Do you think it is wrong to not have friends?

Question

Before you even say anything, I'm not interested in changing, I'm just looking for differant oppinions that what have been given to me.

I don't have any friends, none at all. And I'm happy with it. I am 17, one class from finishing highschool, and I live with my mother. The last "friend" I had was in the 6th grade. I say "friend" because I never really was good at talking with people.

If someone in school talks to me, I inore them. This ofcourse causes some people to become offended, and like humans do, attack me(verbaly, mostly). People seem to be so offended that I choose not to partake in the same social activities that they do.

My Mother has sent me to many therapists who have tried to do nothing but put me on differant drugs, that I refuse to take. I'm no longer depressed, now that I understand myself. I'm very happy with my hobbies, very happy alone. I don't plan to have a mate, or any one to live with.

I am very happy with the though of this life, do you think it is wrong?

Answer 1

Having no friends, and having no desire for social interaction isn't wrong. It may be not normal, but nobody's "normal".

If you don't want friends, don't have any. However, I'm concerned about how you treat others at school. You say you ignore people if they talk to you. That isn't a good thing to do. You don't have to be friends with anyone if you don't want to, but you do have to communicate with others. Unless you have enough money to live my yourself and have food and other supplies delivered to you, then you have to interact with the world. Maybe the people who are offended are only offended that you are rude, and not because you choose not to partake in the same social activities that they do. You don't need to attend any social activities, or have friends, but do you need to be civil to others.

Maybe try working on simply being polite to other people. If you are ignoring everyone because you don't want anything to do with them, then suck it up and just be polite and civil. You don't need to make friends with people or be friendly or even be nice, you just need to work on being polite and civil.

However, if you ignore people because you are scared of talking to them, because you don't know how, but you secretly would like to be able to have a pleasant polite conversation with others once in a while, then you can still start by trying to be polite to others.

If you are happy, then that's great, but it's not okay to be mean to people. It's not wrong to not have friends, but it IS wrong to be mean to people.

If you're interested in therapy possibly, then you should try going to a psychologist instead of a psychiatrist. I may be wrong, but I think a psychologist deals with behavior and pretty much talks with you and tries to help you that way, and a psychiatrist prescribes medicine. I'm sure your mom would be happy to arrange an appointment with that type of therapist (the kind that doesn't prescribe medicine) if you would let her know that you don't want drugs, but you would like a professional to talk to.

Good luck!

Answer 2

You may be antisocial. I'm like that too. I have a few friends, but I prefer to be alone and sometimes I can't be bothered to connect with people.

It may not be the healthiest way to go about life, but it sounds like you're happy. What IS interesting is that you're reaching out to others in this virtual environment. Is that because there is no one else in your life to check your perceptions? Friends would provide that.

My guess is that you will make friends when you need them and, until then, you will continue to function just fine in the world. Don't let other people define who you should be and what that should look like. Only you know what is best. When your isolation starts to not be the right thing for you, you'll know.

Answer 3

humans like many other species need other humans. have u ever seen those animalshows on animal planet, have u noticed all the animals of the same species run in the same pack or lived near one another. even ants need one another.

we are social creatures without each other we tend to become sick more often than usual and depressed more.

i think u may have a social problem. the fact that u ignore people when they talk to u and wonder why they become offended, makes me say that, normal people don't just ignore everyone like that. its possible for them to say something rude, but its not normal to simply ignore the world around u.

as long as u r willing to help yourself u can overcome this with therapy. so basically i think it is wrong. u don't neeed a lot of fiends just a few good one's.

Answer 4

You will find as you grow older that your mother just won't cut it anymore. It seems like an OEdipal complex if you ask me (and you did). You need to realize that in a few years, mom's not always going to be there. You can't be friends with the television or the internet for a long time (I found this out myself). Eventually, you will need social acceptance in any area of your life (work, school, society, etc...). It is a human desire that needs constant fulfilling. You may have told yourself that you don't need friends right now, but the fact is, you don't rely on friends. You need someone to say to you (besides your mother, of course) that you're doing a good job, or that they appreciate your work or that without you, they would have never thought of that. As a human, you are bound for greatness: It's in your DNA to succeed. You can't work at the Dairy Queen for the next 50 years and call it quits with life. It seems like your inability to want friendship or acceptance is edging suicidal tendencies. I know you're not depressed, but one day, you're going to do something funny or something great or something that nobody has ever done before or will do again and nobody will be around to see it. You'll laugh or wonder about what it is you just did, and it will be gone like a fart in the wind. As an essential part of Maslow's heirarchy of needs, you can't really accomplish much without friends or social acceptance. I mean, find out what you like doing and you will find others who agree with you. Right now, there may be what feels like a pinhole in your soul, but in the very near future, it will be a gaping crevice and you won't know how to fill it.
Sure, kids will be kids and your peers will attack you because they don't understand you. However, you don't think there is at least one other person at your school or in your town who can appreciate you, and be appreciated by you? MOVE!! Go to NYC, go to Rome, go to Japan, go to Wisconsin; go anywhere, but for the love of god, FIND YOURSELF.

Answer 5

Yes, it's wrong. You don't have friends because you don't know how to relate to other people, so you cop-out and say you are happy with who you are. That's not true and you know it.

If you refuse to take the medications, fine. But you really do need to participate in the therapy. You will be even more miserable, bitter and lonely as you get older.

Answer 6

i don't think it's wrong...it's your life style...i'm the same way but not quite as bad...i just have to people taht i call friends...i have a best friend and then a good friend...and it's been that way since 7th grade...i have fun and i talk with them but i don't go and party, i don't drink, i don't go to dances...and that's just because i'm not interested in those things...i do have alot of aquaintances at school but that's it..other than my best friends...it's ok to have aquaintances...but what worries me about you is that if people talk to you..you ignore them...you're almost out of highschool and you need to know how to communicate with other people to get along and survive in this world...so i wouldn't ignore them completely because then they think you're stuck up and attack when i'm sure you're a sweet girl...you don't have to be "friends" with them you just have to be nice to them...other than taht i would say if it makes you happy the way you are with no friends then keep doing it...do what makes you happy...it doesn't matter what others think..

Answer 7

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Answer 8

No, there is nothing wrong with likeing to be alone but every so often you should extend the olive branch to the nicest person that you know. i like being alone too and i think that you are not crazy but just dont like to socialize.

Answer 9

no i am like you i don't have anyone to go out with or be friends with. i don't have a cell phone cause i don't have anyone to call. but i wonder to me why i am here on this earth cause no one likes me and i don't have a bf or husband and is work the reason for my existance?

Answer 10

If you are happy doing that.. then you do it. You control your own life.