My ex-boyfriend and i recently started talking again.We both love each other dearly . He is such a great guy, gourgous smile, good heart, and an excellent sense of homor, but... there is one problem.... he does'nt satisfy me in bed. He cums too quick and and hes too small. i love him so, i know i should'nt base that decision on our sex life but how can i not... i really dont wanna cheat on him...so should i make it official or not?
2006-11-28 06:20:45 · 16 answers · asked by Worry wart 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no...if the sex aint right you wont be happy...and if you dont like the sex or dont want it with him since he has short comings then your relationship will become an overproduced friendship...and you will cheat later on...
2006-11-28 06:26:06 · answer #1 · answered by rhmn_i 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Damm you sound cold blooded! Not once did i see you say anything in regard to his feelings. How can you love him dearly if he doesnt satisfy you in bed? Second, have you even talked to him about that? Tried to help him? Half of his problem can be corrected if its a medical condition. You should see if its a medical condition before quitting. It might not be his fault. Second, the too small thing. I cant help you OR HIM on that one. One question i do ask is if he is overweight? Its medically proven that if youre overweight then that can cause problems down below (including making you smaller to some degree). So, if he is then him losing weight will help him some in that department. If he is in shape then well, all i can tell you is that its a proven fact that the average male worldwide is only 5 1/2 inches and that about 92% of the time men will lie about their size. Im not going to give the size isnt everything speech because i know you dont wanna hear it. What i will say is that you should try to help him before you leave him. It might even be embarrasing to him to recieve your help but he will know that you care. (That is if you care enough to help him) Poor fellow, i think hes doomed. If you communicate though, there is hope for the both of you.
2006-11-28 06:35:31 · answer #2 · answered by Wheres the Rum Gone? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honey I've had all kinds-
First off you need to be comfortable in that relationship
Enough so that you can MAKE yourself ***
Personally I have had all shapes and sizes
And the only time I can come if if he goes down, ect.
or if I masturbate while having sex.
I am 33 and have had plenty of orgasms trust me
Its not the size,
As far as regular straight sex, Unless you have a great big ole hanging Clit
You will NOT *** through strictly intercourse.
You need to tell him , honey this is what you have to do to make me ***.
you tell him NOPE sorry I didn't ***, and when he asks why tell him , You did not do anything to make me ***.
And ALwaays *** first, young guys are used to getting fake orgasms and can't tell if the girl came or not , so its up to us to teach them how to do what we like.
And you my dear have to get over your embarassment.
Speak up and don't ever fake the orgasm, if the guy cares enough he'll change and try to make sure you *** .
No guy i ever dated wanted it to be known that he couldn't get his lady off, and frankly i would never date a man who didn't care enough about me to keep his nails trim, and handle his business.
If you need more pointers , feel free to email me direct , or check out the websites.
Godd luck
Hope it all works out.
Meg
Kovasmomma@yahoo.com
2006-11-28 06:36:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to say that is a really hard decision. You can't really teach him anything since it's his size and it's really hard to teach a guy to not *** too quickly but my advice is to stay with him. I like a guy who isn't that great in bed but I'm crazy about everything else he offers. A little advice about him cumming too fast. A past guy that I dated would completley stop thrusting when he felt like he was cumming and we'd go on for a while longer. maybe try that.
2006-11-28 06:47:37 · answer #4 · answered by basmusiq 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is part of every healthy relationship- either talk 2 him about it and get him 2 experiment and see how that goes. Dont cheat on him. If the experimenting doesnt work, and u cant deal with the fact he still isnt satisfying you, then maybe its time 2move on.
2006-11-28 06:26:18 · answer #5 · answered by twisted_elegance 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
size doesn't matter. if he is such a great guy, what are you doing???!!! Women would kill for a wonderful guy. In the long run do you want a big guy that is a jerk or a nice guy that will make you happy?
2006-11-28 06:24:28 · answer #6 · answered by xstraight_edge_emo_kidx 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i was in the same position you were in (the sex part)...give him a chance...give him ideas of how to satisfy you...there are "accessories" out there to help him, be open with him about it
my question is...why is he an ex? did you break it off or did he? always remember there is a reason they are called "ex's"
2006-11-28 06:27:29 · answer #7 · answered by Get_R_Done_n_Dallas 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make it official. There's other ways your man can satisfy you. Just keep touching and feeling.
2006-11-28 06:27:30 · answer #8 · answered by peanut44 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make what official?
Sounds like you already have. The relationship is officially over.
2006-11-28 06:23:33 · answer #9 · answered by peter n 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, even if it is just sex, if sex is important to you at all then no you shouldn't get back with him. Especially if you think you may resort to cheating to satisfy yourself.
2006-11-28 06:28:23 · answer #10 · answered by hot like me 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋