weel im 16 atm, but ever since joining secondary school, i was bullied from year7-8 because of my colour plus i was shy and have dropped in self-esteem and confidence. i've started sixth form and it's the first time in years since i've been to a mix school. do you think guys will like me and how can i attract them?i need hellp in gaining confidence, help!!
2006-11-28 05:20:44 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You're as good as you feel. I know it may sound stupid but if you feel good you really will look good. Your confidence will shine through. A new hot outfit always makes me feel good. It brings out more confidence.
2006-11-28 05:27:57 · answer #1 · answered by basmusiq 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every person your age has self esteem issues... even the confident one's!
How to deal with it? realize that no other person can make you feel a certain way. You have control over how you feel about yourself. Believing that, and understanding that, will give you confidence all by itself.
Other things you can do... Try to excel at things you have control over... Your school work should be #1. I know it sounds corny, but alot of people I knew growing up, that screwed around all the time and were the "cool kids" are now the people with low self esteems because they don't have an education, a good job, or make enough money. The kids that did good in school, have alot more confidence.
Add to that one or two sports that you enjoy.. and you're confidence will build over time.
As far as guys are concerned... the best thing you can do is be yourself. If they don't like you for who you are... they aren't worth your time. There's no reason for you to "change" to attract men.
2006-11-28 05:31:23 · answer #2 · answered by mj 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The important thing is not to let negative comments bring you down as that's how you'll land yourself back in the same position. Little things like holding a door for someone else, smiling at strangers, making small talk with those you see often but don't talk to. Being kind to others (and if they are kind back) will make you realize that you're not worthless and will make you feel good about yourself. Start from there. Go out often. Make friends with only those who will accept you as you are.
2006-11-29 11:54:38 · answer #3 · answered by Sunshine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
inorder for someone else to like you you have to like yourself you know but um honestly to build up yourself esteem you have to think like this, gonto mirror look at all you pros and cons all your faults and ally our good things it might be the smallest things that make you, you, you know so gain confidence in yourself and others will do the same hold your head up high learn how to pick your battles if it is a battle that you feel you need to fight with words or with fist then you do that but don't waste your time worrying about what these lil kids be sayign cause they are probably jealous so gain confidence in yourslef and everyone else will see the same in you
2006-11-28 05:27:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to develop your own confidence. Can't get if from anyone else. Once you figure yourself out the rest is easy.
2006-11-28 05:24:20 · answer #5 · answered by Answergirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont worry so much....let me tell you this people will like you for who you really are.....i was one of the popular girls back then...BUT I would still talk to the ones who werent popular...why because they didnt care, they were open minded, and the ones who were pretty and popular they were TOO FAKE...so really it doesnt matter how you look...as long as you keep yourself straight, never look down or look back....!!!! good luck...
p.s.
dont worry about what people think of you!!! and always keep your self-esteem up NO MATTER WHAT!!!
2006-11-28 05:26:50 · answer #6 · answered by *NANCY* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
uh, what 'color' are you? just be yourself, dont take everything that people say about you to heart.....you have to get a little tougher. that will come in due time.........you're 16, enjoy life, attend social events, once you do these things you will have confidence....
2006-11-28 05:28:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
love and forgive yourself, if you feel that you need forgiveness. we are only humans after all. not some super-gods that we have been led to believe we are. love and forgiveness are the root of all healing of this sad world we live in. paul
2006-11-28 05:42:33 · answer #8 · answered by inty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take yoga or bellydance or some kind of dance to increase your confidence and appeal.
2006-11-28 05:22:38 · answer #9 · answered by Sufi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, they don't sell it next to the Red bull....so its up to you.....you just gotta believe in yourself
2006-11-28 05:23:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋