She has a boyfriend and I told her I had a crush on her. She said "that's so sweet." Than gave me a hug. And the next day she flirted with me a little. I didn't flirt back I just played it cool. So the next day I saw her crying at work. Her friend told me that her boyfriend called and said mean things to her. So I went and bought her a friendly card to make her feel better. She said "thats sweet thanks" Next day she flirted with me a little again. I didn't flirt back.
We talk a lilttle. We ususally have a little small talk. You think I should tell her that she pretty and looks nice today everytime I see her. I don't want to push it. Is that going to far?
Heard her boyfriend makes her feel bad alot and makes her cry alot coming into work. I just don't get why she's staying with him.
I'm falling for her and I can't stop thinking about her. I don't see how i'm falling for her if I really don't know what she likes in life. All I know is I like her personality. She sweet and kind.
2006-11-28 05:19:25 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Were co-workers and she told me this morning she might leave cause other co-workers are being rude and mean to her. I told her don't quit let me talk to them. So I hope she doesn't quit. I would be sad if she quit. She said she will think about it and see me at work Tuesday. I don't talk to her much at school or work really. I'm pretty much shy. I'm trying to come out of my shell. At work I pretty much ignore her because she has a boyfriend and I don't want to come on to her. I think she is losing interest in me. She doesn't flirt with me or talk to me really. I think I push her away. Is it too late? What should I do?
She's 17 and i'm 18
I will see her tomorrow at work.
2006-11-28 05:21:17 · update #1
here's the letter for her
Do you Remember where we first talk? We were talking in the break room at Winn-Dixie. Do you remember what we were talking about? We were talking about school,where we live, and what we like to do for fun. I can't remember where you live, but I do remember you saying you like to have fun with your friends. We both remember about the school conversation. I told you what I like to do for fun play video games and hang out with my friends. Now it's just hang out with my friends. Then, Dimitry had to ruin everything. "Aaron we need a cart round up please." Dimitry said. So I had to walk all the way to the front and tell him I was on break. Then, walk all the way back and before you know it break was over. I thought we had a good conversation. After you left I felt something. I started to like you. So everytime when you talk to me I get butterflies and feel tigly inside. Remember on Tuesday I was shopping and they asked me if I want to come in? I said no,
2006-11-28 05:22:34 · update #2
but when I got home I gave Winn-Dixie a call and told John Morgan i'm coming in. He was pretty happy. I remember you asked me why did I decide to come in. I told you I needed the money. Which that was a lie sorry, but I couldn't tell you the truth until later on. I'm ususally an honest guy to girls. I don't lie to girls really. The real truth why I came in was because, I enjoy your company and have a crush on you and still do. When you told me you might get another job I was sad. You're such a sweet,kind, and caring person.
Many Blessings
2006-11-28 05:23:01 · update #3
damnnnnnnnn! you should talk to her and tell her how you feel about everything!
2006-11-28 05:22:10 · answer #1 · answered by crazylady1193 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your best bet is to be there for her as a friend. Trying to create a romantic relationship with her right after a breakup with mentally abusive person is bad business. Give her time to heal her own wounds and be her shoulder to cry on. In that time you will have more of a chance to learn about her as a person, and then you will see whether or not the two of you would be compatible. She needs support more than anything right now, and trying to be in a relationship right away can only end in disaster. It's better to start when you are both in the right frame of mind, not when she is thinking about all the horrible things her ex put her through. In any case, even if you find that she is not the kind of person you would date, you may still make a good friend.
Good luck!
2006-11-28 05:27:08 · answer #2 · answered by stase 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
SLOW DOWN my friend. I know u like (well lust) her, but take it easy. Get to know her first. That nice persona might just be a front for work. She could be a real *****. Im not sayin she is, but just weigh ALL the possibilities. Expect the worse so u wont be dissapointed when the worst happens. For starters, EVERY DAY try to have more than just "small talk" when u see her each day. Ask about her life(style), what her interests are, u know the basics. Then she will start to trust u and warm up to you, but dont fall into the "friend zone" where she'll just be telling u about different guys she talks to. You wanna be the guy shes talking about to her girlfriends saying how nice and understanding you are .
2006-11-28 05:34:10 · answer #3 · answered by Mass Appeal 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She seems too dramatic. Drama queens always seem to win my affection because like you I'm a nice guy. You have to get over the whole nice guy thing. Anyway when you write a letter to a girl don't go over the exact conversation that you've had once before. I'm pretty sure she wants to know how you feel about her just bluntly tell her that you enjoyed the conversation and since then you've wanted to be with her. It's a shame that she has a boyfriend and if anything happens between the two of them then you want to be next in line.
2016-05-22 22:38:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you could do for her is help her realize that she is with a jerk. And if and when she realizes that, if you still like her, just help her get through that and over him before trying to make your move. A relationship starting right after another break up, especially from an emotionally abusive relationship will never last and will be doomed to fail. You dont want to be the rebound guy. ((if you really like her, you dont))
2006-11-28 05:21:48 · answer #5 · answered by Barbi 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Steal her away from the jerk boyfriend, encourage her to ignore the co-workers and concentrate on doing her own job.
You do not need to know all about a person to fall in love. Spice of life is learning about each other as you grow older together.
Good luck!
2006-11-28 05:29:15 · answer #6 · answered by menndebi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ahh thats so sweet..I wish I had someone like you right now..to make me feel better..my guy has been treating like sh*t too...today he piss me off and now I cant stop crying...if you really like her then stay by her side...like you said you dont want to over do it..she has not quite gotten rid of her guy yet..keep being nice to her..soon she will realize that she needs to dump him and get with you..make small talk..tell her if she needs someone to talk to then she can give you a call..usually I will write alot but like I said today i am in the dumps..I am very depressed
2006-11-28 05:26:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe tell her those things once in awhile, not everyday. what you do want to do though is continue to have casual conversation with her and things will eventually lead to something.....No, you arent going too far, you are just showing her that someone really cares about her but like i said, you dont want to sound too moushy and cheesy so dont give her compliments everyday unless there is a conversation
2006-11-28 05:23:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Flirt back with her and talk to her.. You are sending her mixed messages when you do something sweet then don't flirt back with her when she is flirting with you.... your confusing her. maybe if she knew that you liked her that much and want a relationship with her. then maybe she will leave her boyfriend for you. so talk to her and see where you two stand.. Don't lead her on if your not serious about it. ok .
2006-11-28 05:25:13 · answer #9 · answered by gamustanggirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
use the boyfriend thing to your advantage but dont start going over board with the niceness you want her to view you as a possible next bf not a new best friend it is also good that you dont firt try and keep your distance
2006-11-28 05:23:21 · answer #10 · answered by sevenandahalf7 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It is never going too far by paying someone a compliment. Good Luck!
2006-11-28 05:22:38 · answer #11 · answered by Michelle 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋