well ummm i got hooked up with this boy a couple days ago and he's acting mighty horny.every second were alone he wants to have sex.but i dont wanna have it yet.im trying to hold on.so today he told me that if i really loved him and "wanted to be his lady real bad" i wuld give it up.and today i just couldnt focus on my work at all....it just kept popping up in my mind.im lost seriously an i dont know if im "ready" to be his woman like "that".i dont want to be in a physical relationship yet...so if you could give positive answers...
2006-11-28 08:50:00 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Like most people have said already: DUMP HIM.
There's absolutely no reason for you to feel pressured to do anything you don't want to do. Seriously, if you give in, the remainder of your relationship with this pig will follow a similar pattern. You will always be pressured into giving in to what he wants.
2006-11-28 09:30:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Okay well first off if you don't want to be in a physical relationship yet then you should hold off. Since you have said that then it means that the entire choice is yours and you're going about this in the right manner.
It's like that old saying "if you do such and such, I'll be your bestfriend" lol. Boys try to pull that crap "if you love me, you'll do it" on girls all the time but it shouldn't be that way.
You said that it's only been a few days so there is no way that he cares about you enough to respect your feelings about sex. If he does care then he'll wait, it's just that simple.
2006-11-28 16:58:35 · answer #2 · answered by Erika 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you don't know if you're ready... then you're not ready. There's no doubt in my mind about that. I promise, it'll make more sense to you, after you've decided your ready. Whatever you do, DON'T DO IT!~
Plus... although you might think this guy is cute....he's a jerk. He IS trying to push you into having sex. He is the LAST person you want to have sex with. RUN! RUN AWAY FAST!!!!
He's also sounds like the kind of guy that is out to use you... have sex with you for a few weeks, and will then dump you. Again, RUN AWAY FAST!!!!
2006-11-28 16:54:54 · answer #3 · answered by mj 1 · 3⤊ 1⤋
GIRL--stay away from him! Do not go anywhere alone with this guy, this is the kind of guy you have to be careful of (rapist??). That is not true, you have known him a short time, and obviously he only wants one thing. His intentions are really clear, he doesn't want an emotional relationship, just a physical one until he finds another girl. Do not do anything YOU are not ready to do. Good for you, be strong, and say NO! No means NO.
Please be careful!
2006-11-28 16:56:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
He is a jerk, let him go. That is an age old line. He will probably drop you after you give yourself to him. He is not worth it. He will wait for you, if he loved you and would not push you. Cut the looser lose.
here is a positive answer, Just say YES to no sex. YES to get lost.
2006-11-28 17:01:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
if youre not ready than youre not ready if you plainly express this to your boyfriend and he keeps pushing than you need to let someone know or get out of the relationship cause he is on a one track mind and respecting your values isnt one of them. if youre not ready than good for you!!!! keep your morals close to your chest, one is only as good as how he/she carries him/herself!!!
2006-11-28 17:05:12 · answer #6 · answered by babyface 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
IF you care about being intimate so much tell him honestly that he has wait to have sex and he can look elsewhere if he can't. His tactics seem to be shady and don't look sincere.
2006-11-28 17:00:07 · answer #7 · answered by Existentialist_Guru 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well isn't he pathetic.
Do you want to be with someone who is pathetic?
Do you want to know for the rest of your natural life you slept with someone pathetic?
If he can't respect you, leave now. Fine someone who will.
If you can do better, then you should.
2006-11-28 16:57:30 · answer #8 · answered by simm 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Thats the biggest load of b.s. ever "if you loved him you would give it up". Typical male ego. If he LOVED you, he would respect you for wanting to wait until the time is right. Period.
2006-11-28 16:53:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
He is USING you.... The I love you part is to get you to fall for the line and have sex with him... Tell him that if he loves you then he'll stop pushing you for the sex and wait.....
2006-11-28 16:55:52 · answer #10 · answered by sexton 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋