so i have this friend..he and i are good friends....when he doesnt pick fights with me for no reason. i try to be a good friend to him, but hes never happy. im getting sick of this cycle we have..one minute were friends..then good friends..then it all comes crashing down when he tells me that im doing something that bothers him..and i hear him out, and i try not to do whatever i do thats bothering him, but he just never is happy. he kinda compares me to one of his other friends..no lie, we were on the phone and hes like "man times like these i wish (other friends name) was here". that makes me feel like crap. im trying to be a good friend, but hes trying to change me..and it may be for the better, but it makes me uncomfortable..its like ya know..i have friends that are happy with me the way that i am. it feels like no matter what i do, ill never be good enough. i didnt even know i had to live up to standards with a friend..its like im his student or something..i always have to improve.
2006-11-28 08:59:34 · 4 answers · asked by shady lane * 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hey shady.
You are FRIENDS. Real friends don't need to change each other-they are comfortable with who they are. If all of your friends were the same, what would you want more than one for? If you're sick of it, tell him, as a friend, and DON'T change who you are. That's what makes you special. You were created unique so who is he to tell you who you should be. Also, you shouldn't feel broken whenever you talk to your "friend." That's the opposite of what a friend is supposed to do. Keep your head up, tell him how you feel, and if he acts up, drop him and make some REAL friends who appreciate you for who you are. Don't be afraid of losing one friend because you think that you can't make more. There are billions upon billions of people on this planet. Go and meet a few.
2006-11-28 09:06:09 · answer #1 · answered by James B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Who is this person? If something makes you uncomfortable, it's usually with good cause.
Honey, spend your time with the people who love ya like ya are.
He's not interested in you being a good friend; you're the person he gets to be better than because you'll let him. Some people are just mean nasty individuals.
Use the next crash as your out. When he tells you he wishes one of his other friends was there, suggest that he call them. Then hang up or leave.
I get that you're trying to be nice. (He's clearly not.)
Do you feel sorry for him or something?
2006-11-28 17:11:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this bothers you so much then why do you change for him if you think that you shouldn't then don't besides if he is never happy then why try if you know he is not going to be.
2006-11-28 17:03:40 · answer #3 · answered by Cindy F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let him run you like that. You are his friend and if he doesn't like you the way you are, then he doesn't deserve your friendship. Tell him to treat you respectfully or you don't want anything to do with him anymore. He has no right to treat you like that.
2006-11-28 17:03:49 · answer #4 · answered by sea shell 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋