Friend and her husband spent Thanksgiving day @ her husbands parents house. Here is a little background of what was going on. Father in law had a stroke, part of his body is paralized and he is confined to a wheelchair. He also needs to diapers and needs a lot of help getting out of bed showered etc. Well the mother in law works during the day and leaves the father in law in bed till she gets home in the evenings around 7pm. That is when she feeds him and cares for him. During the day he is left by himself in the bed with dirty diapers. On top of that, their home is unlivable. They have mold growing in the bathroom and it has destroyed some of the fixtures. My friend is really concerned for her father in law and is afraid that he is being abused by living in this condition. She wants to report it to social services and elder care, but is afraid if she is found out that she will end up getting in a lot of trouble. She is even too afraid to call annominously. What should she do?
2006-11-28 06:26:14 · 4 answers · asked by lpogue2005 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Getting in a lot of trouble with who? The family? They should be glad she cares enough to call social services. There's no trouble she could get into from social serives, she's not the person caring for him, and she would be doing the right thing by calling. Nobody can give you your answer, she needs to make the decision herself. If she cares that much for her father in law, she should think about how it is for him. Have her think about the fears he faces every day, and maybe that will help her ease her fears to do what she wants to do. Hopefully, this helps. I'm really opinionated when it comes to things like this.
2006-11-28 06:40:56 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st call a family meeting try to get to root of problem maybe the wife needs help caring for him sounds like she is over whelmed on social services will do is put him in a nursing home and those places are horrible horrible good luck and God bless
2006-11-28 23:21:20 · answer #2 · answered by katlady927 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-29 21:40:27 · answer #3 · answered by lemmer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to look into hospice care. A nurse can come to the home and help out with things whe the wife is out. Check your states elderly care aid centers.
2006-11-28 06:29:31 · answer #4 · answered by JC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋