How does it feel to be parents for the first time?

Question

We are trying to become one for last 2 years but without success. Its a cause of constant depression between us. I want to know hoe does it feel to be mom or a dad for the first time. May be your beautiful experiences will provide some cheer to us and particularly to my spouse.

Answer 1

I am a single Mother, so I get all the love & attention. My son is 21 months old & I STILL HOLD HIM WHILE HE SLEEPS & CRY WITH JOY. I still say out loud to myself to this day " I'm a Mommy!!!!! ". This is the best experience of my life!!!!!

Good luck to you and your spouse!!! Best wishes too!!!!
Here's some chreeful poems for you to enjoy!!

Baby's Choice

Did you ever think, dear Mother,
As the seeds of me you sowed,
As you breathed new life inside of me
And slowly watched me grow,

In all your dreams about me
When you planned me out so well,
When you couldn't wait to have me there
Inside your heart to dwell,

Did you ever think that maybe,
I was planning for you, too,
And choosing for my very own
A mother just like you?

A mother who smelled sweet and who
had hands so creamy white,
A tender, loving creature
Who would soothe me in the night?

Did you ever think in all those days
While you were coming due,
That as you planned a life for me
I sought a life with you?

And now as I lay in your arms,
I wonder if you knew
While you were busy making me,
I was choosing you!


What I wrote for my son's Father- not together
“Remember You’re His Daddy”

Remember you’re his Daddy
when he’s crying late at night,
when he needs a little loving
to know that it’s alright.

Remember you’re his Daddy
when you’re playing with his toys,
when you take the time to teach him
how you both can be good boys.

Remember you’re his Daddy
when he’s had a real rough day,
when school’s been very tough on him
and nothing’s went his way.

Remember you’re his Daddy
when he makes you very proud,
when in a very awkward way
he stands out in a crowd.

Remember you’re his Daddy
as he grows before your eyes,
stop to talk and listen
before it’s time for your goodbyes.

Remember you’re his Daddy
and that special day you & I shared,
in creating our precious lil boy
for us to love, hold and care.

Remember you’re his Daddy
and I his Mommy too
this poem being wrote of my love,
that now ends with a simple
"I Love You".


What I wrote for my son's 1st Birthday

From the moment I found out that you chose me to be your mother, I had more joy and love for you than I have ever had in my life. The wait for you to be in my arms seemed like forever. You have turned a year old now. I have had so much joy watching you grow. I will always cherish your accomplishments, from you 1st smile, laugh, 2 front teeth, to you rolling over, sitting up, and standing. And when you took your 1st steps and got so excited, I cried in excitement with you. I thank the heavens above everyday to be blessed with such a bundle of jot that you are. You are Mommy's pride and joy!!

Hope you enjoyed!!

Answer 2

Becoming a parent for the first time is like falling in love. That is the only way I can describe the feeling.

I don't know how you and your spouse feel about adoption, but you might want to consider it. I understand the feeling is the same whether it is your child biologically or by choice. I also understand that sometimes when the pressure to get pregnant is not there it happens easier. I wish both of you the best of luck.

Answer 3

It was a extremely scary at first (unexpected) but I was married and it was 2 weeks before I turned 19, I LOVED the pregnancy and the childbirth was a litle rough but hey I got a beautiful daughter out of it. The first few weeks of having her at home were extremely tiring and very stressful you could have cut the tension with a knife. As she got older and I put her on formula at around 6 weeks old because she was so very fussy with my breastmilk but now she is 10 months old and when she pulls up onto the bed comforter in our room with her little eyes peeking over nothing else in the world matters and I have decided that no matter what I would give my daughter the world (or try :)

Answer 4

The first 24 hours went like this: (after he was born)
-"oh my God" bewilderment
-dibelief - that we actually made this little person
-concern and panic (our baby was in the NICU for a couple of hours because he was in distress when he was born)
-complete adoration when he was finally brought to me
-happiness
-sadness - at the thought of anything ever happening to him
-worry - how am I going to do this being a mom thing?
-relaxation - when my son & I were finally left alone that first night
-comfort and at peace with everything

Now 3 years later I can tell you he can be VERY frustrating at times but nothing will ever come close to the complete love & adoration that I have for that little boy. I still am amazed that we made such a perfect person. A complete miracle I tell you.

Answer 5

after miscarriages, I finally concieved. I was worried it would happen again but This past July I gave birth to a baby girl and it was the most amazing moment of my life. I got to hold the tiny baby that kicked me and made me hungry all the time. It was alot different with her. I was afraid I wasn't doing things right but she turned out fine and doing weell at 4 months. Here's something I want to share with you. It's a poem and as a new parent it is how I would explain being a new parent.

before you were concieved, i wanted you
before you were born, i loved you
before you were here an hour, i'd die for you
this is the miracle of life

Answer 6

Your life changes dramatically. Not bad changes, but changes none the less. Suddenly you have this little helpless little person that absolutely dependent on you and you are responsible for, for the next 18 years. Your whole life revolves around this being for the next 18 years, and then you stand by helplessly and watch them go off to college or the military and there isn't a thing you can do about it. That's the toughest thing about raising kids-letting them go.

Answer 7

My child has been the best thing that has happened to me. No words can explain the love i have for my son. My whole life and world changed. I wish you the same feeling, I can guarantee there is no feeling like having a child. I wish you and your spouse the best of luck!

Answer 8

it's the most wonderful thing that 2 people can experience together, nowing that the 2 of you made a life and get to see it for the first time and hold your baby in your arms is more than i can say. good luck to the both of you and your family!!

Answer 9

It is incredible!!!! You have no idea that you could love anyone so much, who you just met. You immediately want to do everything in your power to protect that baby and you believe that it is the most beautiful child on the face of the planet! I felt that way about the birth of both of my sons. As soon as they were born and I heard th first cry I began to cry out of sheer happiness, my husband kept kissing my forehead and couldn't wait to cut the cords and hold them. Good luck!

Answer 10

Totaly awesome. I saw my son pop into the world and I am positive that time stood still for a moment to let me view the the future I was holding in my arms.