When I was a child I was loving kind gentle and trusted everyone I was also treated mean by the kids at school and teased and taunted and verbally abused. I would get yelled out to stick up for myself but the times I tried to I was pushed and threatned.
By the time I was 16 I was in a mental hospital and even though my family said it was not my fault I feel responsbile. Maybe if I pulled some of the peoples hair or punched people or fought back I would maybe have never had a nervous breakdown in the first place. One of the few highlights of my youth was that I accepted Jesus in my heart but there were still many battles that God help me fight before I got to a good place.
How can I fully let go of what I am feeling and go forward in my walk? How can I use the situaion to minister and bless others.
Thank you in advance for your answers and God bless you.
2006-11-28 08:22:31 · 8 answers · asked by encourager4God 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
you've already accepted Christ and have walked the first step. Good for you! you must understand, that its in no way your fault. and unless you somehow encouraged the behavior of those kids, you are not responsible. you may feel responsible because of the "wat ifs" what if I had worked harder in high school? what if i never broke up with him?
these kind of questions are useless. whats done is done. now, stop blaming yourself, ask God for guidence and work for a stronger relationship with Him.
2006-11-28 08:31:26 · answer #1 · answered by . 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest I don't know how to fully let go but the start is to acknowlege your anger at those who abused you(and that includes those who failed to protect you from abuse when you were a child and that was their responsiblility) I am not into traditional religion such as you are but I have my own brand of spirituality and that helps but I really believe you must experience the anger you have and not deny it before you can really forgive those who hurt you. Try group therapy there are many groups for people like us. It will allow you to experience your feelings in safe and controlled environment and then get some closure on them.
I know all that love and forgive everybody stuff sounds great but your never going to really forgive by denying your own pai. I have come to a place after many years of finally feeling as if I can forgive some of those who hurt me when I was young and I did not think that was possible five years ago but it is now. I spent a lof time not talking and hiding my pain and that eventually made things really worse for me because a wound has to be tended to and that is what you have a wound.
get help ....you deserve it
and you were in no way responsible for those who abused you so start with trying to let that thought go it only comes from low self worth that was caused by the abuse and it takes a lot of work and time to begin to not see yourself in this way
good luck to you
2006-11-28 16:38:01 · answer #2 · answered by snoopy22564 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know sometimes when I feel like that, like something is my fault or I can't get past negative feelings toward someone, I think to my self "Have I forgiven them?" We are taught to forgive, and if we do we will be blessed.
You might not be able to tell those that treated you horribly, to their face, that you forgive them, but you still can do it. Tell Heavenly Father that you forgive them, write a letter telling those people who hurt you how you have forgiven them (even if you can't send it), tell them personally, and tell your heart that you want to forgive them.
It is wonderful that you realized that you were strengthened in many battles, and you can in this. Your Heavenly Father is always there for you no matter what. He sent His Son Jesus Christ to Redeem your soul and help you progress through life. Talk to them and ask them for help in forgiving those who did you wrong. You will find Peace, I promise!!!
Not only have these experiences changed your life, but you can bless the lives of others by not treating others the way you were, and also by uplifting those that have been treated bad, helping them to see that there is some Greater Good out in the world.
I pray that this helps in some way.
2006-11-28 17:07:04 · answer #3 · answered by gottaluvalaska 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a variation of what is called Stockholm syndrome, in which an abused person acquires inappropriate sympathy with one's abusers. It will take time and considerable thought for you to internalize this concept, but I think that you may succeed if you persist. It may (or may not) help you proceed to realize that religion does not have answers, cannot help you except to give you an unwarranted fuzzy feeling, and is demonstrably useless. You can, and must, rely on your own intelligence to deal with the issues.
2006-11-28 16:28:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
God loves you so very much. Offer Him all that you have and all that your are. Your sufferings, pains, joys, talents. Stay close in prayer. We are often victims of sin stay strong in the Lord, He's coming soon and it will be O.K. God Bless Dear
2006-11-28 16:29:19 · answer #5 · answered by Gods child 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2Ti 1:7 For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.
Rely on God's word and enter into His rest.
P.S. You can take a smite on the cheek for the cause of Christ, but don't let the devil do it.
God Bless
2006-11-28 16:27:41 · answer #6 · answered by scriptureman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Beat the crap out of something (like a pillow or stuffed animal).
2006-11-28 16:31:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you were tormented and now you feel the need to return the favor?
2006-11-28 16:25:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋