My son is 8 and we live in a neighborhood where kids at my son's school are doing drugs already! I have had talks with him and we did roleplaying where I was trying to give him drugs and he had to say no. I think it went well, but I'd like to get more info to impress upon him.
Plus what do I say when he asks me if I tried drugs? I had smoked pot as a teen but I don't know what to say, I don't want to lie but I also don't want him to think it's ok.
Any suggestions or web sites? This is serious so no joke answers PLEASE my son's life is not a comedy for you. Thank you!!!
2006-11-28 06:36:24 · 8 answers · asked by musicpanther67 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I think that what your doing is great and that you should be proud of yourself for being an upstanding parent and caring about your son.
I know that you are concerned about drug and you must be honest with you son about your use and how it made you feel and think did it really feel that good??
The best we can do for our children is give them the tools to keep themselves safe and know that we did our best with what we have.
If it come to it, you could call a substance abuse clinic and ask them about substance awareness and prevention.
And again good for you for care that much.
2006-11-28 06:47:05 · answer #1 · answered by emily b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't lie to your son just tell him the truth when he asks (maybe not all) I told my son when asked I tried it but thank God I didn't like it. I also stress that you never know what is in the drugs today. Have him watch the news. And as one parent to the next PLEASE be aware that kids are taking precription drugs where you can't just look in their eyes or smell them to tell if they are doing anything. I was open with my son and his friends. I took my son and had him drug tested and he and I told his friends that I did it and would do it again if I felt the need. Please know my son was around 15 when this was happening. He and his friends knew I was not going to tolerate it. I also feel my son could use me drug testing him as an excuse if needed. I did have reason to react so strongly. It doesn't seem you are having that problem but just keep the lines of communication open and I hope things will go well.
2006-11-28 14:59:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anne D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he asks you say yes i did and make up a bad out come like me i would say yes and i fell asllep driving because the stuff made me very tired and i wrecked the car. and i did wreck a car when my kids were little but it wasnt from that. so you can stretch the trueth you just want him to know you did it something bad happend and you learned your lesson. and maybe this will help. my son was 5 when i started talking to him i told him there are 3 things you can never do when you get bigger its smoke ciggs,drink beer, and do drugs. at the time he didnt know what i was talking about. but thank good i had taught him so you cause he came home yesterday and said that jimmy his cousin and abunch of his stupid friends was out side wanting him to smoke pot. and he told me he said no and came straight home. i was so proud of him i took him shopping. now adays you have to start teaching them when they are younger. my parents didnt tell me about drugs and stuff till i was 13
2006-11-28 15:30:44 · answer #3 · answered by cute redhead 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parents and I never had a talk. But you sound like you're doing a lot of good things. If he asks personally I would lie to him. He may find out when he's older but by that time he'll already have good values that you instilled upon him at a young age.
2006-11-28 14:40:15 · answer #4 · answered by Leif B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want a kid to respect you and your wishes? Respect his. At some point you are not going to be there to keep your kid from putting a joint in his mouth and smoking it..teach him not to be stupid...ie..."if you are going to do drugs, DON'T DRIVE, and DON"T get arrested". If you show the kid you think he is smart enough to make the right decisions he most likely will so as not to disappoint you. And I would never recommend lying to anyone, even if you think it will protect them, that seems to me a good way to get your kid to resent you and rebel...
2006-11-28 14:52:28 · answer #5 · answered by chavito 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be on his side, keep on reading that drugs are bad and they make people sick. I had D.A.R.E in elementary school and it scared me straight. Go to a local police department and they should have some information for you. maybe they could put beer goggles on your son and make him walk, that got me too. If he tells you he has done drugs tell him the seriousness on this situation and get him some counseling.
2006-11-28 14:41:48 · answer #6 · answered by fourcheeks4 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is best lying or keeping your kid off the damn thing.
You never tried that crap because you knew better.
If alters your brain for years and you will never be the same.
http://www.theantidrug.com/
2006-11-28 14:41:47 · answer #7 · answered by Marvin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that you tried it but it was the biggest mistake of your life. Emphasize that you were also alot older.
2006-11-28 15:04:45 · answer #8 · answered by KathyS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋