Its simple i have recently started cheating and want to be with man number 2 but i fear he will never ever get over the fact that i cheated to be with him.
2006-11-28 06:38:49 · 45 answers · asked by Evilish13 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
**This is more of mental cheating here.** Just an FYI
2006-11-28 06:52:34 · update #1
It's a mind thing. He will get over it if he really wants to be with you.
2006-11-28 06:41:03 · answer #1 · answered by peanut44 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That's why it's best to break off one relationship before beginning another. If I man knows you weren't trust worthy to number 1 he will always suspect you are going to do the same thing to him. I would tell both of them you need sometime alone to figure things out. After you have had a little bit of time for this to sink in -make a decision-will it be number 1 or number 2-if it is number 2 he will respect that fact that you took a step back and realized what you had done to number 1. Leave it up to him to try and track you down and do the chasing. This is the best way to keep a man-trust me,and if he doesn't come after you-maybe you were wrong about his intentions. Best Wishes!
2006-11-28 06:45:34 · answer #2 · answered by laura_lovely_sweet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're right for thinking that. You may have a good relationship with him, but in the end, there will always be a nagging little voice in the back of his head saying "if she did it to be with you, she'd do it again". He may even use it as ammunition against you in an argument or even as an excuse to cheat on you.
My Advice - Stop sleeping aroung, break up with your bf and tell him the truth, he deserves nothing less for not cheating on you, and find guy #3, someone who's completely out of the picture and start over without ever cheating on anyone and just maybe you won't have to worry about this question ever again.
2006-11-28 06:44:36 · answer #3 · answered by jirstan2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quite the mess you've created there.
Instead of cheating you should've been stronger, dumped your boyfriend then hooked up with whoever you wanted.
Now your boyfriend will have to deal with the insecurity you've left him with, trying to figure out what he did wrong (if anything at all), you have to live with the knowledge that you are now a cheater (and live with the consequences of your actions) and the new guy you are cheating has just learned it's ok to do this so when you and him won't last he'll take his fractured perspective into his new relationship of course to ill effect.
Are there any positive benefits to cheating?
Sorry to be harsh but cheating is ugly and unjustifiable.
2006-11-28 06:49:04 · answer #4 · answered by simm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then get out of the relationship you are cheating on. Tell your new man that you feel bad about the situation, but you want to be with him and not the other guy.
Be sure to let your old boyfriend know why you are leaving him. Do not leave him clueless. Men need to know where they went wrong in a relationship so they can learn not to make the same mistakes.
2006-11-28 06:43:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that you can always go by one saying. "If she cheats with you then she will cheat on you." What happens down the road after a year or so with the new guy and you start to have feelings for someone else? This is a never-ending circle that is very hard to break
2006-11-28 06:44:53 · answer #6 · answered by nice_guyminnesota 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pretty sure that in the back of his mind he probably figures that you've cheated with him so if someone better comes along that history will repeat itself. Although you may tell him that it would not happen questions will linger in his mind. It would be the same if the shoe was on the other foot, would you believe that if the man you were seeing would be faithful with you if he was cheating on his relationship? Funny how the acts of today can always interfere with future acts eh!
2006-11-28 06:42:09 · answer #7 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What would ever make you think that!? I'm sure that guy number two has fallen in love with you head over heals! You have him so mesmerized by your remarkable sense of self-worth that he sees nothing but the purity and goodness in you. And you say you fear he will never get over the fact that you cheated to be with him. Honey, he's so over it he will just use you until he finds SOMETHING better and toss you to the trash where you belong.
Love,
Rey
2006-11-28 06:45:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not very smart, are you. Look hon, I have no sympathy for you and you'll get the karma you deserve because of these irrational decisions. Mostly, you'll end up alone and sad and wishing you hadn't screwed things up.
If I were you, I would go be single until you realize what a good relationship is and how to keep a man truly happy. It means giving up the selfish side of you and until you can do that, you'll forever be a sad, sad woman.
2006-11-28 06:43:04 · answer #9 · answered by Dr. Kat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, you kind of have a problem here. that is why it is best to end one relationship before starting a new one - but no one's perfect and hind sight is 20/20.
You should definitely break up with boy #1. If you don't like him, no sense in wasting his time or yours. And then you should just see how things with boy #2 go. If you were meant to be together, then things should work out. If not, then try to have fun while it lasts!
2006-11-28 06:44:31 · answer #10 · answered by smellyfoot ™ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were him, I wouldn't...you've proven you're okay with cheating...why should he trust you? How can he know someone else won't come along and you'll cheat on him with the new guy?
Just remember, by cheating you have okay'd it to be done to you...so no griping or crying when someone down the road cheats on you...if it's okay for you to do, it's okay for anyone to do.
Treat others as you'd like to be treated...live that way, and ya pretty much can't go wrong.
2006-11-28 06:42:01 · answer #11 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋