It's a LONG story but to make a long story short i knew this guy for 6 years and we loved eachother sooooooo much it was crazy. Well stuff happened and one day he decided that he didn't want to like me or be with me. I went thru a lot of heartache. I went thru a really bitter time... i was angry at him...and still am to some point. The thing that ceases to amaze me is how nomatter what that guy has done to me...no matter how many times he's broken my heart, i never get over him, i never stop liking him, i'm still attracted to him even after several years of crap. I mean the day i met him...i looked at him and said to myself..i'm gonna marry this guy. This is probably been one of the most painful things for me to go thru...but i'm still sitting here wondering what it's all about. I mean it's amazing that i still have feelings for him after all that time. But why? Does this mean something?
2006-11-28 09:25:57 · 14 answers · asked by mountaingirl88 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
By the way for those of you who answered my other question about the guy not e-mailing me...this isn't the same guy just so you know.
2006-11-28 09:27:14 · update #1
I have moved on and i have tried to get over him. But whatever i do it doesn't work
2006-11-28 09:29:24 · update #2
because u won't let your heart get over him so get over him and get on with your life and find another man that you like or something
2006-11-28 09:28:41 · answer #1 · answered by samhacke 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe it's not that you're still in love with the guy but that you aren't handling the rejection well. Maybe you are subconsciously thinking, "If he won't like me, no one will." It's not a matter of love but of self-esteem. Once you feel like you deserve someone else and CAN do better, you'll move on. In My Opinion. 6 years is a long time, but it's also a long time to obsess. Face it, you deserve someone who wants you for you. If he doesn't want you- c'est la vies. There is more to life than boys. Work on achieving something you never have before. Focus on your education or a goal that is hard to reach. Focus on accomplishing things that will help you feel better about yourself. Once you change your focus, and become more self assured, men are going to see that and be attracted to that.
I'm sure you can do much better than this guy. If he walked away from you after 6 years without giving you any closure then he is not the girl for you honey. I broke up with my husband when we were 14. I dated many guys and got back together with my husband when we were 22. We have been married 3 years now.
You never know what tomorrow will bring. Live for today.
2006-11-28 17:32:38 · answer #2 · answered by TrixyLoo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeh it could mean one of two things a. you reallly love him or b. your infatuated with him some people really cant tell the difference I actually read this cuz i have a very similar situation im with my "bf" or ex long story lol for 3 years on and off its a love hate relationship he hurt me soo much and i still care its like i dont get it we love them but at the same time its like do we really could it be that were dependency issues? You see with me I know i love him but everytime i break up with him cuz he hurts me i still find myself missing him and wishing everything was okay between us and we were still together well dunno if this helped but i just wanted you to know that your not alone girl there are many of us that are going thru it or have been thru it before u know what they say time heals after 6 years though wow well good luck hope everything works out for you and remember if its meant to be it'll be you never know maybe one day you will get married =)
ps check out my last question i asked if u get a sec answer it thanx
2006-11-28 17:34:34 · answer #3 · answered by bkgrl718 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you haven't moved on from this past relationship. You feel like there's something missing in your life that you used to have when you were with this guy. You have to keep your mind busy with other things like your life. You deserve someone that loves you and will give you the world. In the mean time stay busy focus on your career, your friends, maybe go back to school, your home. Set goals for yourself and when you least expect it you'll realize you haven't thought about him in such a long time you don't miss him anymore and life is good.
2006-11-28 17:29:57 · answer #4 · answered by honey27 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it'll take you time honey but you will get over him. You'll meet someone that doesnt hurt you one day and you'll ask yourself what all the fuss was about!! i dont know how long you've been seperated but you will come round eventually. It took me 2 yrs to get over a guy, but now he's totally in the past and i can talk to him without bursting into tears!! The same will happen to you sweetheart. Think about yourself more and forget the guy... im sure he's not worth all the tought you give him!!
2006-11-28 17:31:27 · answer #5 · answered by honeypot56000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats how it is for some people, but you have to think about yourself why do you want to feel somehting toward someone who has hurt you. In the end your just going to get hurt even more. Try to let it go and move on. There are other fish in the sea! Good Luck
2006-11-28 17:34:10 · answer #6 · answered by ReRe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to let go...it's like getting rid of old clothes or shoes YOU love them but do YOU really need them? He is moving and as should you. It will be hard TRUST me been there done that you are better off and there are far more "fish" in the sea so get your pole ready and when your ready to go fishing cast it out
2006-11-28 17:32:55 · answer #7 · answered by sweetred171 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not over him because you haven't decided you want to be. What are you getting out of wallowing in your despair?
Why waste time bemoaning the fact that someone doesn't want to be with us? Do you think they are sitting around crying about us? No...they're living their life and having fun...we sit around and waste our life.
Stop feeling sad over someone who isn't right for you...you're wasting precious minutes of your life and possibly missing out on someone who would be a GREAT match...but you won't see him because you're still hung up on someone who apparently doesn't care anything about you.
Stop it. Make up your mind that he's not worth it. Until you do, you'll be stuck right where you are...it's your choice.
Doesn't it make more sense to live life and have fun? *smiles*
2006-11-28 17:30:27 · answer #8 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe, there is a woman like that in my life.
She won't even get real with me.
I feel like at the same time I know who she is in her soul, yet I don't know even simple details of her life. Gay. bi, straight? Partner(s) currently or not. Available or taken? I don't spy so I don't know and just wait to see if she tells me. Don't know where she lives. If she is rich or poor. Healthy or ill. I REALLY like her, like my soulmate or something, why? I wonder that a lot. She is VERY beautiful and VERY VERY smart. Smarter than me even, I tested it. Wild and VERY crazy too. I tested that too. Probably means something. Not sure what.
2006-11-28 17:32:45 · answer #9 · answered by kurticus1024 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Eventually, the hurt does go away, but it seems like you never forget. I think everyone has someone they feel like they aren't "finished" with yet, but the good news is, you do go on and meet new, better people.
2006-11-28 17:29:59 · answer #10 · answered by tsopolly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋