im in love with this girl and she just broke up with her boyfreind ....she knows i love her but .....im real shy around her , how should i ask her out.... PLEASE HELP i really love her and want to be with her
2006-11-28 09:11:27 · 28 answers · asked by Z 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I had a real good guy friend who had a crush on me and I knew it but acted oblivious and when he got tired of waiting on me to take his hints and advances he ignored me and it drove me crazy because I realized how special he made me feel.And when he longer wanted me I wanted him so bad.Maybe you could try playing out a similar scenario.
2006-11-28 09:20:23 · answer #1 · answered by lonesome4calle11 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just go up to her and say hi, then ask how she's doing. don't ask about the break-up unless you and her are that close. hi's and how are you's are the easiest convo openers than a lot of people think. take your time, but don't take too long. ever heard of the expression, "when your slow, you blow."? get yourself in there before someone else does. you may not get a 2nd chance. it's good you're aware that she just had a break up. you can use that to your advantag. i'm not saying rush into anything, but this is a good time to be a good friend to her. spend time with her on a "friend level". don't pressure or start telling her you love her. girls usually know when guys like them, let her be cool about it. ash her if she'd like to "hang out". that way she'll know it's not a date and won't feel like you're being a wolf. the more she'll get to know you the better chances are she'll get over the ex and get with you. be cool, but always be yourself. and relax, shy guys are sexy.
2006-11-28 17:23:13 · answer #2 · answered by NoDeal21 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it some time since she just broke up with her boyfriend because I am sure you don't want to be the rebound guy and she may not be ready for another relationship so soon. If she knows you love her, give her time and space and she will come around. In the mean time you can hang out with her and other friends, such as going to the movies and just having fun. Good luck!
2006-11-28 17:15:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well for starters...maybe you should make a move or try to take her someplace. She has just gotten out of a relationship and probably will want someone to be there for her. Secondly, you shouldn't be afraid to talk to someone you like. I understand the chance of being rejected and I too have been turned down but you'll never know unless you try.Always Be Confident. Try to know what you're going to say also. This can help your nervousness. Ask her friends or others too. They might know her better or have good ideas. Lastly, Go in there and try to talk with her about it. Even if you say something like, "Do you think we might be able to be more than friends or we might be able to go out on a date?" Try to talk to her about privately or just between the two of you..In Person. It might be awkward but it'll make both of you feel better..usually. When you do talk to her, try to make it nice and easy. Don't get angry or push at it. Simply ask her to talk about it, maybe ask why, and then be done. Pushing at it will only make you and her more uncomfortable and frustrated. You can also take her somewhere where you think it'll be easier to talk. If you don't ask you'll still be wondering if you should, so go ahead and take a chance.Opportunities arise in life and you should take advantage of the good ones before they disappear. Always>>ALWAYS be yourself. =)
2006-11-28 17:36:42 · answer #4 · answered by _Ryan_ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not? The worse that can happen is she says NO! Nothing ventured nothing gained. Also can you take her X on if need be: he mite still be nuts about her himself. Being shy is an excuse for yourself to fail, the only way to get over it is to get out there and ask for dates. You can make a million excuses if you try to: dig deep and ask and don't stop at the first NO! Just like us guys, girls have their games as well.
2006-11-28 17:21:30 · answer #5 · answered by zipper 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She just broke up with her boyfriend so you are going have to be patience because if you rush in to be with her she might just be using you to get through her pain and not really feeling anything for you.
I'm glad that you are in love with her.( So how did she finds out if you are real shy?) PLEASE. be her friend for the monent and then ask her later on about just the two of you for a movie date and then just take one step at a time. It just might be worth it.
Good Luck. :-)
2006-11-28 17:18:43 · answer #6 · answered by bottom dollar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
start of by getting to know her better, maybe thats what you need since she just broke up with her boyfriend and because you are really shy. plus, this way, if you'll are friends for a little while first, then it may be easier to ask her out when you are less shy around her because you know her better
2006-11-28 17:15:11 · answer #7 · answered by emma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are infatuated with her, you don't love her. My guess is you hardly even know her.
If she just broke up with someone, she needs some time to get over him...don't try to be the rebound guy.
When enough time has passed, just ask her if she'd like to go out with you sometime...if she says yes, then have a date/time in mind already so you can suggest "how about fri at 7pm?" or something like that.
Calm down though...don't get in your own way thinking you're madly in love...that could really turn her off...proceed slowly...get to know her (I mean really know who she is)...
2006-11-28 17:15:36 · answer #8 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her.......dont be shy....be yourself. Tell her how you feel but maybe you shouldnt tell her you really love her right away tell her that you like her and ask her if she would want to hang out with you sometime. If a guy said that to me i be a little worried. Get her # and give her yours. You can do this. I hope everything works out for you
2006-11-28 17:17:33 · answer #9 · answered by Chrissyt91 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
k if she broke up with her b/f and knows u love her and hasnt went after u.....she may not have n/e feelings. or maybe she is like me and wants the guy to make the first move. girls hate it when guys just sit around and leave them bored. make a move!! just ask her if she wants 2 hang out.
2006-11-28 17:14:26 · answer #10 · answered by liv*laugh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
:First things first. You have to give her time to get over her ex-boyfriend. Even though she broke up with him, she still cares about him and misses him. Just be a friend to her right now, because thats what she really needs first. Then let things happen naturally between you. (If you are really her friend and have her best interest at heart, then they will.)
2006-11-28 17:21:59 · answer #11 · answered by sing & pray 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋