my boyfriend of 7 years says he would like for me to strip for him any ideas?

Question

he always says he wants us to have more fun in bed he has cheated on me before and he sometimes says is because im not to fun when it comes to pleasure him

Answer 1

I would dress up.....that is usually big turn on for men, and dance with your hot clothes on.

If you have the money, you can buy those really hot shoes that stirppers wear, and get a pair for yourself with a matching outfit.

Do some swaying of the hips, a flip of the hair, touching yourself, eyeing him with enticement, crawling on the floor towards him......stroke his *area*....maybe even end up kissing him there...have him touch you in your sexy outfit....etc.

But whatever you do, do it with class, and do it with confidence.

I usually add in some fruit, like strawberries and whip cream.

Do it, girl. And I am sure if you do, he will not want to go anywhere because he gets it at home.

Answer 2

How many times has he cheated? You couldn't be that bad if he came back, or does he continue to cheat?
Have him tell you what he would like from you. He wants you to strip, so strip if your comfortable with it. They have classes now on pole dancing. Have him pay for it though, he'll get what he wants and you'll get a lifetime of knowing how to perform for your next and better lovers than him. Have you thought of anything you'd like from him to add to the excitement? If he's bored than he also has a problem because he doesn't know how to bring out the animal in you. It does take two still right? Unfortunately one possibility is not that he's bored with the sex, but that he's bored with you.You say he wants to have more fun in the bedroom. Maybe he doesn't realize that sex doesn't start in the bedroom; it starts the very first thing when you get up and say good morning to your partner, it continues through the day when you talk on the phone to them, or think and talk about them to others, it's a continuum of connection that makes for great sex. And I'm no expert but after 7 years of being just a boyfriend, that has cheated on you, it seems like your in the wrong relationship.

Answer 3

Don't accept thar crap from him, about his cheating being your fault. If you don't pleasure him enough for him to HAVE TO cheat maybe he needs to stay with the person that can satisfy him and leave you alone. He's obviously not committed to you as this sounds like its been done more than once.

Striping for him may be fun but only if you are comfortable doing it. If you have to force yourself to do it and the motive is to stop him from cheating, its not worth the effort don't bother. Do it only if it excites you and you REALLY WANT TO. You could also try it in reverse, he could strip for you first and then yopu may loosen up a bit and do it for him. After 7 years you must be comfortable enough around each other or try striping together. Only if YOU want to

7 yrs is a long time, you need to seriously think about your future with this guy and maybe move on with your life before he does and then the PAIN will be worse.

Answer 4

First of all, I'm assuming you worked through the cheating thing. Which, is amazing, but I'm assuming there's still some fallout from that affecting your relationship, and possibly your sex life.
When it comes to sex, stripping, etc, you should really do what you're comfortable with. If stripping, or other sexual acts that he desires are outside of your comfort zone, you may want to consider dating a different person.
If you're willing to try new things... communicate with him what you're comfortable doing, and try to learn what it is that he'd like you to do. When you both find something that is in your comfort zone, that you both agree on, that turns you both on.... have fun!

Side note: What kind of guy, after 7 years, cheats on his girlfriend because she's not "fun enough" in bed? I would think that after 1-2 years, he would have an idea as to how you are sexually, and obviously agrees with it enough that he's still there. There's something else wrong with this situation. My question is...prior to cheating on you... did he ask you to do things for him, or did he just go out and cheat, then blame it on you? How can a person say that his cheating on you, is your fault? You weren't there. To me, you should consider dropping this guy.

In case you are interested in keeping him... some ideas:

Greet him at the door in a sexy outfit, or nude.
Make him dinner while you're nude, or nearly nude. (which is really hot by the way)
You could strip for him, if you're comfortable with it. (which it doesn't sound like you are)

Answer 5

First, he's cheated on you before and you are still with him????
FTW? Listen, if he has done it before, he'll do it again. Guys are like that. Seriously, you need to drop him while you can. Because if he is saying you are not fun when it comes to pleasuring him and you strip, and you STILL aren't fun....then he will just continue to cheat on you for the pleasure and you'll just be some used girl.

Trust me, I would get out of that relationship, regardless of how much you love him. Apparently, that love is just a one way street

Answer 6

Umm... the phrase, "once a cheater, always a cheater" creeps into my mind. Seven years is a long time. My grandmother once said to my sisters that if you are with a man for more than 3 years and still haven't gotton married you never will. Appereantly us men will not ".... buy the cow when we can get the milk for free". Sounds like he is just using this as an excuse to live out his horn dog fantasy, and might not have any respect for you as a person. However, this is my opinion and I don't realy know how connected he actually feels to you. I just don't like his attitude with you . . . in fact it sounds as though he has turned his cheating into your fault..... don't take that responsibility, and find a man that truly appreciates you and gets pleasure from being with you both physically and emotionally.

If not, watch a couple of porno's and get some ideas for being super sexy and agressive from them.

Good luck to you~!

Answer 7

He cheated and that's not your fault, just realize that and do with it what you will.

If you want to strip, or learn how I would suggest going out with some other guys and practicing on them. That way when you go back to your man you can tell him that since he needed to go get what you werent giving him. You went in search of what he was looking for.

Go to a strip club and watch the girls dance, you'll get free drinks and a few numbers. Even ask some of the girls if they'll show you the moves. You'd be surprised what you'll come up with if you're resourceful enough.

Give him the lap dance of his life, then kick him to the curb.

Answer 8

First of all there is no excuse for cheating, even if things in the bedroom are not kosher. Before you can resolve the issue of bored sex you need to focus more on the cheating. That's an issue that should be addressed and handled because one time is too many. Pleasing your man comes from how you feel about him. Be spontaneous, leave love notes, bathe him, feed him, cuddle him and read to him. You know what he likes, be creative with it.

Answer 9

Have a strip pillow fight. Each of you takes a pillow and of course you guys begin to beat the heck out of each other, if any part of your body touch's the floor you have to remove clothing. By the time you guys are naked, you will be worked up and ready.

Another idea, not original, but fun:
Take the sheets off of your bed, lay plastic over the mattress, and pour a bottle of baby oil on the plasticm get undressed and the rest is slippery fun.

Rent a car and make love in it.

You have to use your imagination, I do!

Answer 10

Turn the lights down low and put something sexy on, like a see through nighty. Answer the door when he comes in and dance with some music on low. Just moving around kind of sexy will work when your dressed right. Look into his eyes and outline his face with your finger. Then take one piece of clothing off at a time. Start with something like gloves and over clothes. If its not your style to do these kind of things, hes not worth it in the first place if thats all he wants from you and has to cheat to get it. Tell him to hit the road.