sad and confused?

Question

ok if you read my previous questions you may read that I ended a 2 yr and 1/2 relationship (im 20 hes 21).

Well although i said the magic words it still hurts, i changed my mind the next day like i did twice while i was with him.But he didnt want to take me back. Well a wk & 1/2 ago we talked and he said he needs time for thinking couple of wks.

I told him i respected that and that ill give him his space. So i thought ill hear from him untill he thought things through but things are the same as when we were together i see him talk to him and even get intimate with him.

But when i ask him why not get together he says oh im still thinking

If he really honestly loves me why "think" why not get back with me thats what i thought would happen after the break up but NO

Or if he doesnt love me why give me hope kowing how much i love him.Im still giving him space but i dont want to get hurt but i love him hes my first love im so sad dont know what to do dont want to lose him

*but then i think about it and its like he wasnt there for me, he wouldnt really call, his friends were his life, his crew was his passion, he has no job hes a pot head no car, id been there during the bad times...

*so to me is like why does he want to lose a good thing not being cocky but i was so faithfull and devoted and gave him space why not want this.

*By him not wanting me and making it seem as if its my loss he makes me feel that he doesnt love me and that he stoped loving me since the respect disapeared a few months ago.

*but i still love him to death and want to be with him yes im stupid =o(

Answer 1

Sometimes u gotta know when to cut ur losses, and i think this is one of those situations. U gotta move on, i know it's hard, recently my gf broke it off with me claiming she needed space.........99% of the time when that happens things are well and truly on the rocks. By waiting around for that dude ur just gonna get urself more hurt, you may as well let him go and be happy being single where u can play the field again.

Answer 2

Why get back together when you are giving him everything he wants without being with you. You should probably give him some real space to think about it. Tell him you are going to give him some time to think about it and when he has come to a conclusion he can contact you. Until then avoid contact while he's thinking about it.