I moved here (rural area in riverside cali) in july 2006 from san jose california. Sure, it was a culture shock from great big city of San Jose in the Bay Area, to this place. But i disciplined myself to just try to get used to it. Ive been doing very well in college..4 classes, 4 A's. But now, i just cant take this place anymore, and i want to move back to the bay area, and move in with my best friend from high school and pay $400 a month for rent. I have the money to survive 1 1/2 until i can get a job. I can get by with a little and i do qualify for financial aid for college...one problem however, i have to break it to my loving parents, who have been so supportive and genourous, that i no longer want to live in this small town, and i have dreams of doing great things somewhere else...just not here...someone please help ME! i dont want to devastate my family with this!
2006-11-28 06:58:49 · 9 answers · asked by bivito416 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
oh gee, you may hate where you are living, but you are in the middle of your education. Cant you just stick it out a little bit longer so that you get your qualifications which will make it a lot better for you to get a job. You moving now, while you can afford it you say, is really depleating your savings, which probably could be used for something you really like, eg a holiday, a car, new clothes, etc. If you were finished college I would say go for it....you are 19 with you whole life ahead of you and I dont think your parents would hold you there because they seem like very wonderful parents to me. I wish you could hang out a bit longer because things may get tough financially when you live on your own and it may get to a point where you will have to stop your studies to get a job. Its a huge risk you are taking right now. It is every persons dream to live independently from their parents when they are young. I was 18 when I moved away from home, but I had a job and could support myself. There would have been no way I could have survived if I was still studying. I hope you re-consider this move until after your studies are completed. Why not use some of the money you were going to live off to take a holiday to visit your friends and have a good time. College will take a break over the Christmas period, so why dont you use that time to go back, party, have a good time, then come back and finish your studies. Once you are qualified, then you can look for suitable employment that pays well enough so you can live on it and have some left over. If you have to stop your studies then you will be getting a job that doesnt require qualifications which will obviously pay less. You do have your whole life in front of you, so dont make this decision too rashly because you could be putting your whole future in jeopardy.
2006-11-28 07:16:10 · answer #1 · answered by rightio 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I've been in your shoes. I grew up in a tiny town too, and I always knew I'd leave the second I could. I ended up moving about 1000 miles away from there when I was 19. My parents were very understanding about it after they got used to the idea, and I think if you explain to your own parents pretty much exactly the way you did here, that you "have dreams of doing great things somewhere", somewhere ELSE, that is, they might be more accepting than you think. Best of luck! :-)
2006-11-28 07:03:24 · answer #2 · answered by yumyum 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good for you. You are all grown up. Your parents should be proud of the fact that they raised a child willing to take responsibility for himself.
As hard as it is going to be on them, Im sure they knew you were gonna move away some day. Just be as gentle as you can. Dont blame the move on the town, but your need to work on your future. Tell them how much you appreciate them. They will be sad that you are leaving, but glad they did a good job.
2006-11-28 07:04:34 · answer #3 · answered by JC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask them for their family tree . Ask how generations before them got to the small town [where you are trying to leave] .See if they your parents had moved to your small town on their own and WHY WHY WHY... .But maybe with their parents ok . It would be a start to move. But have them tell the stories and maybe they will understand . THE NEED FOR YOU TO MOVE ON YOUR OWN. NEED TO TRY .ONE YEAR AT LEAST...
2006-11-28 07:11:55 · answer #4 · answered by douglrsn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your family loves you and wants only the best for you. if you explain to them the way you explained it to us im sure theyd understand....no matter what you say, or how you say it, theyre still going to crushed. in a way theyre losing their baby boy. be a man, if you feel grown up enough to move away from your family, then be grown up enough to tell them. sorry if that sounds b*tchy
2006-11-28 07:12:23 · answer #5 · answered by beb27 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am 19 two and i am moving out of my house to move in with my boyfriend and do like i did i told my parents that i love to be with them but it was time for me to grow up and be on my on but i will be there whenever they needed me
2006-11-28 07:03:31 · answer #6 · answered by yours truly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i would just sit them down and tell them that you are very thankful for everything that they have done for you and that its time for you so spread your wings and leave the nest.
Be sure to tell them that you love them very much and will always be there for them to contact by phone.
2006-11-28 07:01:10 · answer #7 · answered by remailer000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should get a ***** AA 12 automatic shotgun and just rip out shootin.
2016-03-28 23:00:15 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your family will understand that you need to live your life and complete your educaton. They will be sad, but not mad.
2006-11-28 07:01:25 · answer #9 · answered by me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋