My girlfriend loves me to bits but i don't feel the same. How do i dump her without huting her feelings?

Answer 1

Shoot her in the back of the head when she isn't expecting it.

Quick and painless!

Answer 2

As a girl, I know how we can get so incredibly attached to our special someones, so it's pretty much always going to involve some hurt when your break up. Just make sure you don't dump her in an email, on msn, or over the phone, because those are the first mistakes a few guys make! Get alone with her at some point when you see her, and start off by saying how you think she's an awesome girl, and it makes you feel great that she loves you so much, but that you don't think it's going to work out. It's the only thing to do. She might get either really angry or sad, so be prepared. And don't say "let's just be friends" because we all know that means "I never want to talk to you again." If you end up remaining friends after all this, you'll know you've done something right. Best of luck!

Answer 3

Firstly dont DUMP her bring her somewhere she can get upset in private be as honest as possible say something like

"you are a very good decent person and that is why I have to be honest with you I have enjoyed our time together but I dont feel strongly about us in the boyfriend/girlfriend way.

Now, do not say "we can still be friends" unless you really mean it and you think she wants it, ask her if she does but to be honest it hurts even more when guys say that because the partner that loves the other will always hope they'll change their mind. Be nice to her, she is'nt the love of your life but she deserves respect, hold her and comfort her if she cries and then when you get if you get to talk on civil terms after the initial shock you can say I'm going to go now, I'm sorry if I cause you any hurt but there is no point in me dragging out a relationship I feel does not have a future.
Do walk away dont text or call her unless you really change your mind.
Dont go to places she is going to bump into you for a while dont bring a new girl to places she might be this will help her to get over you. Good luck.

Answer 4

Man up and talk with her. You should tell her honestly how you are feeling-face to face! Do not use an e-mail or a phone call! Ignoring the person is never good. They never resolve in their minds what they did wrong or why you don't love them. Just be honest, hold her when she cries...tell you that you're sorry and then move on. Prepare for some sadness on her part and know that she will want to try to keep in touch with you for a few weeks, calling, e-mailing you, looking at myspace, that kind of stuff. Don't be mean to her, she is hurting.

Sorry been there done that not to long ago.

Answer 5

Be prepared to do some explaining. If she loves you so much she'll need to know why you don't feel the same way. There's no easy way to break up, someone always gets hurt. Just be gentle and be honest. You can't help the way you feel. A friend of mine is in the same position and he's miserable most of the time. Life's too short to spend it with someone who doesn't make you happy.

Answer 6

You can't dump someone who cares about you without hurting their feelings but what you have to accept that is that by causing an immediate hurt (dumping her) you're saving her a bigger amount of hurt in the future (when she may feel even more for you and have become even more involved in your life). So, just be honest with her and tell her you want to break up. Maybe one day you'll be friends but you will have to accept that may not happen.

Answer 7

You can't "Dump" her without hurting her as well you know!

You shouldn't have let the relationship develop so far if you didn't have feelings for her- that was a mistake!

But I would make sure you don't have feelings before you end things, there is many a man made that mistake!!
But once you have made your decision - then stick to it and don't be going back for sexual favours. That is mean!

Answer 8

oooooo...... difficult one, but if u dump her by letter / phone / text, then u are just a coward..... she deserves to be told to her face. u need to sit her down, and tell her that u care for her very much, but u don't feel that u are ready for a serious / steady relationship with her. say that u really value her friendship, and that u would like to remain friends. and then make sure u treat her as a friend, don't just say these things and then let her down. and if i were u i wouldn't date anyone for at least a couple of weeks, maybe more, and don't rub it in her face...... she won't want to know the details of your new relationship, she will still be hurting. it's not going to be easy, but at least she won't be under the false impression that u love her the same way that she loves u. hope it goes as well as it possibly can.

Answer 9

to be totally honest with you. you can't, sorry, at least i don't think you can. try looking in a book or something, that bald head writer might have written one. but to the best of my knowledge if they love you and you're gonna dump them then it's bound to hurt. if you're still stuck, look back into your past and try to remember how you were dumped when you loved someone to bits and use the one that hurt the least.

Answer 10

be as gentle as you can without patronising and dont do the can we just be friends bit as this doesnt work we want all or nothing. if you can be friends after she has got over you then thats brilliant. just be honest and tell her to her face and dont do the sympathy vote as she may cry in front of you and you may go back with her just out of sympathy. so be firm but gentle!

Answer 11

When someone dumps another feelings will always be hurt. Just be as kind as possible. Be honest, but kindly.