Is he messing me about?

Question

Got back with my fella...after a big misunderstanding. His Mam hates me and doesn't want us to be together but we are trying to make a go of it.

But...he seems to snap at me about everything, doesn't wanna make up with me! and now he has turned his phone off and gone to his mothers...he only ever does that to b itch about me! Is there any point in us being together? i know he has been through alot with his dad dying but this can't be fair? SURELY??!!

His dad died 2 years ago, this month. His mam and dad were split up for 15 years when he died

Answer 1

No find someone else he sounds like a right wimp and a mummys boy he needs to learn to be a man.

Answer 2

Cutting you out like that is not fair on you so you need to confront him about what he wants. Losing his father will have a massive effect on his life and it will play with his emotions. I lost my father and mood swings do happen for some time. You won't understand this until you have experienced it.
He probably feels the need to be there for his mum because of his circumstances. Talk to him and ask him outright if there is anything left worth fighting for between you both. Good luck.

Answer 3

You can't be with someone who behaves like that regardless of what has happened in his past. I had a fella who's father had died and he used it all the time for the sympathy or as an excuse for bad behaviour. We lasted 3 months and then I couldn't cope anymore. Don't put yourself through it. Relationships shouldn't be that hard.

Answer 4

Seems like you are doing all the making up, and hes doing all the running back to Mum,I think you may need to put this relationship in the to hard basket and move on..........you will never get anywhere if his mum hates you, he can go there and ***** about you all day long, and she will agree with everything he has to say..........so he feels good, and thinks he is right, sure his dad drying, would have been hard for him, but that is not your fault, sounds like you have been there for him, so sweetie move on, life is too short. good luck and god bless.

Answer 5

In fairness to him, altho u have asked and i give my answer to u, the loss of a parent can have a profound effect on a person. When did his dad die? His symptoms are characteristic of someone going thru bereavement. he may need counselling. he needs u to b sympathetic,understanding and supportive.He may also simply need space to come 2 terms with it.

If he is worth waiting 4 then u need to wait and be perhaps a little softer in ur approach.

Answer 6

Sounds to me that he will always put his mum before you. Mind you, they are probably feeling closer because of his dad dying. Still, it seems like he needs to be with his mum just now more than you so just let them ***** about you and move on.

Answer 7

Give him a litle time, but if it continues then its not worth it really, u can find sumone that doesnt hold a grudge against u for something that has happened in the past..

Answer 8

there is no need for the way your boyfriend treats you!! if you cant talk to him then try writing him a letter!! he will definately read it....whatever he decides to do is a different matter!!........if he still behaves in the same way after a few days then he obviously has no feelings for you,and trust me you deserve better than that....good luck

Answer 9

It sounds like the odds are against you. If hes not willing to wok on it, then it isnt worth your efforts. You cant save the relationship on your own.

Answer 10

He did not change his ways he is repeating them , no sense in staying in this relationship