how do i handle my kindergarteners bad report from school?

Question

Just got a call from my sons teacher and said that he has not been listening well in school, talking back, saying inappropriate things, not keeping his hands to him self. how do i handle this at home so that he behaves better at school? should i follow up with the teacher later and see if it's gotten better?

Answer 1

First of all most kids as a kindergartener children tend to be very excited about school. Sit down with your child and explain to him that it is very important to pay attention in school...maybe he likes to be read to?...tell him that if he pays attention that he will be able to read faster. Mention the good things. Also let him know that by not acting nice at school he is going to make the teacher and other students (friends of his) sad. They are going to have less time to do the fun stuff also he is going to end up missing recesses and fun things that he could've been a part of.
As for handling it at home...start a journal with the teacher if it is okay with the teacher. She can start and all she has to say is John was a good boy at school today. I seen great improvement. He only said one inappropriate thing or only talked back once...then you write back to the teacher so that she knows that you seen her note. On your reply you might say thanks for letting me know. I have talked to him. Hopefully tomorrow will be a better day.
For each time that you and the teacher see and write in it. He gets a sticker. For everytime that the teacher says that he didn't do anything wrong he gets an additional sticker. This way you get to see the book. He will try to make sure that it gets home. Have a calendar in a location where he is going to walk by it several days. Get some stickers. Stars at Wal-Mart work great. Let him put them on the calendar. Make it so that at first he gets something every Friday. Let him pick out an inexpensive toy at Wal-Mart. Give him the money, let him pay for it, let him keep the change. This should help. Good luck.

Answer 2

Do you have time to go into his class and help out? I've always helped in my 8 year olds classes and he's only been in trouble once. What is he hearing at home? Is he hearing inappropriate things at home or on TV? He has to be hearing it somewhere. Could be at school too.

Ask the teacher if she can send home a note with a happy or sad face. That way your son is accountable each day. Make a chart. For every happy face give him a sticker. Then when he has say ten stickers give him a small reward. Reward systems seem to work really well. I knew of a child who's parents did this and it really changed the childs attitude. Does he get enough attention at home? Maybe that's why he's acting out so much at school...I would always follow up with the teacher. Everyday when I pick my boy up from school I ask how he behaved at school. That way he knows I care about his behaviour and education. These are very serious issues to me. The one thing we can give our children that will long last past toys and stuff is an education. It's up to you to make sure he does well. This is his future we are talking about. Take this seriously. It's obvious you do already since you are reaching out for help. Remember you are not a bad parent, the child just needs a bit of a readjustment.

Answer 3

As a kindergarten instructor, i think that a 5 year previous can't deal with an complete day plus an extra 3 hours. We move from 8:00 to three:10 and some (not many) of my kiddos stay actively engaged all day. We absolutely have a twenty minute recess and a thirty minute lunch. except that, we are in complete lecturers all day. it isn't developmentally perfect for a 5 - 6 year previous to be predicted to study for 9 hours an afternoon with little time for loose play. i for my section desire this new initiative would not materialize. i imagine lots of our scholars ought to hit a wall and under no circumstances favor to study.

Answer 4

This matter needs to be taken seriously. If your son is acting out in Kindergarten, it will only get worse if nothing is done. The most important thing to remember is the parents need to be on the teacher's side in order to get the best results. Your son needs to know you would not tolerate that behavior at home and his teacher will not tolerate it at school. My daughter had a boy in her class who acted out they way your son has. His parents disciplined him at home by taking away things important to him. They also started sending a notebook back and forth between them and the teacher to keep daily tabs on his behavior. They were able to keep on top of bad behavior on a day to day basis. He was rewarded for good behavior by getting back something that had been taken away. Children learn from repetition. By being consistent in your discipline, he will learn there are consequences for acting out in school and will be less likely to continue. Just keep in mind that the change will not be over night, and will take a lot of love and patience.

Of course, if you feel your child can not deal with his emotions on his own, take him to your pediatrician.

I hope this helps....I know it helped my daughter's classmate and his parents.

Answer 5

hi,
this is a good guestion, first of all this is already suppose to start at home, therfore you need to talk to your child and see what the problem in school is. on the other hand, when you and your child are at home and he gets out of line you let him no, look you can't be doing this because it's bad. also don't let your child talk to you anykind of way, because if they talk to you any way what do you think he is going to say to the teacher. Just give it time it also might just be that phase, so just put your foot down just a little bit.

Answer 6

I have a son that just got into trouble awhile back and he is 6, he has always been out spoken but he wrote some bad words on his paper work and so i was really pissed but he just would not tell the truth so i punished him and sent him to his room.But what i think you need to do is try to figure out why he may be acting out in these ways cause with my son i found that there seems to always be something going on in his head that causes him to feel and act out like that.

Answer 7

Teach him to behave at home, and he'll do so out in the public. and yes, follow up with teacher. Now is the time to nip this stuff in the butt before it gets out of hand.

Answer 8

positive and negative re-inforcement. If you need to go to the school and sit in the bakc of the class to ensure that your child is being properly educated and not hitting other kids then do it.

Answer 9

try talking to him in a way that he understands. let him know that your not mad but tell him that its not right to talk to his teacher like he does and remind him to be respesctful. then follow up with the teacher atleast once a week.