She's gonna bring the baby into the world in December, I'm just clueless about what to do. I've been saving my money like crazy, I've got about $4000, but I don't know if that's gonna be enough. She thinks I'm gonna dump her because she's got a baby comin', but I know I wouldn't leave her, to leave her would just not be right. I've always wanted to be a Father, but not this early in my life. I'm not gonna put the baby up for adoption, that's for sure. I'm just clueless right now. I don't know what to do.
2006-11-28 08:04:10 · 16 answers · asked by Slimm Shady 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Live your life as an example for your child. Love your child. Respect your child's mother. Pray together. The rest will come. Good luck.
2006-11-28 08:08:40 · answer #1 · answered by BUPPY'S MEME 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First: she should have listened to your side of things before making her decision about the baby. It's not just her baby, it's yours too. However, it is her body and she has the right to do with it as she wishes, but a woman who won't listen to her partner's concerns about being a father should just expect a lack of participation from him.
On the other hand, if you were irresponsible enough to get her pregnant, you both deserve what you got. HOWEVER, the baby doesn't deserve bad parents who resent him or her for living.
The best life you can give an unwanted child these days is adoption. Then, a family who is stable and ready for children will choose your baby.
2006-11-28 08:07:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, older enough to make a baby but not mature enough to keep it. If you are older to do the do then you are older enough to take the responsibilities that come with having unprotected sex. Relax and enjoy the moment of seeing your baby for the first time. Don't worry about what you don't have. Right a baby doesn't need much, I know the usually diapers and formula. There is a program WIC (Woman, Infant and Children) that would provide for the formula, etc. and also there is Medicaid especially for pregnant women and infants. But you will need to continue to work to buy diapers, clothes, etc. Welcome to the world of responsibility. You will be fine. Just take a deep breath and relax.
2006-11-28 08:24:17 · answer #3 · answered by kitcat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take it one day at a time. the fact you are going to stick by her and your baby proves one thing...you have the potential to be a great father. most guys wouldn't even do that. don't be so hard on yourself, there are only a few things a baby needs and the most important is two parents that love them. hang in there the years pass quickly and your child needs a daddy like you. comfort your girl and let her know that no matter what you will be there for her. tell her exactly what you posted here. she's scared too and not only of raising a child but having to raise it alone. imagine if it were reversed and you were facing that...not only the physical and emotional stuff of having a baby but thinking the daddy is going to run. stick together, raise your child and just take one day at a time.
2006-11-28 08:12:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
to be honest if you question yourself about keepin the baby or not then its another way of showing your self how not ready you are. Do what's right! This can really affect your life and if you know that you can't support or give the best to your unborn child then you should definitely wait a bit longer before have it. Why? cuz you don't want to bring the baby into this world and let them suffer right?
2006-11-28 16:34:43 · answer #5 · answered by smile 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't know that you'll be a bad father. You already sound better than mine. Everyone has doubts about being a good parent. The fact that you can express those doubts and ask for help is huge. You're also taking actions like saving, which alot of people don't even consider, let alone do.
You will be fine. Things may be difficult, but you will become stronger as you go through it.
2006-11-28 08:08:01 · answer #6 · answered by Earth Queen 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, good for you for saving money, you are miles ahead most guys! You will have plenty of money to buy the things the baby needs, just keep working and know that this is not temporary... this is the REST of your life. Be there for your girlfriend and your child. ALWAYS!
Children bring more joy into the world than anything else.
Good luck and God bless.
2006-11-28 08:08:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Number one, you supporting her wanting your child is the most important. That baby will bring you more joy than you know. Secondly, you wouldn't believe the support you will get, be financially prepared is important, but that is not number one. What you need to do is get your self emotionally prepared. It will be tough, but your going to love that baby the first time you set eyes on him. God already knows that baby and how wonderful they will be for you and the mom. He or she will be your treasure. Check out BabyCenter.com, or have her check it out. It has tons of links for free stuff, coupons..and have the mom sign up for WIC, if they offer it where you live. It will give you money towards formula, milk, and those types of things. I wish the best for your new family!
2006-11-28 08:12:01 · answer #8 · answered by sarahbrooke23 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A baby is a gift from God. Money is'nt evrything. The baby mostly needs love and both parents' support. Responsibility is the price u have to pay at your age. u need 2 accept that u can't turn the tide. Have faith and keep supporting your girl.
2006-11-28 08:22:14 · answer #9 · answered by shekemi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are scared that is good sign. you want to be with her that's also good you are working hard you've saved all that money
I think you are very responsible)(except for the part of getting her preg. before you were ready)
don't worry too much fatherhood comes naturally for some others its hard. but the responsible ones always seem to do well I'm sure you will too
Try finding a book that will help there is nothing wrong with that
2006-11-28 08:11:04 · answer #10 · answered by dreson k 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋