I met this guy about 3 weeks ago. About a week and a half ago my father passed away. He has been very supportive and has been very kind to me. He even cried with me about my father's death. However, sometimes when he's with me his phone rings a lot and even in the middle of the night. I haven't had sex with him. He seems to really care about me. My thing is why doesn't he just tell the girls to stop calling instead of ignoring his phone when he's around me?
2006-11-28 07:13:41 · 14 answers · asked by Heaven26 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Men for some reason like to keep women on the back burner in case the current one doesn't work out. If you start dating him exclusively tell him you do not want to be competing with other girls and tell him about the phone thing. If he continues to do this break it off it means he's a player.
2006-11-28 07:18:29 · answer #1 · answered by Venus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know my phone always rings but its just my friends trying to get ahold of me to hang out. Now if he is ignoring his phone calls then that means he is putting you ahead of whomever is calling. I am very involved in my college and my phone rings off the hook but when i'm with a girl i care about or like, i turn it on silent or ignore the calls or pick up and say ill call you later. Now if all his calls are from the same girl than you might be worried but don't go through his things to find out, you have to trust him. Sure you might get hurt or have been hurt in the past but eventually you will find the guy that deserves your trust.
2006-11-28 15:21:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is so Early in the relationship that it can be hard to express your needs. However if you don't say what is bothering you it will become a cycle and you will wake up one day and find that he is walking all over you. Ignoring the phone calls is a good thing but you still need to be honest and tell him whats on your mind.
2006-11-28 15:19:06 · answer #3 · answered by care_bear1108 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he likes you as a friend, but even if he liked you in a different way, what's wrong with having friends? if you guys are just starting and you are already freaking out over some phone calls, you guys are not headed in the right direction.
2006-11-28 15:43:27 · answer #4 · answered by AleOmar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For any relationship to work, people have to throw away the cell phones. I don't even answer my real one unless I feel like it.
I was watching a show on FTR this morning. His dad didn't want a phone so they didn't have one for years. When they got one, he refused to answer it, ever.
2006-11-28 15:19:03 · answer #5 · answered by kurticus1024 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes a player. you arent sleeping with him.. he has to keep the other girls close incase hes in need. he cant answer their calls infront of you, youd be uncomfortable with him calling the other girls 'babe' and telling them that hes just hanging with the guys.
he cant tell them not to call when hes with you, truth is, they dont know hes with you. they probably dont even know you exist.
so does he care about you......i cant say no....its only been 3 weeks that you know eachother. give him time. dont expect too much from him or youll push him away.
im sorry about your dads passing.
2006-11-28 15:27:53 · answer #6 · answered by beb27 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like he does care, but it also sounds like he is keeping his options open.
Three weeks is a little early to expect him to trim his single fat. He seems caring in that he let you cry on his shoulder. I think most guys would have looked for the quickest exit.
Given your situation with your tragic loss, I think it just needs time.
2006-11-28 15:22:34 · answer #7 · answered by question_everything 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
make sure you dont use sex to keep him around. if you think hes messin around, he might be. if you want to be in a relationship with the guy you need to let him know that all the girls that call him bothers you, if it does. be strict with the guy, if he really likes you he will do what you want
2006-11-28 15:17:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to clarify where you guys stand as far as your relationship goes. You need to be honest with him and ask him these questions. Are u sure hes not jsut a really caring friend?
2006-11-28 15:17:14 · answer #9 · answered by smiley_gal2007 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe he cares but hes not sure if you and him are a thing yet. Although you should tell him your concerns. Make sure you are in the relationship before you try and change him.
2006-11-28 15:28:07 · answer #10 · answered by aidea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋