I work with a freind and that I am attracted to her, she is alittle older than me and shes a school teacher, I think she know it and it makes me think! I am married and happly married. i never thought of anything like this before, I am honest and lonely.
2006-11-28 07:07:55 · 11 answers · asked by r m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should quit tempting yourself and leave her alone. Instead you should go home and remind yourself why you married your wife in the first place and think about the committment you made and what that means. if you are lonely then perhaps you and your wife need to talk about things and try to work on that.
2006-11-28 07:11:29 · answer #1 · answered by zyllee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you are married doesn't mean you will not still be attracted to other women. You think only single guys buy Maxium?? You're married not dead, big difference.
You do nothing about the attraction. Avoid times when you'll be alone and tempted. And remember as it's not on the record you don't know if she likes you back...or not. She may not like you entertain that possibility as well.
Tell your wife. Tell her you feel lonely too.
Move on.
2006-11-28 15:13:17 · answer #2 · answered by simm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not act on it. Tell your wife that you're lonely (do NOT mention that you are attracted to your friend). Spend more time with her. Get back to what it was that brought you two together. Remember why you love her and why you chose to spend the rest of your life with her.
If you are truly not in love with her anymore then don't be with her. But if you still love her then forget about the friend and work on your relationship with your wife. Stop spending time with the friend. Do not let anything develop between the two of you.
2006-11-28 15:13:17 · answer #3 · answered by workinggirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you feel yourself being tempted; get way. fast. being tempted is not a sin, but giving into temptation is. you're only human, which is why you have those desires. does she know you're married? if so, think about this; if she's ok with being involved with a married man, what makes you think she won't be tempted in the same way you are and cheat on you with some one else? it can only lead to pain. i dont know if you believe in God or not so i'll just say that He is with you none the less. If you're feeling lonely, turn to Him.
-God Bless
2006-11-29 15:47:34 · answer #4 · answered by Help_Desk 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with being attracted to someone other than your spouse as long as you don't act on it. The part I find intriguing is that you are "lonely"? If you are married and lonely you have a much bigger problem than finding your friend attractive.
2006-11-28 15:10:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not cheat on your wife. Put all of the energy you have for this woman into your wife. It would turn out badly you would end up losing your job and your marriage. Just avoid her until the feelings go away.
2006-11-28 15:10:27 · answer #6 · answered by Venus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You aren't honest if you have an affair. You promised your wife you would honor her and love her for the rest of your life. Honor your promise to the person who should be the number one person in your life. If you cannot be just friends with your co-worker, you should stop talking to her.
2006-11-28 15:11:38 · answer #7 · answered by melouofs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said you are lonely. Dude, you're married. If you are lonely, work on your marriage. Remember, never get involved with someone you work with.
2006-11-28 15:11:08 · answer #8 · answered by rilindy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is difficult to believe that you are "happily married" and "lonely" at the same time.
If you are really into your marriage, forget the "other" woman and as the song goes- "love the one you are with!"
2006-11-28 15:12:10 · answer #9 · answered by P!ss Ant 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
attraction is fine, just don't bring it to another level where you are going to cheat on your wife. Would you want your wife to cheat on you? How would you feel if she did? If the answer is no, and like crap, then don't put you're wife who you love in that situation.
2006-11-28 15:15:11 · answer #10 · answered by Genesis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋