My sister is soon to be married, and I've been thinking about my future husband who ever he is and the thing is I have high standards as a Christian and sometimes I wonder maybe they're too high.
2006-11-28 07:00:38 · 41 answers · asked by m cheryl 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
meh. ask your god. he will supply u with what u want if u pray to him and have faith? thats what it says in your bible.
2006-11-28 07:02:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Set your standards as high as they need to be so that your marriage does not end in divorce, and you do not feel like you're trapped in it. The way things are going these days, it seems like most people are not setting high enough standards. Just make sure the person is right for you. Chances are he won't be exactly what you expect, so you should allow for that and not be too strict about the minor issues. But I do think having high standards is a good starting point.
2006-11-28 07:11:50 · answer #2 · answered by zak_track 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not Christian but with that being said......
A good man in general is hard enough to find nowadays let alone a true Christian man but you shouldn't lower your standards due to lack of quality. I'm going through the same thing right now are far as standards and I have asked myself this same question over and over. Are my standards too high? Then I realized that if I settle for less then I'd have a relationship but not one that I'm happy in. That being said, your standards are high for a reason and rightfully so. Don't lower them for any reason or you'll regret the type of person you get in return.
2006-11-28 07:05:05 · answer #3 · answered by Tiacola Version 9.0 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having standards is good. You'll find, however, that as you get older and if you still haven't met the right man - you'll have a better idea of what you don't want and what expectations or standards might be less realistic. I'm not saying your standards will be lowered, but you'll learn what it is that is really important to you in a partner. Some of the things on your current standards list may change.
2006-11-28 07:13:03 · answer #4 · answered by swordarkeereon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your standards should be compared to God's standards and not men's, 2 Corinthians 10/12.
God knows your heart and is well able to provide for you as is suitable.
It is better to take time and consideration and put the matter in God's hands and wait for His answer and leading.
The marriage knot is not for untying.
Don't allow pressure to move you away from what you believe and if it is not too simplistic, remember the Devil drives but God leads.
If you lose your peace it will be hard for you to know. The Lord blesses and adds no sorrow, Proverbs 10/22
Consider 1 Samuel 16/7. That is very important.
2006-11-28 07:43:48 · answer #5 · answered by Jens Q 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You "have high standards as a christian" - are you worried about your future husband also being a christian, or just having high standards? There's a difference, you know.
2006-11-28 07:13:26 · answer #6 · answered by Musicol 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're thoughtful enough to ask the question then you may be right.
We never know what God might ask of us. We can make our list, and check it twice. Then God throws in a monkey wrench.
I am a Secular Franciscan. My group was at a mass for all third orders. There was a very tall and very good looking Secular Augustinian in attendance. Just the right age for a good friend of mine. I tried pointing him out but as gorgeous as this young man was she nixed the idea insisting that her husband would be a Secular Franciscan as well.
What if that's not what God wishes? What if you fell madly for an atheist? And the Good Lord approved of this marriage?
Pray about it. Make a list of your standards. Then pray. As for enlightenment. See what the Good Lord has to tell you.
2006-11-28 07:24:01 · answer #7 · answered by Max Marie, OFS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep them high as far as how a man treats you and when it comes to the big questions like how to raise children and what to spend your money on. However you need to decide what is important to you and what you are willing to compromise on. I lowered mine and am now divorced with 2 children from 2 fathers and dealing with anxiety caused by abuse from both fathers. this is a shitty place to be but i know that if i had kept my standards high i would probably be happy by now(of course i wouldn't have my girls but that's a vicious circle of confusion)
2006-11-28 07:09:15 · answer #8 · answered by care_bear1108 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its great to have high standards, just make sure they are not unreasonable, like do not ask for someone who is a millionaire or something. But to want someone who's a Christian who believes the same religion you do. Good for you.
2006-11-28 07:05:30 · answer #9 · answered by mommyblues78 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your standards are what you make them and what you want, your future partner will have to match those of yourself, or, if you really want someone that bad (when you meet them) it may be the standards you set your self will have to drop a little. The fact remains, the choice is yours.
2006-11-28 07:04:22 · answer #10 · answered by Emma B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have high standards too. I don't know how I'm going to get married lol.
2006-11-28 08:19:15 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋