my mother critisises everything and everyone but herself. all she does is moan and groan all day. i knw she not well but she acts invalid. i knw she can do stuff if she justs put her mind to it. every little thing we are demanded to do. i feel like its getting very out of hand now. before she'd wash her own plate. now she wont even stand up to even take her plate into the kitchen never mind wash it. me and my dad are demanded to do things and they have to be done at an instance, like a master and his dog. i feel there isnt any respect left of me and i'm treated like shite. i feel sorry for my dad. its like abuse, emotional abuse for both of us. i just feel like dying now. can't take it :'( life is meant to be fun, not like this. my freinds are all so happy. i wish my mum was like theirs.
2006-11-28 09:00:15 · 10 answers · asked by allgiggles1984 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Your life is precious, leave pain behind and live your life. DON'T TAKE IT!
2006-11-28 09:06:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
have you every thought about why she is like this....talk to her. tell her that she is making you unhappy and that you cannot bare her mood swings any longer, maybe she has an underlying problem and the only way she can deal with it is by being narky all the time, just ask her whats up...if you really cant stand it any more, and you are old enough, then move out, go for a house share with one of your friends, or look for a flat of your own my mother is a permanent sulk, she's never happy about anything, and all she ever thinks about is herself, she isn't happy unless she is slagging someone off and she hates everyone, if she is not the center of attention then she can make our lives hell this is because she feels cheated, her husband died and she is dealing with it in this manner, she cannot accept that she is a widow even 10 years after his death...ask your mum what her problem is, she may be keeping something from you and dad, so ask her...otherwise get up and leave....sorry your going thru this but some mums are just plain moaners...well i know mine is anyway
2006-11-28 23:36:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is there a kindly neighbour or person you know who could be your surrogate mum? You could test the water tentatively and then even say that you wished she were your mother. There are a lot of us out here who would 'take you on' as an extra daughter in an emotional sense.
2006-11-28 09:20:08 · answer #3 · answered by Older&Wiser 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
how old are you? a teenager or younger? when she demeans you just tell her to do it herself , when she complains how you do something.Tell her to her face -If you dont like theway I do it then do it yourself. You dont have to put up with bullying. Your father should grow a backbone.If she becomes violent or abusive , tell your teacher or school offical.If that doesnt work then tell her mother or her sister or her father how she has been acting. Dont take **** from her, you 'll end up a doormat for any one.I read your login details it say 1984 that makes you what 22. You arent a child.Tell her to **** off.
2006-12-01 10:14:40 · answer #4 · answered by dreamweaver824 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let your mother have that kind of control over you. Take value and strength from your friend and the family that supports you. I agree with the other answer that said that you and your father need to take back control and have your mother do more things for herself. She's going to keep taking advantage of you and your father until you stop it from happening.
Be strong and take a positive step and believe in yourself!
2006-11-28 09:15:46 · answer #5 · answered by Thunderman9 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Feel so sorry for you in this situation, but I do think your dad has to be firm with her and refuse to be a doormat to her, he should also tell her not to treat you in that manner. If she continues to act like this she will have no one. Tell your dad how you really feel and move out to an auntys or grans house if he will not stick up for you. You should not be treat like this, I think you should also have a chat with her and tell her how you feel. It is no excuse to act like this even if she is ill. Good luck to you hope it all turns out ok for you.
2006-11-28 10:34:40 · answer #6 · answered by Kirks Folley 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Can I ask how old you are? cant you leave home. Im sorry to hear you feel so desperate. Maybe see a doctor or someone to talk to. Dont end your precious life just because of your mum,
2006-11-28 09:07:10 · answer #7 · answered by jessie 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You and your dad need to join forces and stop waiting on her hand and foot .
She will get more and more dependent on you until she ends up an invalid through not moving about,
2006-11-28 09:06:15 · answer #8 · answered by Pat R 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I want to say something you will maybe not like...............the only person that can make you feel suicidal is yourself.
2006-12-01 08:09:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know what you can do but i hope you make it through!
2006-11-28 09:02:44 · answer #10 · answered by Tony 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋