Im so confused & SAD?

Question

ok if you read my previous questions you may read that I ended a 2 yr and 1/2 relationship (im 20 hes 21).

Well although i said the magic words it still hurts, i changed my mind the next day like i did twice while i was with him.But he didnt want to take me back. Well a wk & 1/2 ago we talked and he said he needs time for thinking couple of wks.

I told him i respected that and that ill give him his space. So i thought ill hear from him untill he thought things through but things are the same as when we were together i see him talk to him and even get intimate with him.

But when i ask him why not get together he says oh im still thinking

If he really honestly loves me why "think" why not get back with me thats what i thought would happen after the break up but NO

Or if he doesnt love me why give me hope kowing how much i love him.Im still giving him space but i dont want to get hurt but i love him hes my first love im so sad dont know what to do dont want to lose him

Answer 1

i m sorry to hear that
i went thru the same s h it too man and it frustrated me like hell
since i have never been the person on the other end i dont know why someone will act like that

i say is that person thinks they have u wrap around there figure i bet if he hears u r dating he will suddenly be interested try that technique

it work for my friend

Answer 2

It feels good to know that you have something physical to fall back on. You need to ask yourself what you really want out of this. Becasue he's your first love then he'll always have that special plave in your heart, but it may be time for you to consider an alternative. The best advice I can give you is: Get on with your life, stop the physical stuff with him (you're not dating so don't give him the dating benefits), and if you haven't done so already, lay what you feel out on the table. Because right now, you're just holding on to an illusion.

Answer 3

My boyfriend and i broke up and got back together a few times over the years. This same thing happened to me. We sleep together, hang out, but he didnt want to commit to me. after being so fed up i went on a date, he found out about it(they always do, somehow) and realized he wanted to be with me, and no one else. maybe your guy just needs to know that if you two arent together you are free to date other guys, and he cant do one thing about it. Id say at least stop 'getting intimate' and stop hanging out together, let him miss you, and see what happens, why would he get back together with you if you two have a great time when your not 'together'?

Hang out with friends, help him to see what his life would be like without you. (sorry if this is redundant or doenst make sense). And if he does love you he shouldnt have to think in the first place, but if its time he thinks he needs then thats exactly what he should get.

Answer 4

that's what you get for a packaged deal. it isn't any longer your situation. it is your spouse's. The extra you attempt to be their father, the extra serious it gets. i think of those young toddlers desire their father. you may no longer replace him no be counted how complicated you attempt. only step aside and enable your spouse cope with it. She would desire to locate their father to play a extra energetic place. All toddlers at that age have faith they are mature and function their own thought of excellent or incorrect. they often insurrection against authority and oldsters besides. They use the excuse which you haven't any longer real authority because of the fact you're no longer their father. No factor in forcing it. the disadvantage is in the journey that your spouse would not do what's suited, she would be waiting to create extra distance between the two one in all you.

Answer 5

too much drama here, no offense or anything

you needot think about what you want and what you need and what you want ot do

if he treated you nice and never badly and never was caught lying about anything serious or anything else then maybe consider being with him,

only you can know if you two should be together, if it is a good idea or not

good luck :D