we've been broken up for about 4 months now, but we still sleep together. He still says things to me such as "oh when we get married" or "i'll still think you're attractive when you're 60" or when we "have sex when we're old" he also says he wants to go to places with me if i mention it he says "oh ill go with you to new york"
I don't know how to see this situation. I think he wants to meet other people, but then why talk this way with me? why doesn't he get back together with me? A part of me wants to see if I can meet other people, but a part of me wants to work things out with him.
But he panics when the subject of commitment comes up. I;'m confused as to what to do.
2006-11-28 08:15:32 · 20 answers · asked by coochie1 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
we dated for a year and a half. It's going to be almost 2 years if we still count all this
2006-11-28 08:18:02 · update #1
I know I want him and i've seen other people as well , but he hasn't. I don't know why he hasn't. I've seen about 4 other people
2006-11-28 08:19:08 · update #2
It happens. Sooner or later one of you will get into a relationship w/ someone else and move on. Until then, don't listen to what he says. I hope you're seeing other people too.
2006-11-28 08:17:37 · answer #1 · answered by E B 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Try and talk to him about it and be persistent about addressing the issue. You need to understand where you stand with him, if he says all these things to you then maybe you should call him on them. Like, when he says "oh when we get married" ask him how he expects to be getting married when your not even a couple anymore?
That said though, sometimes you need to except that sometimes people can really suck!! It sounds to me like hes leading you on so he can keep getting what he wants from you until he finds something or someone else and he's trying to say the things he thinks you want to hear so that you will keep letting him come around you. If he won't talk about you getting back together or committing to you, then chances are he doesn't really want that. You may need to distance yourself from him, see other people and see if he persists in seeing you or if he moves on. Either way you'll find out more about his real intentions towards you. And if he buggers off, well then you'll know your better off without someone like that in your life and you'll feel more free to go and meet someone more worthy of your time and affection.
2006-11-28 08:32:24 · answer #2 · answered by West_End_Girl 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I had a bf like this. We were on and off for about 2 yrs. Whenever he was lonely or I would start to move on he would come running back to my bed and pillow talk me. Finally I moved on by moving away. I started seeing someone else and got married. Now we have 2 kids. This ex bf still to this day try’s to get a hold of me. Anyways, I would say to move on and if it's meant to be he'll make the commitment.
2006-11-28 08:35:46 · answer #3 · answered by JAC 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You all have broken up but you still sleep together?, honey this man is using you, he does not want a commitment but wants to have sex with you, dump the jerk move on.
2006-11-28 08:23:10 · answer #4 · answered by lara 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
STOP GIVING YOUR SELF TO HIM!
HE DOES NOT RESPECT YOU!
RESPECT YOURSELF AND STOP PLAYING THE OLD GAMES WITH HIM, HE HAS NOT YET COMMITTED TO YOU, SO WHY WOULD HE NOW!
PLEASE MEET OTHER PEOPLE, MOVE ON, IT IS OVER, HE HAD YOU, AND DID NOT THINK THAT YOU ARE WORTHY TO BE HIS WIFE!
GET OLD TOGETHER? THAT IS WHAT MARRIAGE DOES, YOU GET MARRY YOUNG, GROW OLD TOGETHER AND LOVE LAST FOREVER!
DON'T WORK ANYTHING OUT WITH HIM, ALL YOU ARE TO HIM IS SEX! THAT'S IT! \
SAVE YOURSELF, MEET YOUR OWN NEEDS, FIND THE RIGHT MAN FOR YOU TO LIVE, TO LOVE FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE!
COMMITMENT, THERE ARE MEN, WHO ARE WANTING A WOMAN, JUST TO LOVE AND ACCEPT THEM EXACTLY THE WAY THEY ARE!
LOOK ON THE AVERAGE KIND OF GUY, NOT THE PLAYER, AND THOSE GEEKY GUYS, ARE ONE KIND OF LOVER, PARTNER, AND THE BEST KIND OF HUSBANDS TO HAVE!
LOWERED YOUR STANDARD IN A MAN, KEEP THE EXPECTATIONS DOWN, AND YOU WILL FIND A MAN, WHO WOULD KISS YOUR FEET, AND CHERISHED THE FLOOR YOU WALK ON!
2006-11-28 08:24:32 · answer #5 · answered by ourjacobdavid 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
whoa this will confuse me too
he talks to u about growing old together ok i got it
u r the right chick for him but at the wrong time
he wants to get somethings out of his system then settle down with u which is not fair to you
u need to decide if u want to continue going thru this torture u r only hurting ur self
good luck
2006-11-28 08:19:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
He is not ready for a commitment yet, he wants to be with you but still he wants to try out other things. I believe that in his head he wants to be with you and its part of him that wants still to be single and maybe with other girls. From experience i think you should give him chance to go out there and he'll come back if he really truely wants to be with you.
2006-11-28 08:20:37 · answer #7 · answered by tannaz 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm went throught the same thing ,all i can say is that you have to stop seeing your ex.He probably will never commit,that is how men are ,they get scared and decide to run.Your better off finding somebody else.
2006-11-28 08:21:16 · answer #8 · answered by LaToya T 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I went threw the same thing i liked him so much and all he did was hurt me !! you might really like this guy but you should really move on you never know he could just be using you for one of those " Friends With Benefits " thing !!
2006-11-28 08:26:58 · answer #9 · answered by look_@_the_pretty_deer 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Move on now before you hurt yourself even more. He's having his cake and eating it too. Stop playing into him. He's getting some from you and that's it. Stop sleeping with him!
2006-11-28 08:18:49 · answer #10 · answered by inlovewow 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋