As I have posted before, my boyfriend's best friend has recently passed and he never told me. I found out through someone else. I would have thought he would have at least called to tell me. I have called and texted him telling him I care about him and hope he is okay. I haven't heard from him in a few days and I got angry and texted him saying "Call me if you care. I'm worried" I felt horrible for doing that right afterwards. I followed up with a text saying. "Sorry for being selfish, I care about you and am worried that's all. Call me when you are ready. I'm sorry and hope youre ok xoxo". I really care about him and he knows this. I'm just so sad he hasn't called to tell me. We got along well the last time we talked and he said he missed me and would see me soon. I'm not going to text or call anymore. Do you think I caused to much damage? Is it time to move on anyway?
2006-11-28 07:18:21 · 13 answers · asked by confused soul 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would just give him time. You have done all you can do. You told him you are there for him. He obviously just needs to be alone at the moment or spending time with his family or his friend's family.
Just be patient. He'll come to you when he's ready. The very best thing you can do for him is just be patient. He'll appreciate that in the end.
2006-11-28 07:22:19 · answer #1 · answered by wendyshannon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think you did any damage. I recently lost my father. For a few days my boyfriend was calling me letting me know how much he cared about me. I was just in so much pain that I didn't want to talk to anyone. He's not upset with you. He's just in mourning. Give him time. He will come around. It's hard to lose someone close to you.
2006-11-28 15:23:18 · answer #2 · answered by Heaven26 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt text him anymore. Give him the space he needs. Guys dont like showing they are upset. They rather stay to themselves. Crazy I know but a guy told me this a long time ago. If you dont hear from him in about a week or so then go ahead and move on.
Godd luck!
2006-11-28 15:26:51 · answer #3 · answered by moo shell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your boyfriend really loved you, I would think that he would have shared this sort of news with you. The fact that he did not tell you and left you out in the dark does not bode well for your relationship. You have nothing to feel bad about or feel sorry for. He should have told you.
2006-11-28 15:22:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he just needs his space. And its good that you're letting him have it. I know someone whos bestfriend died and his g/f was just too much and they soon broke up. If you really like him, just give it some more time. And maybe try to call him instead of text.
2006-11-28 15:23:48 · answer #5 · answered by oopsydaisy500 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is important to know that different people react differently to loss. Some want to talk about it, lessen the pain, others need to be silent and go over in their mind the sense of what just happened. Allow your boyfriend to deal with his loss and come to you. You cannot avoid loss in our world and I am sure your boyfriend doesnt want to do something crazy to himself. So allow him to grieve dont force your way in and you didnt do a thing wrong at all. relax...
2006-11-28 15:22:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No not at all! Im sure he is just grieving and needs time to himself right now. he just needs space thats all
2006-11-28 15:21:58 · answer #7 · answered by smiley_gal2007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no some people have a difficult time dealing with death and if he's realy sensitive then he needs time to himself. he will come around just give him time.
2006-11-28 15:22:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to search your heart
you are the only one that can answer the question
is this the kind of relationship you want
2006-11-28 15:25:13 · answer #9 · answered by tim k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
confusing to me
write a letter and get one back too, then ya might know what is happening
2006-11-28 15:22:55 · answer #10 · answered by kurticus1024 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋