My boyfriend works in an office setting and of course in every office there is always that one "hott girl" everyone talks about. Well, he not only talks about her at work to the other guys he talks about her to me. She is married with children, but she has admitted to him she hasn't always been faithful to her husband. Sometimes I wish I could just say "shut up about her already" and go on about my life but I can't. It really bothers me that he talks about her constantly because he always works her name into every conversation we have. We've been together for a while now but I still have my doubts about him being faithful if she would be daring enough to give him a chance. I'm so lost on what to do I just can't let it go on much longer....Help!
2006-11-28 06:02:29 · 28 answers · asked by Emily M 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You definitely need to sit down and talk to him about the situation. Tell him that you do not feel comfortable talking about his co-worker with him because she has been unfaithful to her husband in the past and he always talks about how hot she is. Ask him not to talk about her in front of you because it is upsetting. Hopefully a heart to heart is all that you need to be reassured that he is comitted to you. Good Luck!
2006-11-28 06:08:28 · answer #1 · answered by Michelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do the same thing. About a guy friend of yours, start talking about him all the time and bringing him into conversations. Show him what he shows you. If you dont wanna do that then just leave the jerk. Talking about another hot girl to ur buddies in one thing, but talking about it to ur girlfriend is just stupid. He might already be cheatin so becareful. Just tell him that he needs to shut his mouth and that u dont want to hear that ****, if he dont like it just let him go... he aint worth the trouble. Trust me, been there, done that.... its not worth the stress.
2006-11-28 14:13:21 · answer #2 · answered by Ash420Granito 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speak your mind my friend. I have that same problem, but only difference is, he's in Florida, i'm in Alabama. We've been dating for almost 3yrs now. Don't lose ur man honey.. If u have to put your foot down, put it down HARD!!!! Let him know u are not a jealous chic, but it's unfair to u.. how would he feel if u talked about a sexy guy at your workplace?!!! U know a guy's reaction.... try that and see if it works..
2006-11-28 14:09:08 · answer #3 · answered by sassyfox2007 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't trust him let him go.
Trust is to vital so why enter or worse continue in a relationship where there's no trust. You wouldn't drive a car without gas, why be in a relationship without trust?
What you need to do is stop asking if he's cheating and honestly ask why you can't trust him. If that can't be negotiated, dump him now and find a guy you can totally trust.
2006-11-28 14:06:56 · answer #4 · answered by simm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes talking to you about her because he wants you to know. which is kinda a good thing. guys usually dont mention theyre prospects to their partner.. and im pretty sure if theres a man at your office with a perfect body and a 6 figure salary, youd probably cheat on your boyfriend. all remarks aside, seriously. just give it up to him. i know alot of women are hell bent on being swept away but after a while a guy wants what a guy wants. give him sex. plenty of it. give him sex till he cant anymore. i bet he wont have the energy to go and try it with another girl/ after that. good luck
2006-11-28 14:07:31 · answer #5 · answered by tweakk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You talk about your "boyfriend" as though he was your husband. Is this someone you're having sex with or living with? If so, you really have nothing and there's no way in heck this guy is ever going to be loyal. There's no commitment and most relationships today are just really shallow. I suspect that this is one of them.
2006-11-28 14:06:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing you can do if he is going to do it you will not be able to stop him. I would tell him it bothers you that he talks about her all the time let him know because maybe he will think about not hurting you and keep his mind on you more often. It would be good to know how he handles this before marriage.
2006-11-28 14:08:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you absolutely CAN tell him you don't want him to talk about her to you...and if he mentions her in conversation, get up and go elsewhere...you're an adult, you don't have to listen to anything you don't want to from your partner...
And if you are so convinced he'd cheat, then why are you with him? If you don't have trust, you're missing a big part of the foundation of your relationship...
Talk to him about this issue and resolve it, or consider moving on...if only for your own peace of mind...
2006-11-28 14:06:15 · answer #8 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's when u tell him to cut the crap! And tell him that u don need ta know about another girl...tell him if he's happy with u then he needs to stop worryin about her...it's either her or u..he has to pick one...and tell him u can't trust him enough...and a relationship ain't nothin without trust! Talk to the girl...One of my ex-boyfriends...when we dated he kept talking about the same girl over and over again..i told him to cut the BS and shut up about her or it's over! I warned him and what did he do...he did it again so...i dumped him...he is still n love with the same girl...glad i let him go....
2006-11-28 14:12:13 · answer #9 · answered by BurgNavigator 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why can't u tell him want u wish for u told us why not him?u wish u could tell him "shut up" about her. u need to look at yourself on this one. are you afraid to tell him? you sound like it. the question your asking, you already know. ask yourself why would this women tell your boyfriend she cheats on her husband? and why doe's your boyfriend tell you about her? he got's the hots for this women. you need to tell him on how u feel and think. and he's going to come back with some bullshit and turn it on u. don't be afraid to speak up. you have these doubts for a reason and he gave them to u. remember when he turns the table on u always remember he give u these doubts u didn't wake up one morning and they just pop out of your head. speak up dear. u need to read self help books. read Ten Stupid Things Women Do to Mess Up Their Lives and for both of u read Ten Stupid Things Couples Do to Mess Up Their Relationships by Dr. Laura C. Schlessinger there easy books to read and very easy to understand u can find them in most major book stores.
2006-11-28 14:27:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋