel. Christianity aside, you should never do anything you don't want to do with anyone! If you get dumped after a few dates, believe me he wasn't worth it! There are a lot of boys and men out there that will wait for you, you just have to weed through them. Good luck!
2006-11-28 09:49:08 · answer #5 · answered by vhp3000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want a boyfriend, but don't want to date? I guess you could grow close with someone over the phone or online and not actually go out on dates with them. I think it's okay if you hang around someone you like, just don't go too far with them until you're absolutly ready. Experience with guys will help you narrow down the type of guy you want to be with. And by experience, I mean deep & intellectual conversations...nothing sexual until you really trust and care for someone.
2006-11-28 09:45:46 · answer #6 · answered by circa 1980 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Calm down, relax, take a deep breath. Okay, now read the books "I Kissed Dating Goodbye", "Boy Meets Girl, Say Hello to Courtship", "And the Bride Wore White", and there are SO many more. read one or all of these books, and pray that God will send you the right guy at the right time. Use discernment when deciding who to date. Keep praying about your relationships, and it will all work out. It's okay to date. Just be careful.
2006-11-28 09:44:00 · answer #7 · answered by teeney1116 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am a Christian and I think it is ok to date. If you have strong feelings about sex, don't have it! God will bring the right person to you at the right time. You have to be patient. But I don't see dating as anything wrong.
2006-11-28 09:43:18 · answer #8 · answered by Heather C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is such a thing as Christian dating, you know. You are right to wait on God to bring you the right person, but in the meantime, have fun, be friends and don't get too serious too soon. And also don't be pressured into sex.
2006-11-28 09:50:37 · answer #9 · answered by beattyb 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't wait until someone knocks at your door. Go out to other Christian functions and find a guy that wants a girl with the same christian values as you. They are out there just go find them, They may be shy, most of the good ones are!
2006-11-28 09:45:41 · answer #10 · answered by Mrs. T 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋