Received a text (with bad text speak) after a night out where we met in a bar. She left her number. I'm not attracted to her, and she has asked if I want to meet up again. What do I say that's not horribly offensive?
2006-11-28 06:31:54 · 18 answers · asked by Cricketer 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Either follow Top Bean's advice, or tell her coolly and calmly that you don't think you are made for each other. Don't get drawn into explanations or excuses, or you'll be trapped in her game. Take care of that.
And mind the tear-trap. Don't fall into it.
2006-11-28 07:09:39 · answer #1 · answered by wisdom tooth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me start by saying Bravo You! for not just giving her the brush off. More guys should be like you...
To answer your question, simply thank her for her interest, but tell her you do not feel the two of you are a good match, and wish her luck in her future.
Rejection is never fun, but to be told directly "thanks, but no thanks" is SO much better than just being left hanging and wondering what went wrong...did s/he get your message...why were they interested one day, and not the next...etc.
Thanks for wanting to do it the right way...hopefully she'll appreciate what you did, if even though she didn't hear what she wanted to hear...
2006-11-28 06:37:15 · answer #2 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you just met her in a bar and don't know her personally - don't bother texting back and she'll get the message.
2006-11-28 06:51:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 points
2006-11-28 06:38:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well...Just tell her the truth.Most women prefer the truth, then to be led on by your own guilt.Make sure you clearly get your point across to her.So...she can improve herself for the next guy.
2006-11-28 06:34:54 · answer #5 · answered by SyMoNe H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unfortunately there is no kinder way to tell someone that you dont want to hang with them anymore , other than just telling them the truth. Make sure you tell them why you dont want to be around.
How you convey your messege is important in sensitve situations.
2006-11-28 06:44:58 · answer #6 · answered by Terel_55 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would agree to meet her suggest you and your friends and her and her friends and then you can just tell her that you want to be friends and nothing more. then she will have the support of her friends and you can then move on somewhere else if necessary
2006-11-28 06:38:37 · answer #7 · answered by Peachy Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say that u dont want to g out with her.. Be honest.. otherwise u'll both be wasting ur time n can be very hurt if that continues.. blive me
2006-11-28 06:34:51 · answer #8 · answered by :) 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you dont know how to handle a simple situation like this she has had a lucky escape.
2006-11-28 14:23:17 · answer #9 · answered by freebird 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just block her number men have just as much right as women to do that. if you need to give her an answer tell her thanks for the offer but i'm not looking for a relationship and its not fair to you if your looking a relationship.
2006-11-28 07:39:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋