and i'm not sure what to do, since he broke up with me we've become closer and we both still really love each other, we never did much more than kiss together, i'm still a virgin but he isn't. We were talking and i told him a few concerns i'd have. One was i don't want any angry girlfriends chasing me down. He convinced me he'd never cheat on a girlfriend of his, and he would never put me in that position. We were also talking about hypothetical situations, like if you broke up with someone then hooked up for only one time then the person you hooked up with is like oh sorry were not going to get together it was a mistake would you be mad. So i told him that in that situation i would be mad, and i kinda told him that i'm not just someone he can use. He told me he'd never do that do me and i belive him. According to him when a couple breaks up then hooks up they ususally end up getting back together. I love him still and I want to, i think if we do then we'll end up getting back together
2006-11-28 08:00:49 · 24 answers · asked by Jessie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Are you nuts? Don't sleep with him to get him back!
2006-11-28 08:05:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are a virgin then stay one till you meet that guy that is willing to make a life long commitment to you. If he really loves you then he will be willing to wait and do it the right way. He is having sex with other people and now wants to have it with you, who will be next? Sounds like who ever he can talk into it. Have you also thought about the fact that if he is having sex with other people that he might have contracted something that you don't want. Guys are predators and like the chase and the challenge of conquering their prey and right now you are the prey that he has in his sights. He will tell you what ever you want to hear to get into your pants, don't fall for it. It is great to get free milk from the cow without having any responsibility to taking care of it. Think about it, you have saved your self up to this point for a reason, don't throw it away over a few minutes of pleasure that you will regret when you meet Mister Right.
Look at this from a different point, one day you will more than likely have children. What would your advice be to your daughter if she was to ask you this question?
2006-11-28 08:20:45 · answer #2 · answered by David T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He broke up with you? and now you are closer? I don't think so. If you are still a virgin then stay that way. Having sex with him is not the way to keep him. He is practically telling you that all he wants is sex and I quote " like if you broke up with someone then hooked up for only one time then the person you hooked up with is like oh sorry were not going to get together". Find someone who will respect the fact that you are a virgin and will wait for YOU.
2006-11-28 08:12:31 · answer #3 · answered by m2little 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl listen to me, if he wants to be with you tell him it all or nothing, he cannot have one foot out and another in, the "usually" get back together, didnt you see he is not making any commitments to you, its just a bunch of maybe's. Can you really handle falling completely for him and then he goes off with someone else right after you give yourself to him. Think about it, it is ultimately your decision, don't take but and maybes consider facts.
2006-11-28 08:08:41 · answer #4 · answered by West_Indian goddess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please please please do not sleep with this guy. Especially do not let him be your first. He knows you still love him and he knows he has some degree of control over you. He will use you and leave you in the dust for someone else. He wants the power trip of knowing he can be the first to have you and because you still love him, he feels soooo in control.
Tell him if people end up getting back together after sex, you can spare yourselves the mystery and just get married now. Otherwise, he may go along and say you're back together, take away your MOST precious gift, and leave you with a broken heart.
This guy sounds like a very talented player.
Please respect yourself and dump this guy for good!
2006-11-28 08:05:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Do not have sex with that man. You should wait till your married at least. What if he is not the perfect guy for you. Maybe he is getting close to you because he wants to have sex with you. Always that thing in the back of their mind. Don't do it, You will thank me in the future!!!!!
2006-11-28 08:05:09 · answer #6 · answered by Jihad Y 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He broke up with you but now wants to have sex with you. He's a jerk. If you love him, have sex with him when you get married. Don't have sex with a person who dumped you, then keeps in contact, then tries to convince you that sex is normal. He just wants to get laid and there's no one else available.
2006-11-28 08:05:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
What a bunch of Bull sh***. He is lying his butt off to get into your pants girl! If he wanted you that bad he would go out with you for awhile like a long while first and BTH...if you have to think on it Do Not Do It...you only have the first time once...make it with somebody special and not somebody that has already broken your heart.
Think about this.....when you get to be older women actually get together and trade 1st time stories...are you going to tell them that you gave it up to this guy...they Will laugh their butts off at how innocent and dumb you where to fall for the oldest line in the world! Trust me on this one.
2006-11-28 08:08:25 · answer #8 · answered by PRISSY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He broke up with you, and you would consider having sex with him! sounds foolish... I would search for a new man, one where you both fall in love, then think about sex. Don't just do it cause you still love him, that feeling will last for awhile, but it does fade away, he broke your heart. You will find someone who is worthy of you!!!
2006-11-28 08:05:45 · answer #9 · answered by lovin what I got 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He wants to have sex with you do not let him play with your head. It your body and you said no so he needs stop pushing you. If you sleep with him and then he dumps you like yesterday garbage you will feel stupid. He a guy and say or do anything to get woman in bed.
2006-11-28 08:07:00 · answer #10 · answered by Disha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He only wants the conquest don't you know that? Something so precious given away to such a jerk. Wait until your older and find that person that won't walk away no matter what, then marry him>
2006-11-28 08:06:45 · answer #11 · answered by Conrey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋