Eli and I have been dating for almost 3yrs. the weird thing is that we have never seen each other in person!!!!. I sent him pictures of me and he's sending me pics as well, but we are madly in love with each other. The biggest problem: He's in Florida, I'm in Alabama. I'm graduating high school this year and going to college to become a Pediatric Nurse, while he owns his own construction business. I want to marry him now, but we need to get things straightened out financially. I love him and he loves me and we will not lose contact never again, but it has been a long time and we seriously need to make a decision. What should we do? Please help!!!
2006-11-28 06:04:38 · 26 answers · asked by sassyfox2007 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Love is strange and many times so are the ironic circumstances that go with it. Have either one of you thought about relocating? Don't pass off going to Nursing School to get married, because 'financially' if you get married, something might happen and you never make it back to that path. Try looking for a good nursing program nearer to him, meet in person and get to know each other in the physical sense while you go to school. It's easier to locate a school than to up-root a business. You don't have to rule out marriage because of finances completely. 15 years or so ago I used to hear people say when I can afford it, I'll settle down and have kids. Honey if we had to wait until we could afford love or children, 90% of the world would be single and baren. And if this is love of the truest form you two share with each other, grant it, it has been three years, but if you get your careers and finances in order then the wait for marriage will be worth it. If he truly loves he will wait for you. Look at it this way, If you marry now/soon you will be so wrapped up in wedding plans, then honeymoonitis (newleywed feeling) lasts for at least 6 months to a year. And by that time you could end up pregnant before you have the chance to start or even finish nursing school. These are lots of big 'IF's' to consider but things I would think about along with finances before making a snap decission. Good Luck and Congratulations on everything!
2006-11-28 06:31:57 · answer #1 · answered by MrsPTB4Life 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No offense.... if you haven't met in person you can't really be in love.... well maybe. He's starting a new life and you are as well. Odds are it won't last unless you figure out how to be together now. But if you really want to be with him and he wants to as well.... he should think about joining the military. He does construction so he obviously could do the basic training part. He could get trained to be a nurse or something medical related. Atfter a short stint he would have all kinds of money to go to school and qualify for grants, looks great on a resume and such to pursue his career. But more importantly if you guys got married he would have a steady job, you could be together erasing the being so apart thing.
2006-11-28 14:59:33 · answer #2 · answered by jackson 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should meet in person before you do anything else. Pictures are one thing but up close and personal is something else. I mean, you've never kissed this man, held his hand, smelled his stinky feet, seen his different expressions...there's more to someone than just what they choose to tell you in an email or whatever. Meet him. If you still feel the same, make a decision then. For now, focus on yourself and your own life and don't be in such a rush to get married. It's harder than you think.
2006-11-28 14:08:14 · answer #3 · answered by Dr. Kat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoaaaa, you want to marry someone that you have never met in person ? I think you need to slow down and think twice. I know that you say you're in love but you can't truly know a person by only talking on line to them. The two of you need to spend some time together, then if you still feel the same, get married. My husband and I went out for several years before we were married, but believe me , living together made me realize how little we really knew about each other. Take your time, you are still young.
2006-11-28 14:13:14 · answer #4 · answered by LofanNui 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you need to meet this guy to see if it's for real... Anyone can send pictures of the internet like crazy and pretend to be someone they are not. Make sure he is a good person behind the computer as well as in person. Besides you are too young to be thinking about getting married!
2006-11-28 14:14:30 · answer #5 · answered by JeWel in the MakE! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're barely graduating???? And you've never seen eachother? Not to be mean, but it seems to me like you just want some sort of attention and affection. Unless you are a golddigger... but I think that you should wait and see what you really wanna do. There are too many people to meet first.
2006-11-28 14:08:35 · answer #6 · answered by me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break up and stop hiding on the computer. Get a real boyfriend in real life. Wasting your entire high school years on a computer with a boy you've never met is abnormal. You have no idea if those are really his pictures.
2006-11-28 14:08:08 · answer #7 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would at least see him 1 time! Just to be sure sweety. Because if you feel so close to him to marry, you should at least test the waters first. Especially since you've never seen him.
2006-11-28 14:08:13 · answer #8 · answered by redbone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont marry someone you have never actually met, you have probably only seen his good points, spend some time togther and get to know each other properly first, dont rush into anything
2006-11-28 14:08:02 · answer #9 · answered by Jayne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you guys really need to meet as a personal experience I thought I had feelings for a girl until I saw her. This guy could be lying or you could be...
2006-11-28 14:07:14 · answer #10 · answered by dallas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋