2006-11-28 08:03:08 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Until you are 18 it's "statutory rape" and your fiance can be prosecuted and go to jail. Don't do it til you're 18.
2006-11-28 08:06:11 · answer #1 · answered by Pashta 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having intercourse is okay if the two people involved are adults (depending on where you live, you might or might not be considered an adult, you'll have to check on that yourself), and both want to have intercourse. Those are the only two requirements.
If you're not ready, then don't do it. I know it doesn't feel like it, but you have plenty of time for sex in your lifetimes. You're going to be married, and so will have the rest of your lives together (if you're not planning on being together forever, then you should NOT have sex, and should NOT be getting married, obviously!). So...even if you both die around 70 (life expectancy in US is 77 years 5 months), you have 50 sex-filled years ahead of you! That being said, there's no real reason to wait if you're ABSOLUTELY sure that this is the man you want to spend the rest of your life with, and you're comfortable with your own body. I suggest taking things slow though, there are a lot of things you can do to kind of "work up" to actual intercourse. Try those first, and slowly work up to things that are more intimate. Make "firsts" something special, so you remember them. It's kind of sad when you look back and you can't really remember the first time you did a certain thing.
You also need to find out about birth control. If you are not both complete virgins, then you both need to be tested for STDs (STIs). Here's a site where you can read about birth control:
http://familydoctor.org/016.xml
So!
As long as you're considered to be an adult where you live, and you know this is the man you want to spend the rest of your life with, you're comfortable with your own body, and you have talked about and agreed upon what type of birth control to use, *I* think it's okay for you to become more intimate. Make ABSOLUTELY SURE it's what you want though. Don't rush into anything, you have plenty of time. :)
Good luck!
2006-11-28 08:13:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First things first.. What does the state law where you live say? Alot of states say that a 17 year old is an adult when it comes to sex.. some say 16, some say 18. I would find this out first.
Next.. both parents approving isn't really the key.. it's your parents that have to approve. You're 17 and they're the one's that can bust him if it's technically "illegal" in your home state. If your parents approve of the engagement, I can't see them not approving of sex. Though, you may want to sit down and talk to them about it. I know that's strange, but really, there's no better way of finding out the truth than by asking them. If you've never had sex, you could ask them about sex in general, see what they're response is. If they gasp and get angry, I'd have to guess that you're fiance does not have approval from them...and you'll either have to be really careful, or you'll just have to wait.
I'm guessing however, that you're already having sex.. in which case... be really careful about it.. and hope your parents aren't mad if they find out.
2006-11-28 08:10:03 · answer #3 · answered by mj 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well yeah in the privacy in your own home yeah it's okay. But you are 17 so if an official or someone with authority finds out then you might be in trouble bc he is 20 even though there's not much of an age difference, you should be at least 18.
Good Luck with that
But when you're ready do what you do
XOXO
2006-11-28 08:06:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If both parents approve of this.... Oye... WHo am I kidding...NO ITS NOT OK. ITS ILLEGAL. Picture this. You are still 17 yrs old, and in a month or so, your parents all of a sudden dont like him anymore, or YOU dont like him anymore... anything could happen... and You two break up. NO MORE MR AND MRS NICE GUY.... Your parents will seek swift and hard justice on that guy and he could lose everything. Plus, sex changes how a relationship functions. So if you've got something good, wait till you are 18. Good luck
2006-11-28 08:06:43 · answer #5 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think its ok, as long as no one seems to have a problem. Just always make sure he isn't using you because why is a 20 year old interested in someone 3 years younger? Just something to think about. Good-luck though.
2006-11-28 08:05:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the two of you are about to get married and your parents approve i think you can wait ,it will be better in the long run.
2006-11-28 08:06:38 · answer #7 · answered by LaToya T 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
do you really think a decision this important should be decided by a bunch of strangers online ? why not discuss it between yourselves, put aside the powerful pull of sex and discuss it logically the pro's and con's. consider your morals and whats important to you both.
2006-11-28 08:05:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
depends on your state's statutory rape laws. I strongly suggest looking them up, for your fiance's sake.
Why do you have a fiance at 17 anyway?
2006-11-28 08:06:20 · answer #9 · answered by Uncommon Sense 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Intercourse is never okay until after marriage. Since he is going to marry you just wait til the wedding night.
2006-11-28 08:05:03 · answer #10 · answered by kitcat 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋