I have been with my boyfriend for almost a year. In the begining he was perfect. He use to come and see me all the time and always call me. Now he comfortable and makes me feel as thought he doesn't want me around anymore. When I say something to him he always turns it aroun like it is all me. He is starting to be verbally abusive to me also and then he says he is just joking. It hurts me to hear this and when I say that he tells me I am too sensitive. I have children from my first husband and he likes three of them but he acually came out the other day and told me he can not stand my oldest. I told him if he doesn't like my child then he needs to go. That also was a joke he said. He comes straight out and tells me he will never marry me and things like that. I am truely in love with him but I feel like it is a one way street. How can I get through this hard time. What do I say to him or what do I do. The tought of being without him kills me.
2006-11-28 06:19:15 · 19 answers · asked by beany B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It does sound like you are on a way relationship headed to nowheresville. I think you should leave. If he came right out and told you he's not going to marry you why stay? He's not your last chance for love, there are plenty of men out there, do sell yourself short.
2006-11-28 06:24:55 · answer #1 · answered by bellbottombleus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are worried about being alone if you decide to kick him out. The most important thing is for you to feel comfortable without a man, that way, when you meet someone new, you will be with him because you want to be, not because you feel you have to be. No matter what, this guy has to go.
2006-11-28 14:27:52 · answer #2 · answered by topspin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like the thought of staying with him is killing you too. So if either choice is going to be extremely difficult, why not make the choice that is the best for your kids? Sometimes the right choice that we can't make for ourselves is more easily made on behalf of others (like our children).
Is it good for them to see you treated this way or be unhappy in this relationship? It is good for them to have this man as a role model for how to treat women or how to be treated as a woman? Only you can answer these questions and make this choice. And sometimes it isn't about right or wrong, it's about the lesser of two evils.
2006-11-28 14:30:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't live your life like this, he is not serious, you can't even tell where he is coming from. The child issue should tell you something. and if he is not serious about you then, he is just wasting your time. You need to take a long hard look at yourself! and realize what you want out of life, for you and your children!
2006-11-28 14:26:06 · answer #4 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to him about how you feel, and make sure it's clear. Address how the relationship has changed over how he himself has changed; he'll probably be less defensive that way. Maybe he doesn't know how he's changed. Heck, maybe you've changed somewhat too and can't see it. If talking doesn't help, and couples counseling doens't help, then if it's still a one-way street you need to leave him. Because at that point if you stay with him then you're *choosing* to be unhappy.
2006-11-28 14:30:28 · answer #5 · answered by BobbyDodd77 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will get over him. I think u should dump him. The old saying there are more fish in the sea is true. U do have children to think about. Boyfriends can come and go but children are forever.
2006-11-28 14:23:29 · answer #6 · answered by missgigglebunny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how can you be in love with him after he's talks to you and your children like that. don't fall for the line that he's just joking...there's more to it than that. he might be insecure about himself, and looks at your confidence,and tries to distroy it. don't let him do that to you. u can find another love. you said that he needs to go....do you support him? is he living with you and your children...if that's the case he needs to show you way more respect...or get rid of the man. he's not good for you nor your emotional well being!
2006-11-28 14:23:36 · answer #7 · answered by Snki55ed Princess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though you think it would kill you to be without him, you would make it. Even better than you have it! Ok, you "love" him, honestly I think I could only "love" a person that respects me and makes me happy. You should go get yourself a real man, that will treat you right, protect you, and maybe even shower you and your kids with gifts. You deserve it!
2006-11-28 14:26:06 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
being with him could kill you you know in your heart you need to leave and with children involved its wrong not to if you have no where else to go try a home for battered women and children either way do yourself and more importantly your children a favor, say goodbye and don't look back god bless
2006-11-28 14:23:49 · answer #9 · answered by marion r 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out of that relationship and find someone who will appreciate you. You deserve better. Get out before you or your kids get hurt. There are plenty of fish in the sea. Set your goals higher and don't settle for less.
2006-11-28 14:23:17 · answer #10 · answered by lbuajlw 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋