If your doing something you know is killing someone else why do you continue to do it? Especielly when you claim to love this person dearly...
2006-11-28 08:48:33 · 13 answers · asked by Mrs.Me 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
because they have no life.its just as simple as it can get.but like i always say.never let people get inside your mind.they cant do anything but hurt you physically.only GOD can JUDGE you.no one else can and if they do so what???it aint hurting nobody but themselves.but when it comes down to love.you might get pushed to a limit that you dont wanna be in.so i say just be you and follow your heart.
2006-11-28 08:54:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll second BH on that one.
Some people tie too much of their emotional security on the actions of others. This is why they're hurt by what other people do, rather than alarmed.
If you're dating someone, and let's say he has a drug problem and you find out about it, you can choose to either be hurt by this, or to be alarmed by this. If you knew he had it before you started the relationship, then you were volunteering for pain.
In another scenario, let's say you're dating someone, and find out that he's cheating on you. Again, you can choose to either be hurt or to be alarmed.
Sometimes hurt is a very natural initial reaction to something like a breach of trust or finding out something bad about a loved one. You can still choose whether or not to stay there in that rutt, assuming that their choices has anything to do with you, or taking it personally. Or you can break free of that, and think about what their behavior really means...that perhaps they aren't right for you, and rather than dwelling on it, or staying there trying to control their behavior through emotional manipulation, you can move on and let it go.
Some people are just jerks. That is part of life. If you have something people value, then there will be those who want to nurture it, and there will be those who want to exploit or destroy it. If you look at the first five years of any romantic relationship as a testing period where you're giving someone the benefit of the doubt, but are ready to bail out as soon as some bad drama starts, then you'll be less hurt and more alarmed by harmful patterns and behaviors.
If you base your sense of self worth and security on someone else, then you hurt yourself much more than they hurt you. Be aware that predatory types of people look for people they can hurt. Be secure with yourself, and you'll be a bad target.
2006-11-28 09:23:20 · answer #2 · answered by Sheloya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
People hurt other people perhaps because they are insecure about things in their own life. It happens to everyone every day. It's like a drug. It makes the "PICKER" feel a little power over you, but of you ignore the "PICKER" will soon give up and find another shameful way to make them selves feel better. But if it is a man or woman that love you and hurt you than you are better off leaving such a person and finding someone who will appreciate you a little more. Any more question I can help you with feel free to ask!!!
Danielle
2006-11-28 08:55:06 · answer #3 · answered by Danielle M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what you mean.
To deliberately do something with the intent of hurting another person, is a crummy thing to do...however if someone is just living their life, and another person CHOOSES to be hurt by their actions, then that's not the fault of the person doing the action.
If you are hurt by what someone else is going or saying, figure out why. Are they deliberately trying to hurt you? If so, remove yourself from that situation.
If you are hurt because you don't like what they are doing, but they have every right to do it and are not doing it with the intent or desire to hurt anyone, then perhaps you need to reflect on why you are choosing to hurt and get better control of your emotions.
2006-11-28 08:52:25 · answer #4 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
people are cruel and lack love. Earth is Satan's domain and he works through people to cause hurt, mischief, and sadness. besides Satan, i think that people just dont realize what they do to people until the same hurt they inflict on others is inflicted on them. sometimes people have to be hurt in order to change and understand. most of the time the person causing pain is actually unhappy in their lives and know nothing better than to give hurt back.
2006-11-28 08:52:05 · answer #5 · answered by ♣DreamDancer♣ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because something is lacking in that persons life. Some people LOVE drama more than they love companionship. I know those kind of people. STEER CLEAR of those kind of people, they will suck you into their drama on a continual basis. Be careful
2006-11-28 08:52:24 · answer #6 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They may not realize that they are doing it, but most of the time in this situation they are a very disturbed person and they are doing it for power, to make themselves feel better by making you feel bad. Dont waste your time on someone like that please.
2006-11-28 08:50:34 · answer #7 · answered by kittykatB4 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love has nothing to do with it.is their psychological state.people hurt others on purpose because they want to see the impact they could make on a person.its a power gain game .
2006-11-28 08:54:25 · answer #8 · answered by kiki_freelove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe becos ppl are some immatured that they dont know what it is for someone to really like u
2006-11-28 08:54:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They have some personal issues and are insecure.
2006-11-28 08:50:33 · answer #10 · answered by smeezleme 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋