I am in this relationship, living with him and all. i am so deeply in love with him, but it feels like he does not appreciate me much. gets mad cuz i dont smile when im cleaning up after him. pushes me away when i ask for attention. wut would u do? girls and guys
2006-11-28 07:41:30 · 32 answers · asked by Ashes 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
"Familiarity Breeds Contempt"...
Tell him to wise up or you are leaving..
He has become lazy, complacent and is taking you for granted...
2006-11-28 07:44:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think its best if u leave his *** because he is treating very bad and until u move on with your life he is not going 2 treat u any better. if he pushes u around when u ask 4 attention its probably b/c he doesn't feel the same about u as he did before and u should not have 2 clean after him he needs 2 do it by himself if not he should get a maid or get his mom to do it. trust me the best thing 4 u 2 do right now is to leave him and move on and find someone else that will treat u better than this one. well i hope u make a wise choice and good luck. best wishes.
2006-11-28 07:48:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you, I would tell him how it's going to be. You may end up losing him because he really may not appreciate you, but it's better to lose him now than to spend your whole life being pushed around and not appreciated. Tell him that you don't like always cleaning up after him and he should help since I assume all of his arms and legs work just fine. He's testing you to see how much he can get away with not doing...put it to a stop now! My fiance was like that, but finally I said that I don't mind taking out the trash, doing dishes, etc, but the laundry sent me over the top because he would walk in the back door and all of his clothes would hit the floor in the middle of the kitchen. I finally said that I would not wash anything that wasn't in the hamper. He went about a week before he ran out of boxers...then to my surprise, HE CLEANED!!! Trust me, you should put a stop to it before you have kids, because it will only get worse. Good Luck!
2006-11-28 07:49:08 · answer #3 · answered by Christy K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in an abusive relationship. Get out. Why would a person who loves you do that and why would you think it is ok? Do you think he will stop? Do you think he will be nice and not pick at other things you do...what if you actually forget to pick up after him and don't smile ? run baby run!
Can you imagine if he did this to your children? There is no future nice family with happy loving people..there is a tyrant that must be served and obeyed at all time...bad bad bad
2006-11-28 07:47:44 · answer #4 · answered by PRISSY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would completely end it, what are you, his hired help? he has no right to treat you that way. I've been in a similar situation, and sometimes no matter how much you love someone, they'll never love you back. no matter how much they say they do, He is NOT the only person in this world who you can have a relationship with, there are so many more promising options for you darlin, don't give them up for this sleeze.
2006-11-28 07:45:54 · answer #5 · answered by avemaria 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont leave yet talk to him first tell your want more affection or you will leave...(i have had a good girl leave me due to me not showing affection becuz of that i will never let that be a reason for me to lose someone again) and after a while if he doesnt show appreciation then you may have to leave him....but on the smile while you clean tip tell him that is ridiculous and if he wants someone to smile while they clean then he needs to do the cleaning....
2006-11-28 07:46:42 · answer #6 · answered by the one 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of relationships feel like the other is not appreciated. It seems as we get comfortable with one another, we take one another for granted. If you are acting insecure, if you are bothering him for attention quite often, you are going to push him away. Your best bet is to occupy yourself, pay less attention to him and seem more happy go lucky. You want his attention because he wants to give it to you, not because you are asking for it. So make him WANT to be attentive to you.
2006-11-28 07:48:53 · answer #7 · answered by kandekizzez 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't waste your time with someone who doesn't appreciate you, I did that for 3 and a half years, and now I look back at how stupid I was for staying, and how much of my life I wasted being unhappy, there's better out there sweetie! Keep your head up!
2006-11-28 07:46:23 · answer #8 · answered by Kel E 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him and move on. Life is too short. You feel uncertain about it now, but youll be laughing about it the next year while some caring dude cuddles into your ears and respects you...
dont miss the life, it wont come to get you into your home ;)
2006-11-28 07:45:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like my last relationship. It was also a lot of verbal and mental abuse and probably gotten to the physical.
No man should treat you that way! You deserve better then that. Sounds like you want to leave him as well. Think of it like this..... Do you want to stay like this for the rest of your life???? You can find a better man. I did and he treats me great and we support each other and help each other with things as well.
Good luck to you.
2006-11-28 07:47:38 · answer #10 · answered by moo shell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy kinda sounds like a bad deal. If you feel like you're not getting anything good out of the relationship drop him. Follow your instinct!
2006-11-28 07:45:03 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋