She left when i was 12 and i turned 13 nov 22 and she wasn't there she ment this guy on the internet and she just got on a plane and left .... I dont know who to stay with.... And i cant do both becasue I live in Pennsylvania and thats like Cali along way away.. My dad wants me to stay here adn her boyfriend and my mom wants me down there im soo sconfused i dont know what to do please somebody help im sooo depressed about it all and not even my counsler can tell me what to do ......
2006-11-28 05:26:49 · 14 answers · asked by BangBangyourdead13 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Look sweetie your young & shouldnt be having to make these kind of decisions but since you do have to make it why dont you go someplace quiet & think who's there for you, who are you happy with, who wants you because they care for you & who wants you to hurt the other...I think you should just stay with whoever makes you the happiest... does your Dad treat you well? Is living with him ok I mean he's a good Dad? those kind of things . I say if you like where you are stay there but if your not happy maybe give Mom a shot as long as Mom & her new BF are settled & its safe for you there but dont go to Mom just because she wants you there this is your choice & dont you dare think its your fault this has nothing to do with you , Im sure your Mom & Dad both love you very much good luck
2006-11-28 05:35:09 · answer #1 · answered by AC 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I think you should stay with your dad. Mom (no offense intended here now) seems a bit flaky at the moment. if she met this guy on the internet who's to say how long the relationship will last. You shouldn't have to chose at your age, no wonder you're depressed, that would stress me out no matter what. Stay with dad and just visit your mom for now until things smooth out. Your life in PA is what you've known and until things calm down, stay put, let the dumb ole adults work out their situations (I'm 35 so I know we adults can be idiots too). All you should be worrying about right now is getting through school so you can become a healthy and functioning adult yourself. Good luck and try not to worry so much. Things always work out and what happens today will probably seem silly to you in 5 years.
2006-11-28 05:36:09 · answer #2 · answered by koral2800 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, your mom left you. Stay with your dad. You never know. Your mom might come back and live in the same town.
If she does, then think about staying with her but dont immediately decide now.
She left you just like my mother left me and my sister but she ended up coming back. Just chill with your dad. This will give you time to connect and work through the pain of your mom ditching you for some guy.
2006-11-28 05:33:16 · answer #3 · answered by sweetthang16_2004 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It isn't right what your Mom did but it's worse that she's dragging you into it so she can fool herself into thinking everythings peachy.
I'd suggest since you have friends and a more stable situation with your Dad that you stay with him for now at least. Tell your Mom that you'd rather wait until summer vacation and then come for a visit and see how you'd like it.
That way you will have time in both places to see for yourself where you belong.
My heart goes out to you...this isn't what a 13 yo should be having to deal with. You should be being the kid not making adult decissions for your parents.
2006-11-28 06:05:37 · answer #4 · answered by idiot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay with your dad. He sounds like the stable influence you need through your next few years. You Mom sounds pretty selfish and flighty. Give her time to work out her own problems before getting involved with them. Why would she want to put you in a situation with a boyfriend that she hardly even knows? That is irresponsible on her part and not safe for you. Way to many crazy, sexual predators out there. Play it safe for at least a while. When you see how things really are with your mom then you can rethink your decision.
2006-11-28 05:32:06 · answer #5 · answered by Answergirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom left you for a man??!! That is absolutely horrible and I am so sorry for what you must be going through.
Is your father good to you? Do you feel safe and secure with him? If so, stay with him! I know it is hard being pulled both ways, but you don't owe your mom anything right now. She made the choice to leave you behind when she ran to this other man. The consequences are hers to suffer, and one of those is not having you in her life! You can visit her, talk to her on the phone and email her, but I think you will be happier staying with your dad!
Good luck to you
2006-11-28 05:37:36 · answer #6 · answered by Kailey 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hey its normal to feel depress and confuse!! u should stay with ur dad for a will because ur mom met the guy in the Internet. then ur mom doesn't really know this guy. if u go to live with ur mom, ur new step-father might not like u and he will say a lot of mean things or even fight u. ur mom might even go back with ur dad. don't worry every thing is going to be okay!! Things happen for a reason!!!
2006-11-28 06:07:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay with your dad. She's the one who left you and your father....so leave her there with her boy toy. This must be so hard on you both. Just take one day at a time. Stay with your dad so he doesnt feel like he has lost everything....go visit your mom during the summer
2006-11-28 05:30:58 · answer #8 · answered by cutiepie21106 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why not finish out the school year in PA and go visit mom on your summer vacation. If you decide you like it better there, you can mokve there for the next school year. Then see dad over the summer. You could even bounce back and forth like that if you want.
2006-11-28 05:55:37 · answer #9 · answered by bellbottombleus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all I think it's a selfish thing for your parents to do. Secondly you should really stay in an atmosphere that is going to benefit you the most. Get involved with a local church youth group. You can talk to the youth pastor about problems your facing.
2006-11-28 05:31:18 · answer #10 · answered by defenserocks41 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋