i just recently started dating this guy, and my feelings have been all mixed up inside and ive come to the conclusion that im afraid to be in a relationship. Sometimes i just cant wait to see him and other times i think to myself what am i doing!? should i give it a chance or break it off?
2006-11-28 07:26:18 · 25 answers · asked by shelly s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Make a pro/con list. You seem conflicted. What is holding you back? Is it because he doesn't seem like a good potential boyfriend (dishonest, untrustworthy?) or is it because you've been hurt in the past and/or don't want to let you guard down? If it's the latter I suggest giving it a try. YOu never know...something GREAT could come out of this.
2006-11-28 07:28:51 · answer #1 · answered by Mimi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow this is exactly what I am going through. have you recently been through a really hard break up and the good memories of the past are making it hard for you to move on? Sometimes I feel that is my problem. Sometimes people rush into relationships to fill a void that they realize has to be filled on their own first and other times people believe that they need to be with someone to be happy. If you are uncertain be fair to him and talk to him about it, see how he feels, give him the choice if he wants to be in an unsure relationship or not. Its hard but communication is key.
Good luck.
2006-11-28 15:30:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand how you feel I know start off in a new relationship it can get a little confusing. I to am afraid of getting into a relationship with someone & when it happen's your always asking yourself is it worth it. if he doesn't call, text msg, e-mail, your really thinking the wrost about him. My advice for you is take that chance take it slow & easy one day at a time, get on board & ride that roller coster ride yes in a relationship there will be up's & down's but if you two are willing to take a chance than it could be the best pay off & etc.
2006-11-28 15:38:38 · answer #3 · answered by mssassy0104 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dang! That's rough. I know the feeling. People always say listen to your heart. If you have a soft heart then you'll just stay in the relationship. If he doesn't make you feel good or keep you happy let go. Don't put yourself through something your afraid of! It's only gonna mess with your head and make you crazy. See how long you can go without calling...maybe your like me and you like attention.
2006-11-28 15:29:40 · answer #4 · answered by SarahBear 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are that mixed up you need to tell him. Take a break. It will not be good for either one of you if you are not all in it. Nothing good can come out of something you are not sure of. Dont lose contact with him, you dont want to break it off for good but just take your time and maybe go out once everyother week as friends and see where it can take you.
2006-11-28 15:31:36 · answer #5 · answered by Angela 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey gurlfriend! you're not alone. Ive once felt the way u did. I came to realise that it was only infatuation n the thought of having a boyfriend is kinda thrilling. But eventually when it wore on, there is nothing much to it. so, i suggest u just take it easy n enjoy the company n experience of having a bf. Its no big deal n its not like ure getting married tomorrow. So, chill =)
2006-11-28 15:30:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say you should think about if you did stop seeing him if you would truely miss him or really have a better outlook on life. It sounds like it isn't about him as much as it is about you. Do you really want to be in a relationship?... If your really are afraid it might take some time for you to be ready.
God bless
2006-11-28 15:29:25 · answer #7 · answered by sleighthames 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've just started dating him and you're really not that into him, break it off now. No point in staying in the relationship it will just make it harder to break up in the end
2006-11-28 15:28:01 · answer #8 · answered by volcomgrly23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think every one is a little scared of being in a relationship, because you are not only involving someone else feelings as well as yours. Its normal I would say take it one step at a time
give it a chance.
Good Luck!
2006-11-28 15:32:09 · answer #9 · answered by Mizz Shell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How I wish I new what I know now when I was young! Trust me -there are tons of great mates out there for you. If you have to question yourself about the value of the relationship, you've answered your own question!
RUN... RUN ... RUN!
Find someone who makes you feel good about yourself and that you can't live without!
2006-11-28 15:31:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋