My boyfriend and I are invited to a wedding that I want to attend, but he can't. What is the right way to put this information on the reply card? Here is what it looks like:
M____________________________________________________
___ accepts with pleasure
___ declines with regret
2006-11-28 08:49:33 · 17 answers · asked by Lotus 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
put an X for "accepts" or "1"---under the M______ just put your name
2006-11-28 08:52:30 · answer #1 · answered by Penguin Gal 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
On the space next to the M, put your prefix and your name (ie, Ms. Jane Doe). Then mark an X next to accepts with pleasure.
For your own future reference, etiquette would deem that for unmarried couples, separate invitations should be sent, with an optional "and guest" printed after the guest's name on the inner envelope. Also, it is helpful to add something to the reply card that lets the guest indicate how many will attend. For example, under "declines with regret", insert a line that reads "Total number of guests ______")
2006-11-28 09:50:10 · answer #2 · answered by vafromks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
On the line put an "x" next to accepts with pleasure. Leave a foot-note that he can't not attend with regret because_________________. And send it out. I'm sure they will understand and be more then happy to see you there. Not everyone that is sent an invite can attend things like these. They might not be able to get the time off of work, and it's ok.
Don't stress out about it. Go and enjoy the wonderful event. Good Luck and have fun...Besides things could change in the future to where he can attend. Then you call and inform them.
2006-11-28 09:09:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should put your name in the M_____ and check accepts.
You can add a note at the bottom stating your BF will not be attending
I have also seen where theone coming put their name in and puts a '1' in the accepts line and a '1' in the declines line.
Personally I think the first option is best and clearest to the bride.
2006-11-28 09:11:06 · answer #4 · answered by momwithabat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to consider how the invitation was addressed.
If it was to Mr. John Doe and Miss Sara Citizen
then you put Miss Sara Citizen with a 1 in the accepts line.
If it's under his name only and you were an "and guest" then you need to make sure his name is on it somewhere so they know his intention too and not wonder "who the heck is this".
2006-11-28 08:58:42 · answer #5 · answered by parsonsel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put Miss Jane Fairfax (they need your name for the seating chart if they are doing one for the reception; they'll know who declined sense his name was also on your invite)
1 accepts
1 declines
DO NOT USE A FREAKING X; THEY NEED TO BE SURE OF HOW MANY ARE COMING.
That response card is poorly done, btw. You shouldn't have to ask.
2006-11-28 18:52:37 · answer #6 · answered by chelleedub 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd just put your name Ms. Lotus and check "accepts" with a 1. If they wonder at the wedding you can explain that he had to work, out of town, whatever.
And really, no bride really looks at those things other than to tally how many people are coming so there's enough food and seating.
2006-11-28 09:29:55 · answer #7 · answered by chefgrille 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ms. Jane Doe
and then mark 1 in the line before accepts with pleasure.
2006-11-28 08:53:45 · answer #8 · answered by nottashygirl 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I honestly have sent my invites, with the respond playing cards, 3 months previously my wedding ceremony. this could provide me time to assemble them, shop music of who has no longer responded, and touch those those with sufficient time to spare to get seating and food dealt with for the reception. some brides (no longer me) even upload an 'RSVP by using' date on their playing cards. in case you do no longer respond by using that date, you are not getting a seat on the reception. no longer quite everyone does that nevertheless. yet do provide your self sufficient time. you do no longer opt to be under pressure over travelers 2 weeks previously your wedding ceremony once you attempt to get each thing else in line.
2016-10-13 07:28:38 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would leave it on a postive note,
M "your name"
Check accepts with pleasure
and write a little note on it saying that you are looking forward to attending, but unfortunatly your boyfriend will not be joining you.
....
When I was receiving all my RSVP's back, I was so touched when people wrote a little note on the card!
2006-11-28 09:41:46 · answer #10 · answered by Why? ... 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would check both and put your name next to 'accepts with pleasure' and your boyfriend's name next to 'declines with regret.'
2006-11-28 08:52:36 · answer #11 · answered by BritLdy 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋