Why do some women like going after someone else Boyfriend or Husband?

Question

I see alot of women who go after married men and men who are in committed relationships.I can understand if the man lied to you and told you he was single but you found out he wasnt.If you think youre spiting the woman you are only spiting yourself,because what goes around surely does come back around.I feel women that do this are selfish,self-centered and care only about themselves.I could never do this,I would feel low and less of a woman.why would you want to be second in line?obviously the ones that prefer married men and men involved have low-esteem, because if you didnt you would not want to be second.you are not number 1 on his list,because if you were he would have left his wife or girlfriend.He wants to stay with her and be with you too.which makes the female that is on the side look cheap.very sad.

Answer 1

It seems to happen more and more. Women are lacking self respect and any type of morals. I agree with you, and I would never venture onto another womans territory. Why would you even want a man that you know is cheating? I think these women actually think that they are better than the woman he is in the relationship with and think they are taking him away. Which we all know, seldom happens. Welcome to the 20th century, where morals and respect no longer exist. Sad.

Answer 2

I have been the other woman 3 times and it is painful. I didn't go into these relationships knowing I was the other woman and these men didn't make me feel like I was the other woman or that they had someone else. I asked all of these men (obviously I dated them at different times) if they were married or had a significant other all of them said NO. One guy I would hang-out at his house ALL THE TIME and he had me there and felt very comfortable. Little did I know his wife worked two jobs and was never home until I got a phone call from her. And she told me I wasn't the first or the last girlfriend. THat's sad, at some point the wives have to take some responsibility. What I wolud like to know is how to stop attracting losers like this.

Answer 3

Hold on, let me put my two cents in it. There maybe a lot of women who do go after men in committed relationships. Think about it for one second though. I'd say 9 times out of 10 it's the man making the first approach. It may not be that woman, but rest to sure he has seen more than a few that he has went after. When you didn't see him going after anything he had a good reason not to. If a woman accepts a man like this she is normally a Bopper or she has made it to the point in her life that she is not into a man telling her what to do, when to do it, how to do it and where to do it. She figures he serves one or two things; that's to get her rocks off and/or his money and send him home to his wifey with all the extra drama. I don't know who you've been talking to, but when a married man or a man in a relationship comes up to a woman he figures he just has to get with. he will use those words to a tee. "Me and my old lady we not getting along." Maybe the famous one "I just went through a bad breakup." Don't forget "I'm just staying for the sake of the kids." Men lie to fill their purposes. If the woman find out later that he's not single like he said he was. Who knows by then maybe she can't let go cause she's attched to him as well. So this is where another game starts that's called "May the better woman win." You seem to place all the blame on the women. Sorry that you went through this are know someone personally that went through it, but what blame in this game does the man take. I mean if he is married like you say or he's in that committed relationship like you say. He is the one who should be able to hold up to his committment. He made a committ to that woman and his family. The woman on the outside didn't make a committment to niether of them. Low self esteem she don't have because that committed man is seeing to it she gets all the complaments that she's been missing. He's keeping her hair and nails done. She's also going shopping. See he wants to have his cake and eat it too. Besides, who said she's second. I mean he anit coming home to you until he's talked to her. He needs to see if he can come see her today are do she have something else to do. You see your man come in the house after work and he's snapping your head off? Then he says he had a bad day at work. That's another lie. No job is making him act like that. That's that woman in them streets. She gets under his skin even worse than the wife do sometimes. He tells you he going to hang with the fellows. Guess what the fellows know his girl on the side. They anit gone tell. That's why when you get into an arguement he acts like he's not going to argue with you he'd rather leave. That's another lie. He wanted you to do that so he could leave and you not ask, where he's going or when he's coming back. Men are full of G-A-M-E-S!!!!!! I think it's a test of how many women can he screw in a lifetime. Cause when it's through working and Viagra doesn't help anymore that's all they have to do then is talk about it, rub it, and pee with it. Good Luck

Answer 4

Personally, I keep any man that is involved with another woman completely off limits romantically. However, just the psychology of it, I think that a lot of women that do this do it to see if they can win. However, I also believe that 90% of the time, they don't win. Unless they are just trying to get in the middle of another relationship and be a home wrecker. If it were up to me, I would bitchslap any man or woman that went for someone that they KNOW has a partner. I would also love to bitchslap the people that cheat and the person that is their "secret" doesn't know that they are involved with someone else. I believe in monogomy, very strongly and really disapprove of anyone that gives a thumbs up for cheaters and/or polygamy (bigamy, etc)

And yes, I believe low self esteem contributes a bunch too! And perhaps them being afraid of getting too serious with anyone.

-EA

Answer 5

There are a few reasons this happens.

1. The challenge.
2. Some women, are afraid of commitment..what better way to not worry about it than to date a married guy.
3. Some women, like the control (he's married, if I date him, I can threaten to rat him out to his wife...and I have control)
4. Stupidity. Hate to say it, some women are just plain stupid. (notice I said some... and if this question were about men, I'd say some men are stupid too)

Answer 6

its like some1 has taken your man..i think men are insatiable and by now you should understand that no matter what you do most of them will look for what they think they are not getting..then regret,,,see yourself as the airport..no matter what he does he must land..some women do that because all the good men are mostly taken..and sometimes its a means to their end..its just human nature..some people take and others give..its a circle..i met this married guy once i didn't know he was we went out on a date i liked him a little ,then i discovered he was married .i dropped him..i didn't want to be ..either second choice ,a side girl or some woman's problem..good luck..

Answer 7

Ok let me see if I can explain this quickly and so it make sense. They are insecure to start with. They seek a man that is in a committed relationship because when the man is not with them then they know where he is and that he is not cheating on them even though he with his wife they still feel a sense of security. Sounds wierd but it is the reason most of the time.

Answer 8

I live in Los Angeles and I feel like every damn women is like that here. And from what I see, women are like that here. These women are over confidence and whores. I agree, selfish and self-centered. And that is the reason why it is so hard to find a good guy in Los Angeles...girls give it up for free with no strings, why should a guy settle?

Answer 9

Unfortunately, there are plenty of women who just can't help but want what they can't have. I've been married for over a year and with my husband for over 5. I have noticed that women in general just don't care whether he has a ring on his finger or not. I personally find it pathetic, but men do it too. Who knows exactly why people do these kinds of things, they obviously don't know right from wrong or are just too skanky to care.

Answer 10

Some women want what they can't have but also those women do have low self-esteem. what makes it worse is if the guy gives them the attention back. I agree these women are bad but if the man is allowing it to happen he is more at fault since he is the one in the relationship.