I found out today that my cousin went and blabbed to one of his moms friends about guys i been dating(making me sound like a ****)and mentioning my abortion. My aunt is a b**ch too because she told my nan about the abortion and my nan is the one person i didnt want to know because i didnt want her disappointed in me,i've never forgave my aunt for that. They are always talking about and criticising me. They say i dont help me mom enough and nothing i ever do is good enough. How do i deal with all their crap? Me and mom are also moving on the same street as my aunt and my sister soon,i would get my own place but i cant financially at the moment.
2006-11-28 08:44:18 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Keep things to yourself and ignore it. It is not worth hard feelings. Just be you and be sweet and they will feel bad enough for their misgivings.
2006-11-28 08:46:37 · answer #1 · answered by smeezleme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-29 21:48:01 · answer #2 · answered by hertling 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Natalie, They just care about you that's all, be glad that they do care. Be glad that they have aspirations for you and that you are loved. I am sure that they do not mean to be critical, but if you think about it, why would they bother if they did not love you and know that you were worth more than you obviously believe that you are!
As for your deep secrets coming out, you cannot 'shoot the messenger', you cannot blame your aunt for letting out your secret, you are to blame for having such a secret in the first place.
Draw a line under your past views and behaviour, listen to your family and help them to help you.
Good luck, at least you have a family that cares; realise how much that is worth (long term).
2006-11-28 08:55:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are more, a great deal more than what you do. Understand why you do the things your family disapprove of, accept yourself, and no one, not your family or friends, can make you feel bad about it.
This will leave you free to give your nan, and other members of the family the love they deserve.
2006-11-28 08:55:47 · answer #4 · answered by FairyBlessed 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you need to do is stop being passive aggressive and speak to your cousin, not tell all of us what a b***** your Aunt and cousin are. Go to the source. If you weren't some what ashamed of your behavior you wouldn't be so angry. I think that you need to learn to respect your elders, stop hiding things from your family and take responsibility for your behavior. Stop whining about your situation and do something about it.
2006-11-28 08:52:25 · answer #5 · answered by KJ 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first of all the only one you need to worry about is you and your mom..tell the aunt what you think and leave it alone you are better than the gossips show them you are not like them and just leave it be they will find another victim soon enough i have an aunt the same way i ignore her and her brood that is my satisfaction i give them nothing to gossip about
2006-11-28 08:49:26 · answer #6 · answered by neesatutt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Deny everything! They can't prove you had an abortion.
Do you help your Mum enough? That's your conscience and also between you and your Mum.
You obviously have your Mum's love, so ignore the rest of them and enjoy your Mum's company and more importantly don't let your Mum down.
2006-11-28 08:50:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What they did was wrong. Keep away from this cousin and this aunt of yours. Tell them nothing.
2006-11-28 08:48:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to know what you can say to whom. If you don't want to disappoint someone, then don't to anything to disappoint them. The only one you can change is yourself, so you either love and accept them( family) or don't.
2006-11-28 08:57:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi tell ur aunt that u r not happy with wat shes sayin nd tell ur nan that ur sorry 4 wat u did but it was ur choice nd also do a little bit more 4 ur mam nd if ur aunt carries on tell ur mam that shes syin that stuff its not nict to deal with stuff like this but it can also help by askin others eg me
2006-11-28 08:48:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋