I am a pretty girl, but I am fat. I just don't get why guys won't date me. I have been asked out before, but at college I feel judged and not accepted. Help.
2006-11-28 09:22:49 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are using negative terms to describe your own body. "Fat" and "overweight" are not part of a good body image. Until you learn to love your curves and except them for what they are no one else will find you attractive.
A high self esteem is one of the sexiest things that anyone can have, and if you got that then, then sweetie it doesn't matter how much you weigh someone will want to love every little inch of you!
So keep your chin up ok, there are a lot of men out there who would rather date a wonderful person, even if she is on the heavier side, then some stick model with no passion or humour.
2006-11-28 09:31:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say dont judge yourself too hard. I am very slim, I dont have a twisted nose with hair growing out of it and I dont get asked out either :-) Of course I know that in USA things are different, in USA it is much easier for girls to meet guys. In Latin America, for example, if you are fat you are virtually automatically crossed out of any guys list. But USA is much better than that (much less chauvinism around).
So keep on going and you will find your guy. I dont know how overweighted you are, even though, but you could look for a healthier life style just for the sake of your own well being (dont ever ever do any kinds of sacrifice in order to get guys! I have been there and it is not worthy the trouble, ok?) You sound sweet! good luck!
2006-11-28 09:32:29 · answer #2 · answered by Graça 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know what sweetie? Who cares if you're a little overweight? If guys won't date you because of how you look, then you should be greatful, because that means that they are too shallow to be in any kind of relationship. I like people for who they are, and not for how they look. Unfortunately, this world has shown to everyone that girls should be skinny, with large breasts, huge hips, perfect hair, and a tiny voice that sounds high pitched and stupid. Be happy that you are not that, be yourself. If you change the way you look or act, you will never find your true lover and you will live the rest of your life in misery.
2006-11-28 09:59:17 · answer #3 · answered by *~*RaChAel*~* 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you think that maybe you are projecting your own idea of your self towards others? Maybe you think guys don't like you because you are overweight but how do you know for sure if that is true? Maybe some guys do not see weight as a determing factor of who they date. The right guy will turn up someday and when that guys comes around he won't care how much you weight.
2006-11-28 09:32:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's just it. You said you feel judged and not accepted. It sounds like you don't have very much confidence in yourself. It doesn't matter how pretty you are or your body type, if you are confident with yourself and your looks, and it comes out and shows in how you hold yourself or how you interact with the world, people will notice.
Just be confident in yourself and don't worry about what other people are thinking about you.....unless its a compliment. :)
2006-11-28 09:28:44 · answer #5 · answered by Jayden 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to build up your confidence. If a woman, any woman, thinks she is beautiful, she is. It shows. learn the art of flirting and quit thinking that it is up to the guy to initiate the dating ritual. Some men are sick of the rejection and the fact that it is up to us to experience the risk of it. Go get what you want. Don't tell yourself that you feel judged. Tell yourself,hey, I am being noticed. Believe me: 30% of the men like you, 30% don't and 30% don't know.
2006-11-28 09:31:04 · answer #6 · answered by Dhaircutta 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you are looking for the right guy don't worry about it. The right guy will look at your cute face and ask you out. Keep confident, the main thing that turns a guy off is insecurity in a woman.
2006-11-28 09:27:58 · answer #7 · answered by Thomas K 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Guys like a girl that takes care of herself. It may not just be about looks. Women that love themselves take care of themselves. Unless your weight problem is a side effect of some other problem, you should try to take better care of yourself and quit worrying about all those losers that don't bother to get to know the good person that you are.
2006-11-28 09:27:48 · answer #8 · answered by Charlee's Mama 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know...that question runs past my mind many a night...and i can tell you that..it really doesn't matter what you look like or how big you are...all that matters is your smile, pretty face and great personality....BUT the truth of the matter is...it does matter what you look like and whether or not you look like what society views as "hot" or "beautiful" and at the moment....sorry to say...big girls aren't on the menu....
2006-11-28 10:28:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you want to date overweight guys ? If you snapped your fingers and became skinny would you want to date the fat guy ? If you feel your weight is your problem why not try to lose it ?
2006-11-28 09:28:04 · answer #10 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋