We've played in a band together for 2 1/2 years. We write music together and sing together. We fell in love but I was married. About 2 years ago I ended things because I didn't want to hurt my daughters and I didn't want to have an affair. About a year goes by and I start to realize I still really love her so I tell her. I'm even willing to change my life for her. She's says she's moved on. She loves me but she's not in love with me. I'm pretty tore up because I feel I've lost what could be the love of my life. She doesn't want me to quit the band. She says she's sort of seeing someone but doesn't know where it's going. When I told her I loved her she sounded like she got kind of mad and said it was me who wanted to end things. I'm torn between staying and trying to win her back or quitting the band becasue it is just to painful to see her. Help...
2006-11-28 07:32:19 · 6 answers · asked by sam 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why do you have to quit the band. I don't think that you do. Look at Fleetwood Mac and No Doubt. They stayed together after bandmates broke up.
You can't make someone love you. Do you really want to give up that type of friendship and your band? Some of the best music comes from that type of relationship.
2006-11-28 07:37:33 · answer #1 · answered by Denise G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
damn dude, how good is the band? One thing I've learned from the pain of relationships is that it always goes away. But I've never been in a situation like yours where you have to be so close. I mean a marching band is one thing, but a rock band is totally different, you guys have to be close. Hence my question. Is the band good enough to go through the pain. Cause you will feel the pain. Closure was the only thing that began the healing process for me.
2006-11-28 16:40:14 · answer #2 · answered by Clarence T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay with your family.
Change the band and play if you must.
She is not only right but bright in this respect.
Respect your previous decision, and her present decision. But you must put distance between you and her, to be able to get no with your family life, so she can get on with her.
Things happen but must go on with your life.
2006-11-28 15:45:43 · answer #3 · answered by minootoo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she loves u now too....and u also love her...them whats the problem? go on,...tell her the truth,...u two if are made for each other...then why are u two in a hitch to go with each other
go on! u need to have some courage
2006-11-28 15:38:10 · answer #4 · answered by catty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
same situation to me also let us hope some out come
2006-11-29 03:53:05 · answer #5 · answered by roaringlion 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
avoid your dream
2006-11-28 19:04:42 · answer #6 · answered by keral 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋