when I was young (10 or 11 years old), my nieces used to offend me like how I did my hair coz I never let it fall down my back, I always used to tie it in a braid also I used to wear pants and I wore skirts in occasions and stuff like that, also they always teased me when I pronounced some words in french just becoz I used to go to an English school and not a french one. Well I'm 22 now and I still think they make fun of me behind my back, they're always judgemental even to their closest friends, they're closer to my sis than me, they like her better than they like me, I dunno, I just don't feel comfortable with them, should I attend any weddings or engagements for them or will it just make it worse, and they'll end up judging my dress or something..they're older than me by 3 to 5 years..I dunno if they did that coz they wanted me to look better and dress better, I felt offended not cared for..why were they like that..do they deserve me to be friends with them and attend weddings?
2006-11-28 07:28:21 · 8 answers · asked by what goes around comes around 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Most people who act like that are using it defensively because they're jealous. So don't feel bad. They're ugly people, inside and most likely out. Only go if you want to go to events/occassions. Otherwise, don't waste your time and don't give them the pleasure of being able to make you feel like crap. If they say something nasty to you just smile and nod and say "Thanks for letting me know...I had NO idea..." and then walk away. They want a reaction out of you and if you respond politely and sweetly they'll either stop or get really pissed off. My mother always taught me "Kill 'em with kindness"...and it works almost every time!
2006-11-28 07:34:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although they hurt your feelings. I really don't think that they dislike you. I'd say go to the family function. Then this is what you do. Go to your local mall find someone in the store. Try a young black, female, noone to young and not to old. Tell her where your going and you want to look very nice and could she help you out with picking some outfits. Then in your room at night or the bathroom work on a new hair style. Make sure it's a new style. Get it down. Don't tell noone about your surprise. The day of just walk out with all the confidence you have been surpressing. Good Luck and GOD BLESS!!!!!
2006-11-28 08:04:11 · answer #2 · answered by kryptonnite2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If someone asks your opinion that should mean they are willing to hear your true opinion. I usually say something like, "Do you really want to know what I think about (a) your new boyfriend, (b) that hat! (c) the candidate you didn't vote for?" Fortunately, few of my friends are the type who would fly off the handle. But I'm not a female and neither are my friends. Females have to be handled differently.
2016-05-22 22:58:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't have to be their friends - but, i'd go to the wedding if i were you. so, they like your sis better - don't worry - you probably don't want, and certainly don't have to be their friend. but, back to the wedding - i'd want to go and make a smash - go to the beauty parlor, get a new hair do, have your make-up done professionally and get a dynamite outfit. if they want to be judgmental, then give them a good reason. look your best and make them feel dumpy. don't let them intimidate you to the point where you are uncomfortable with them. you are the only one who can make it worse -- by worrying what they are thinking or saying. why not give them some of their own medicine, give them a compliment with a twist - like - that's a beautiful dress but it does make you look a little heavy (or, a little too thin, if they are skinny). after hearing something negative about themselves, they won't be worrying about you. they'll be worrying what people are thinking about them. i know this is mean, but sometimes you have to give back to people who give out. go to the functions and make them fun for yourself.
2006-11-28 08:39:17 · answer #4 · answered by try 2 help 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, attend all family functions. The people in your family are always your worst enemies, so if you can beat them at there own game then you can beat others who will put you down as well.
2006-11-28 07:32:36 · answer #5 · answered by Kawainani 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since they are family I would go. But you do not have to be all buddy with them. Don't pay any attention to what they say, as most likely they are just jealous anyway. Go have fun at their expense and let it go.
2006-11-28 07:31:45 · answer #6 · answered by mayihelpyou 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would do the whole family bit-show up to the weddings and things but don't get too involved. Keep your distance.
2006-11-28 07:31:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
id ask what there issues with you is and DEFINATLEY wouldnt care what they think or say.. and you should attend the functions to show them your better then they are and who cares about them.
2006-11-28 07:31:23 · answer #8 · answered by rocs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋